Confessions

[Kat81]

YAY Erin for reviving this thread!

 

 

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Originally Posted by Sloan I confess that my FMIL drives me crazy.   Why does she feel the need to text message me everyday to see if I want to hang out and do girlie things with her.... I dont hang out and do girlie things with my own mother, so why would I want to hang out and do girlie things with FMIL?? Grrr...

This just cracked me up!! Maybe she is just trying to get to know you better? Just feel lucky she isn't texting you everyday to tell you how awful you are for her son or some other crap!!

 

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Originally Posted by twotees1218 Oh the recurrent themes make me laugh......   - FI's 8 yr old daughter makes me crazy. Since when is 8 the new 13?!? she's ok after a day with us, but why is everyday starting from scratch with the attitude adjustment program? - I hate FI's ex wife - she causes most of the problem with the 8 yr old problem in the first place - why is she so stupid? -FI's sister IS the most self absorbed person I've ever met -FI's mother is the second most self absorbed person - funny sister and mother don't get along ?!?   I dream of being able to tell them all "shut the hell up, put a smile on your face and behave. It's our wedding. You may think we want to hear your stupid opinions and complaining, but we don't give a rat's ass!

HA HA HA DO IT!!! It is amazing the "packages" some of our loves come with right?

 

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Originally Posted by DallasAshli I love this thread. Thanks for reviving it Erin B! Here's my confession - sometimes I want to tell people (young women and brides included) to put your big girl panties on. The person making it so dramatic is you.   Edit - I didn't mean that to anyone specific on this thread! I'm just tired of hearing women whine and not take responsibility for their actions.

I totally agree!! Life is what you make of it... of course family can really make a wedding not so fun! But life in general " BUCK UP PEOPLE!!" ha ha ha

[Sloan]

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Originally Posted by DallasAshli I love this thread. Thanks for reviving it Erin B! Here's my confession - sometimes I want to tell people (young women and brides included) to put your big girl panties on. The person making it so dramatic is you. Edit - I didn't mean that to anyone specific on this thread! I'm just tired of hearing women whine and not take responsibility for their actions.

LOL. Big girl panties... haha I said that to someone the other day. Well put Dallas.

[BachataBride]

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Originally Posted by ErinB SO my second confession: I hated my engagement ring at first! It is a solitaire and it is so plain! I've gotten used to it now, but I felt so bad I couldn't tell FI that I wanted to take it back!

I am the opposite...I loved my e-ring at first. Now I dont' really care for it! It looks more like a fancy wedding band! I picked it out originally because I thought if I had to hold out for the one I wanted I would never get it!! To give the background...FI did an impromptu proposal without a ring so we went ring shopping together after the fact. It had been 3 months after the proposal and I still didn't have a ring. I found a beautiful ring in a store, it fit so I walked out with it on my finger! I love the ring still...I just wish I had something more (maybe that's selfish!). To top it off it is an odd shape & requires a custom wedding band. Well, because we are buying a house (our first house!) so close to the wedding date we cannot afford to get a custom one made. The plan is to get a simple, plain wedding band for the time being & get my custom band for our first year anniversary. Sure...no prob. But is it even worth getting the custom one done if I don't really care for the ring anymore? I did pick out an amazing band by the way though. It is a sapphire & diamond for only $300!! All stones are recessed in the band and it is very sparkly!! The stones are only tiny, but I love the sapphires! Not exactly plain one like we originally planned, but it will look great as just a ring on another finger if we decide to do the custom thing!

I would never tell FI any of this...but it feels good to actually get it off my chest! I have never even told my MOH or mom this!!

PS. I'm sorry this is kind of petty when there are people with so much worse problems going on in their lives.

[ErinB]

My ring is completely different now. we had the stone re-mounted.

 

I think i'm just indecisive and I don't know that I would ever be 100% happy for life with anything, LOL

 

But, I will not get a new wedding ring. I told DH all along I was keeping the ring I said "I do" with and if I wnted something bigger/better/different, I would buy a new one.

[syl1115]

I feel like I am owed a tropical vacation. When we got married, we did it in Florida. We had to do it this way because FIL is in a wheelchair and it is difficult for him to travel. I wanted to do it on one of the islands or Mexico. The wedding was on a Friday and we arrived on Thursday. Of course I should have gone down sooner but wasn't thinking. I spent two days running around, decorating, picking people up from the airport, etc. I never even had a chance to swim or go on the beach. Then we went on a cruise and I still never got to the beach. I just got lid off from my job, but I want to take some of my money and go to the Bahamas or somewhere for a couple of days. I am being so selfish and making this all about me. Why can't I accept the fact that my wedding was beautiful and we had a great time on the cruise and get over the fact that I did not have time to relax. I know I need to hang onto the money in case I don't find a job right away, but I want SUNSHINE!

