Confessions

[skadow]

 

Originally Posted by msmarmar123 

I hope no one judges me for this one, or thinks I'm too freaking selfish and awful for words...

But..this is something that I could never say out loud to anyone so..here I go...

 

My confession is that I can't believe I didn't get anything when my father passed away last year.  I wasn't expecting a huge amount of $$ and I know his business wasn't doing well..and now my step-mom is actually having to sell their 2 mortgage condo...but I was his Baby Girl...and the fact that there was nothing at all left in the will for me...upsets me....

 

I will definitely be confessing more later....

Who did he leave it to if you dont mind me asking? This interests me for some reason. I guess I maybe because I can understand why you would be upset. I would be horribly confused if it was me. Did he atleast leave you some treasured family rock or old cabinet?
 

[skadow]

My confussion is that...

 

As I have posted here before....a lot of my inlaws and FI wanted certain people to stand up in our wedding, including children. I did not want this. I strongly dislike kids that arnt related to me. Also I am not even close with any of these people...

 

So...I cancelled the whole bridal party thing on both side. Mwahaha.

 

Take that. If people are going to make a deal about who stands up and who doesnt. No one but ME will stand up! Cuz its MY wedding and I say so! HA!

 

I really am finding this hilarous because I personally could care less if I had a bridal party or not. And I have not been happier about a wedding desicion yet.

[**Kat**]

I agree that it is crazy what people request that they really have NO PLACE requesting for your wedding! It is your day and you can do what you please! Well done!

[msmarmar123]

I really wasn't left anything...whatever money he did have (which I really don't think was a lot at all..as his business wasn't doing so great and there were 2 mortgages on the condo). Basically I think my step-mom got it all...I've never even the will..

I'm the unselfish one in my family...my sister flipped out over all this...she never got along with my step-mom and thought it was all a crazy conspiracy...

I know he had nothing....but still...there had to be something...

He didn't even really have anything super fancy or expensive...I got an old watch that he used to wear all the time and I might get his wedding ring...I want to see if I can somehow make it into something that I can wear all the time...we'll see....

Originally Posted by skadow 

 

Who did he leave it to if you dont mind me asking? This interests me for some reason. I guess I maybe because I can understand why you would be upset. I would be horribly confused if it was me. Did he atleast leave you some treasured family rock or old cabinet?
 

[msmarmar123]

I adore that you said you strongly dislike kids that aren't related to you...I totally agree!!!

It's your wedding...all eyes on you...you shouldn't even need to explain that to anyone!
 

Originally Posted by skadow 

My confussion is that...

 

As I have posted here before....a lot of my inlaws and FI wanted certain people to stand up in our wedding, including children. I did not want this. I strongly dislike kids that arnt related to me. Also I am not even close with any of these people...

 

So...I cancelled the whole bridal party thing on both side. Mwahaha.

 

Take that. If people are going to make a deal about who stands up and who doesnt. No one but ME will stand up! Cuz its MY wedding and I say so! HA!

 

I really am finding this hilarous because I personally could care less if I had a bridal party or not. And I have not been happier about a wedding desicion yet.

[hat0112]

Good for you!!!! Don't let people tell you how your and your FI's wedding should be!
 

Originally Posted by skadow 

My confussion is that...

 

As I have posted here before....a lot of my inlaws and FI wanted certain people to stand up in our wedding, including children. I did not want this. I strongly dislike kids that arnt related to me. Also I am not even close with any of these people...

 

So...I cancelled the whole bridal party thing on both side. Mwahaha.

 

Take that. If people are going to make a deal about who stands up and who doesnt. No one but ME will stand up! Cuz its MY wedding and I say so! HA!

 

I really am finding this hilarous because I personally could care less if I had a bridal party or not. And I have not been happier about a wedding desicion yet.

