how do i change my bridal party?

[Sandra E.]

Let them know you want the bridal party to be about family and invite them to be your guests of honor.

[anniem]

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Originally Posted by tlomlad thing is im not that close with the 2girls that our currently on my bridal party... one night we were all out having cocktails and i was crying cause my family wasnt going to go to Cancun and they somewhat offered and i accepted them as bridesmaids... its complicated

Here's my 2 cents: Since the girls in a sense "came to your rescue", even though your aren't close, I wouldn't exclude them from your bridal party. It means a lot to me that they volunteered. I would tell them that your sisters are now able to attend the wedding and that they will be your MOH, BM, etc. I would allow the friends to opt out of their obligations by saying that you are very thankfull that they stepped up to your rescue and would fully understand if they wanted to take the guest route at your wedding instead of being a part of the bridal party. Let it be their choice to back out. If you aren't close them, they are either very excited to be a part of your bridal party, or they are now thinking "oh my god why did I tell her I would be her BM?"

Again..just my opinion.

[Samantha S]

That is tough!! I have to agree with Anniem-- plan on keeping them but give them the opportunity to 'opt out' if they want. I have way more BM's than I initially wanted because of feeling 'obligated' to have a few of them. Speaking of etiquette-- one of my BM's has insisted on being in my wedding since I've known her and I really wouldn't have without that pressure--very awkward. I just gave in and have a bunch because it's not a big enough deal to me to risk hurting people's feelings. Don't get me wrong, they are all my close friends but I would rather have 3 or 4, I feel like Bridezilla.