A different twist - My FI is on weight watchers

[MissyR]

OK ladies - My FI would KILL me if he knew I was telling you all that he has been doing weight watchers for about three weeks now.... we are both finding it absolutely brutal.

 

He is sooo diligent, counts everything, measures everything (uses my measuring spoons and cups for sauces, peanut butter, etc) and plays hockey twice a week and works out at least another two) - but has only been losing 1 pound a week - I feel so bad that he is working sooo hard and not losing more - I feel guilty that I am not doing it with him - we eat healthy so for him this was more about portion control and beer and wine consumption..

 

I just feel sooo guilty. Like I am essentially slowing down his progress because I am not doing it - I feel like I eat my sweets when he isn't around (like now as I mow down on a pint of Ben and Jerry's and then hide the garbage so he doesn't fee bad)

 

Sorry for the rant ladies - Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated!

[Martha]

Is he drinking plenty of water? Is he taking vitamins?

 

Good for him gor wanting to do this though!!!

[*JillD*]

It may just take his body a little bit of time to really adjust and then I bet he'll start dropping pounds. Men usually lose really quickly.

 

He also might want to talk to his leader, is it possible that he may not be counting the points correctly?

 

For example, Progresso makes zero points soup. So if you eat a serving size, which is half a can it's zero points, but if you eat the whole can, I think its 1 or 2 points.

 

So, if he is eating more than one serving size at a time, but only calculating based on one serving, he could be consuming more points than he should be. does that make sense?

 

No real words of encouragement. It sucks to be dieting and have your SO be able to eat whatever they want, my DH always wants to eat bad stuff to and sometimes I'm okay, but other times I end up breaking down. I guess the only words of advice I could give would be to try to suggest healthy foods for the two of you, so he doesn't feel left out.

[Saraha]

I wish I had some magical words to tell you, otherwise I would be a skinny minney. I guess keep going maybe his body is just taking longer than normal to adjust. BUT good for him for putting all the effort into it, thats awesome!

[michelle08]

I can feel for him..it's not fun at all to work so hard and not loose that much! However I guess we have to celebrate what we have lost and not what we haven't. Anything is better than nothing I gues...

 

I have been at this diet/exercise thing for 7 weeks now and only down 7-8 lbs (fluctuate). Most of it was lost in the beginning...so my progress is halted! It's discouraging and I don't have answers...sorry..

 

I agree that he should talk to his leader and get some advice.

[lambert13]

I follow a WW program too. Karen is a paying member and I just piggyback on the Core Program that she is doing. If I am correct, the core program is very effective for men to lose weight. When I started it last year I lost almost 40 pounds within about 8 months. I gained almost all of it back due to medication I am taking, but it was not very hard at all to stick to that program.

 

He might want to ask about it. Its more about eating only healthy foods instead of portion control. I ate all the time and still lost weight.

[Karen]

A one to two pound weight loss per week is a desirable and healthy amount to lose. A lot of us want quick results (including me) but that's not how it works. There are some weeks that I do everything right and I gain a pound. Then there are other times I lose weight when I totally fell off the wagon. Tell DH to look at it this way.....if her loses a pound a week for a year, thats 52 pounds. I agree with Jay that he may want to look into the WW Core program. I was more successful with that then Flex because it forced me to eat healthier food then on Flex. I could get away with eating more junk on flex than I could on core. One guy in my group was losing 4 to 5 pounds a week but he was a pretty big guy. If your FH doesn't have that much to lose, that may account for what he is losing now. Besides, like my leader says.....it took time to put the weight on, it's going to take time to take the weight off.

[Rhonda]

YES! I totally agree! Losing 1-2# per week IS desirable and everyone loses weight at different rates. I think the important thing is that he develops a healthy eating and exercise regime that he can stick with!!! Most people can lose the weight, but, the key is keeping it off! I'm sure he has a goal in mind, but, who cares if he gets there in 1 month or 6 months!?? It takes time to change poor eating choices just as it took to develop.

I give him props for trying and it sounds like he's doing great so far!

[gkashmira]

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Originally Posted by Melissa Radolli OK ladies - My FI would KILL me if he knew I was telling you all that he has been doing weight watchers for about three weeks now.... we are both finding it absolutely brutal. He is sooo diligent, counts everything, measures everything (uses my measuring spoons and cups for sauces, peanut butter, etc) and plays hockey twice a week and works out at least another two) - but has only been losing 1 pound a week - I feel so bad that he is working sooo hard and not losing more - I feel guilty that I am not doing it with him - we eat healthy so for him this was more about portion control and beer and wine consumption.. I just feel sooo guilty. Like I am essentially slowing down his progress because I am not doing it - I feel like I eat my sweets when he isn't around (like now as I mow down on a pint of Ben and Jerry's and then hide the garbage so he doesn't fee bad) Sorry for the rant ladies - Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated!

Actually I think it's normal that he's only losing about 1 pound a week right now. This exact thing just happened to me! I restarted about mid-January and even though I was doing well I was barely losing anything at all for the first couple of weeks and then all of a sudden it was at 2 pounds a week. To be honest he shouldn't really even by trying to lose more than 2 pounds a week - you know the slower you lose the weight the more likely you are to keep it off!

A few other thoughts - is it possible that he is not getting enough to eat? Is he using his 35 flex points? This is pretty unlikely (it's more likely that his body is just adjusting).

I think as long as he sees 1 pound a week he's doing great! As my WW leader always tells us - "you didn't gain the weight in a week so you can't expect to lose it in a week!" It's slow, it's hard and it sucks sometimes. But as long as he can really find food he likes and can control portions it becomes a lot easier. And keep in mind that while some things are healthy it doesn't mean that they're low calorie! Just be extra careful with oils (even olive and canola) because there tons of secret calories hidden in everything!

And if nothing changes and he really gets frustrated maybe he should try core? A lot of people love it. For me it's harder than just counting points but with a supportive FI like you by his side it sounds like changing the type of food in the house won't be such a struggle. Just keep that Ben & Jerry's hidden!

[Kristy!]

They changed the points about a year ago and men now have more. My man ignored that and stuck to the original amount of points he had. If it worked previously, why change it?