Confessions

[MissSimone]

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Originally Posted by kevnanna I wish people would STOP telling me where they DON'T want to go, and be a bit more helpful and tell me where they WOULD like to go!!! My dad and his GF have vetoed Cuba and Jamaica and are iffy on the DR My mother told me Mexico is too expensive and to go to Cuba Our friends have mentioned that they don't like the beach FH's mother asked us why Mexico, people keep getting killed there my GF and her FH say Mexico sucks (never been, as far as I know) All in all, I get lots of "don't go theres" and no "this place is great", well my dad did mention how amazing the GBP Akumel was, but his DGF likes to go to new resorts each time she goes away! So yeah, all I want to do is tell these people to stuff a sock in it, but in reality all I'm doing is stressing out more and more!!!

At the end of the day it's your wedding. Where do you want to go? (You and FH of course?) If you guys wanna get married on Mars so be it. Whoever doesn't like it, too bad.

[barbiegirl_27]

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Originally Posted by MissSimone At the end of the day it's your wedding. Where do you want to go? (You and FH of course?) If you guys wanna get married on Mars so be it. Whoever doesn't like it, too bad.

You took the words right out of my mouth! Seriously go where you want to go!

[khomac]

I HATE MY BOSS and Employer!!

 

I used to be on salary (awesome benefits, awesome pension, sick days, year end $1000+ bonus, wage increase, important tasks assigned to me, vacation days, etc)

 

I was laid off January 2009 due to the economy, even though I was performing better than some others, worked my way up the company in 4 years, took initiative to improve myself more than others, was in charge of developing a software program with the developers from South Africa and Australia. Another girl who started after me, and was just a little lower than me with job assignments, who was let go once before, then brought back, WAS NOT LET GO when the economy cuts came.

 

I got hired back on contract with a lower pay and absolutely no benefits 3 months later. I do the EXACT same work as before and have the EXACT same knowledge as before, but now get less than someone who has been there shorter than me, and someone who does not even 1/2 of what I do.

 

Instead of being paid by my employer now, he decides to put me through a placement agency who gives a paper check instead of direct deposit.

 

I didn't deposit my pay check in time and now have a $42 NSF fee because my mortgage payment couldn't come out!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so tired of being treated differently than others when I do the EXACT same thing as them if not MORE! It's been a year and a half and I still can't get over it. It caused me so many problems in my life (depression, motivation, anxiety) that my therapist got me a sick note to take a leave of absence from work (which I never used).

 

I'm so tired of feeling this way but don't know how to get over it

 

Thanks to anyone who read the whole thing and listened! xxoo

[jk1101]

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Originally Posted by khomac I HATE MY BOSS and Employer!! I used to be on salary (awesome benefits, awesome pension, sick days, year end $1000+ bonus, wage increase, important tasks assigned to me, vacation days, etc) I was laid off January 2009 due to the economy, even though I was performing better than some others, worked my way up the company in 4 years, took initiative to improve myself more than others, was in charge of developing a software program with the developers from South Africa and Australia. Another girl who started after me, and was just a little lower than me with job assignments, who was let go once before, then brought back, WAS NOT LET GO when the economy cuts came. I got hired back on contract with a lower pay and absolutely no benefits 3 months later. I do the EXACT same work as before and have the EXACT same knowledge as before, but now get less than someone who has been there shorter than me, and someone who does not even 1/2 of what I do. Instead of being paid by my employer now, he decides to put me through a placement agency who gives a paper check instead of direct deposit. I didn't deposit my pay check in time and now have a $42 NSF fee because my mortgage payment couldn't come out!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so tired of being treated differently than others when I do the EXACT same thing as them if not MORE! It's been a year and a half and I still can't get over it. It caused me so many problems in my life (depression, motivation, anxiety) that my therapist got me a sick note to take a leave of absence from work (which I never used). I'm so tired of feeling this way but don't know how to get over it Thanks to anyone who read the whole thing and listened! xxoo

i'm sorry you're going through this, and I can tell you that you aren't the only one.

I was laid off in March 2009 from a similar situation - been there 5 years - great ratings and reviews, etc...they kept people who hadn't been there as long and weren't doing as well.


and even though it's been over a year, I'm still not completely over the hurt that they let me go, even though i "know" in my head I should be, I'm better off, all those things. And, i know the others that got laid off with me feel the same way.

Fast forward a year and now they are calling me to come back as a contractor - same as you - getting paid less, hourly, and no benefits.

I've declined.

Getting laid off is a major life event - many people do get very depressed, anxious - all the feelings you describe are very normal - and it's good that you have a therapist to talk about these things.

Is there any way you can look for another job while you're working? I'm working hourly somewhere else now - taking the knowledge I got at the original company and using it to help another. Is it the great job I used to have - no - but it's a job, and I work here till I can get something better - maybe if you think of it as using your ex-employer to get to where you need to be next.

Good luck!

[nessa0308]

I cannot stand my FI's mother. She does not have the ability to be nice to anyone. She carries around her oxygen tank yelling at anyone who crosses her path.

 

serenity: she just called and said she cannot make the wedding because of the heat and her inability to breathe in the tropics......

[nessa0308]

wouldnt you like to hear....JUST ONCE....

 

It's your wedding, do what makes YOU happy?

[barbiegirl_27]

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Originally Posted by nessa0308 wouldnt you like to hear....JUST ONCE.... It's your wedding, do what makes YOU happy?

you can call my mum, she'll tell you. She's been amazing through this whole process with me, in fact I think she's more excited about going away than I am right now!
I was amazed at how many people will decide to rain on your parade! It's terrible!

[hat0112]

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Originally Posted by barbiegirl_27 I was amazed at how many people will decide to rain on your parade! It's terrible!

So am I! I had a friend WISH rain on my Aruba wedding! She was serious and said it right to my face. Isn't that nice?

Thank goodness is doesn't rain alot there.

[Cindy*]

Hat that is terrible. I would say she was not really a friend at all if that is what she wished you.

 

Confession: I do not want to work today at all.

[*Linds*]

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Originally Posted by cougs i heart you so much!! hahaha confession: i would much rather adopt linds and feed her a bottle of wine than adopt a baby and feed it a bottle of formula.

I am dying at this!!! BAHAHAHAH made my day! you Cougs!!!!

Oh and PS cougs- S asked about you this weekend and said that it didn't seem like we had text eachother much lately...haha he is concerned for us apparently!