[ErinB]

I think a beach vacation is in order.

 

Where in Ohio are you? I know there is a charter service out of Cincy that has last minute deals all the time to the Bahamas and Cancun.

[Kat81]

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Originally Posted by syl1115 I feel like I am owed a tropical vacation. When we got married, we did it in Florida. We had to do it this way because FIL is in a wheelchair and it is difficult for him to travel. I wanted to do it on one of the islands or Mexico. The wedding was on a Friday and we arrived on Thursday. Of course I should have gone down sooner but wasn't thinking. I spent two days running around, decorating, picking people up from the airport, etc. I never even had a chance to swim or go on the beach. Then we went on a cruise and I still never got to the beach. I just got lid off from my job, but I want to take some of my money and go to the Bahamas or somewhere for a couple of days. I am being so selfish and making this all about me. Why can't I accept the fact that my wedding was beautiful and we had a great time on the cruise and get over the fact that I did not have time to relax. I know I need to hang onto the money in case I don't find a job right away, but I want SUNSHINE!

I think so too! I went to Cancun for a week and got a day and a half of beach. That's it! I wanted to stay two weeks but we had to get home because of my stepson! BOOO I think you and I should plan something!

[*Lo*]

My confession is that when FI moved away to go to grad school 2 months ago, I was soooooooo worried and upset that I wouldn't be able to live on my own, that I was going to miss him sooooo much and that I would be so lonely and depressed. (I have never lived alone before parents, then roommates, then FI)

 

But it's been 2 months now and I actually secretly love living on my own!! So much freedom it is amazing! I can do whatever I want, and do not have to listen to someone tell me to hang up my coat, or not to eat cereal for dinner.

 

On Sunday, I didn't get out of my PJ's. I watched movies and got caught up on tv alllllllllllllll day in bed and I was so happy. Once in awhile you just need a lazy day and FI would not let me do that, he would tell me to be productive!

[KAMAY11]

This is a great thread!! (Thanks Erin!)

 

-My SIL drives me bonkers-i think she's a total baby-doesn't take control of her life and feeds her kids JUNK (my nephew is very overweight) to make up for their father being a dumbass

-some days I have no idea how I ended up in the job that I'm in

-i take ant-depressants because if I don't i feel like I lose control of my emotions and my life

-i hate my former bff right now

[chickadee024]

Here is my confession, hope it's not too personal:

 

I feel like joining a convent.

 

It seems like the FI is always in the mood, and I am not! I have so much stuff going on - my job has just become super-hectic with my program finally going live, I'm trying to plan a wedding and 2 AHRs, my mom (who was supposed to help plan all this) has stage 4 lung cancer that has metastasized to her breast and brain and I'm trying to spend all the time I can with her, trying to arrange a chapter meeting for my professional association, starting to strategize Christmas shopping, plus all the cooking and most of the housework. And he wonders why I'm not in the mood - where am I supposed to get the energy? Plus, he whines and guilt trips whenver I turn him down, which as we all know increases the desire for next time. (For example, he'll ask me to kiss his stomach. I do. Then he sighs really loud and says that he wishes all his dreams would come true. Meanwhile, I'm trying to squeeze in his stomach kisses between reviewing grant applications, loading the dishwasher, and designing the boarding pass invites.)

 

I almost feel like this is pulling us apart. I've told him before that women are different from men. We need to be at ease mentally before we can really relax physically. I suggested that he help ease my burdens (help more with wedding planning and housework), but that lasted all of about a week. And every time I have to remind/ask him to do something, I mentally extend the sex ban because I'm pissed (which doesn't bode well). Should I not get upset when he grabs my boobs when walking in the door after work instead of asking about my day? I think I deserve a little more respect. And it makes me see red when he wakes me up in the middle of the night because he can't control his lust. I'm okay with weekend surprise wake-ups, but since I get up at dawn through the week, I'm not cool with weeknight surprise wake-ups. Does that matter to him?

 

I've been taking Wellbutrin for the depression/anxiety, but feel like I should be taking a women-Viagra as well. I'm not a prude, but I'm marrying David Duchovney and it's not good!

 

I feel better.