I am so heartbroken..

[FinallyMrsBeckermann]

Well I don't have much family left.. or well lets say family that I talk to anymore. I don't even get along with my Mother (because she is completely insane). The only person in my family (other than my brothers) that I am close to is my Aunt who lives in Flordia.

Right before she was about to confirm everything to go to our DW, her and her husband decided it was time to get a divorce.. So she was going through all that and unable to come to the DW, which was understandable. But promised that she would make it the AHR. I just now get an e-mail saying that she can't make it because her and her new boyfriend are spending all their money on renting a house and can't afford to come. Not only does it break my heart that the only family member I get along with isn't going to be at at least my AHR, but I have to say it pisses me off as well because she COULD come alone and not bring her boyfriend to save money. Oh and not to mention the fact that I had decided not to get a professional photographer for the reception because she said she would do it for me.. So not only am I out her being there but I'm screwed because I have no photographer at all!!!!

AHHHH!!!

[lucy106]

I am so sorry to hear that! That just straight up blows!!! Could you maybe suggest that to her? Ask her to come alone and explain how you really wanted her to come? Family just sucks sometimes!

[becks]

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this! Have you tried talking with her to see if you can convince her to come?

[beachbride08]

That stinks! I'm not sure when your AHR is, but maybe you could start calling around to see if any photographers have your date available. Maybe there are some that have had cancellations or something. If not, maybe another relative or friend wouldn't mind taking pictures for you.

[FinallyMrsBeckermann]

I havn't gotten a chance to really talk to her... I am just in pure shock at the moment though.. This was the last thing I expected, esp. from her..

[FinallyMrsBeckermann]

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Originally Posted by beachbride08 That stinks! I'm not sure when your AHR is, but maybe you could start calling around to see if any photographers have your date available. Maybe there are some that have had cancellations or something. If not, maybe another relative or friend wouldn't mind taking pictures for you.

Our AHR is March 8th... A few months back I had check with the only photographer in my town and she was already booked for that day... I guess I will have to find a friend or someone who knows how to at least take a decent picture do it.. I am an avid hobby photographer myself .. wish I could have an out of body experience and take my own photos!!

[Betsy]

I am so sorry to hear this. I can't believe she emailed you to tell you! Have you talked with her about this over the phone or anything yet? Do you have your date for the AHR set? Do you think talking to her and telling her how hurt you are will help? I am sorry for you!!

[FinallyMrsBeckermann]

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Originally Posted by Betsy I am so sorry to hear this. I can't believe she emailed you to tell you! Have you talked with her about this over the phone or anything yet? Do you have your date for the AHR set? Do you think talking to her and telling her how hurt you are will help? I am sorry for you!!

Yeah, the date is completey set in stone.. Only a week and half away actually. So definitly no changing this. I told her how I felt but she still feels like she won't be able to make it. My husband and I even told her that we would allow her, her boyfriend, her 2 children & his son to stay with us to save on costs when they come up. Which is a big sacrafice because we only have a 2 bedroom house and it would probably be insane with 4 adults and 3 children in it..

[Yari]

I am so sorry this happened to you.

[stei0419]

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Originally Posted by FinallyMrsBeckermann I havn't gotten a chance to really talk to her... I am just in pure shock at the moment though.. This was the last thing I expected, esp. from her..

Oh, that stinks! I wonder if she knew how much it meant to you, if she'd make more of an effort? We had a similar situation w/ family-FI's brother was supposed to be the BM at our wedding and then totally flaked and isn't coming at all now, it was really disappointing...family can really suck sometimes!