[AshleyL]

So my MOH informed me last week that she is pregnant and most likely won't be attending my wedding. While part of me is thrilled for her, my confession is this:

 

I had a feeling from the beginning that she would find a way out of this. She was married last year and I did everything - planned the shower, hosted the bachelorette at my home, paid over $4000 to go to her wedding plus paid for dress, hair, everything. She didn't even get the BM's a thank you gift and I never got a thank you in person - just the thank you card for the shower/wedding gifts. Now it's finally my turn and I just feel so let down. She said she still wants to help with everything but I know that's not going to happen. Also I don't know what to do about asking someone else because they will know that they were second choice since I already announced my wedding party. And I can't ask anyone until she announces the pregnancy because I'm the only one who knows and I don't want to give it away. She doesn't want to say anything for 3 months! So that leaves 3 months until my wedding.

 

Sorry for the long rant. Part of me feels like a terrible friend for not just being 100% supportive and happy for her. But part of me is so tired of always being the great friend to everyone else and not getting anything in return.

[msmarmar123]

That sucks..I think you have every right to ask someone onse to be MOH if that's what you want to do....if people ask the reason..say current MOH is having money issues...or family issues or just no comment.  It's great that she's pregnant...but it's not about her....you were there for her...and if she cares about you and your feelings (and your wedding) she should get that.

 

Originally Posted by AshleyL 

So my MOH informed me last week that she is pregnant and most likely won't be attending my wedding. While part of me is thrilled for her, my confession is this:

I had a feeling from the beginning that she would find a way out of this. She was married last year and I did everything - planned the shower, hosted the bachelorette at my home, paid over $4000 to go to her wedding plus paid for dress, hair, everything. She didn't even get the BM's a thank you gift and I never got a thank you in person - just the thank you card for the shower/wedding gifts. Now it's finally my turn and I just feel so let down. She said she still wants to help with everything but I know that's not going to happen. Also I don't know what to do about asking someone else because they will know that they were second choice since I already announced my wedding party. And I can't ask anyone until she announces the pregnancy because I'm the only one who knows and I don't want to give it away. She doesn't want to say anything for 3 months! So that leaves 3 months until my wedding.

Sorry for the long rant. Part of me feels like a terrible friend for not just being 100% supportive and happy for her. But part of me is so tired of always being the great friend to everyone else and not getting anything in return.

[hat0112]

I am sorry about your MOH. I know how you feel. What if you ask one of your current bridesmaids to be your Maid of Honor and say that your pregnant friend is your Matron of Honor? And when your friend annouces she is pregnant you aleady have a MOH in place. That way your new MOH might not feel like a second choice.

 

Originally Posted by AshleyL 

So my MOH informed me last week that she is pregnant and most likely won't be attending my wedding. While part of me is thrilled for her, my confession is this:

I had a feeling from the beginning that she would find a way out of this. She was married last year and I did everything - planned the shower, hosted the bachelorette at my home, paid over $4000 to go to her wedding plus paid for dress, hair, everything. She didn't even get the BM's a thank you gift and I never got a thank you in person - just the thank you card for the shower/wedding gifts. Now it's finally my turn and I just feel so let down. She said she still wants to help with everything but I know that's not going to happen. Also I don't know what to do about asking someone else because they will know that they were second choice since I already announced my wedding party. And I can't ask anyone until she announces the pregnancy because I'm the only one who knows and I don't want to give it away. She doesn't want to say anything for 3 months! So that leaves 3 months until my wedding.

Sorry for the long rant. Part of me feels like a terrible friend for not just being 100% supportive and happy for her. But part of me is so tired of always being the great friend to everyone else and not getting anything in return.

[AshleyL]

Thanks for the advice ladies. I think I will ask someone else and just make up an excuse why my friend can't. I don't want to bump up my other BM to Moh because she is my FSIL and I just asked her to make FI happy - we aren't that close. And my other BM is a junior BM and she's only 12. You are right though I shouldn't have to wait for her to make the announcement I just need to move forward from this.