Confessions

[cougs]

makes a ton of sense. we were engaged for over 2 years before we were married!

[~Jessica~]

Soo I really DO NOT like my FMIL for many many reasons and for some reason my FI told her I had a facebook page, which meant the next time I got on I had a friend request from her. And you have to accept otherwise you look bad....but since we are not FB Friends I get comments like this on my page:

hey D I L YOU GUYS HAVE A GREAT TIME----HAPPY ANNIVERSARY---TAKE BEANO--AND DON'T EAT TOO MANY BEANS HEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHE LOVE YOU

 

So I confess I wish her computer would DIE so I didn't have to be FB friends with her

[~Stephanie~]

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Originally Posted by Future Mrs. Griffith Soo I really DO NOT like my FMIL for many many reasons and for some reason my FI told her I had a facebook page, which meant the next time I got on I had a friend request from her. And you have to accept otherwise you look bad....but since we are not FB Friends I get comments like this on my page: hey D I L YOU GUYS HAVE A GREAT TIME----HAPPY ANNIVERSARY---TAKE BEANO--AND DON'T EAT TOO MANY BEANS HEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHE LOVE YOU So I confess I wish her computer would DIE so I didn't have to be FB friends with her

OMG! I don't mean to laugh but that is so funny! I am so sorry you have to deal with this! I have some relatives on my FB that I would rather not! Just delete her comments when you can before anyone sees them!

[Lara]

Haha this thread is awesome. I have way too many confessions to make =) I'm just running out the door right now, but I will return later tonight to list some of mine...

[ErinB]

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Originally Posted by Future Mrs. Griffith Soo I really DO NOT like my FMIL for many many reasons and for some reason my FI told her I had a facebook page, which meant the next time I got on I had a friend request from her. And you have to accept otherwise you look bad....but since we are not FB Friends I get comments like this on my page: hey D I L YOU GUYS HAVE A GREAT TIME----HAPPY ANNIVERSARY---TAKE BEANO--AND DON'T EAT TOO MANY BEANS HEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHE LOVE YOU So I confess I wish her computer would DIE so I didn't have to be FB friends with her

Jessica - you can change your privacy setting so she can't write on your wall, see your status, not receive updates etc. You can do it for a group (ILS, Old Family, Work Friends) or individuals.

If she asks just tell her you had to tighten security for work purposes or some other BS.

[*kellis*]

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Originally Posted by Future Mrs. Griffith I confess I just used the last 45 mins of my work day to read this thread...and it is awesome!! So now I will confess..... A girl I used to be best friends with but we kinda grew apart over the last year, moved recently back to her home state where she met a guy and they started dating. They got engaged last week after 5 months together and are planning their wedding a month before mine. Her dad is paying for the whole thing but has the nerve to ask me what kind of budget I am working with (my FI and I are paying for our whole wedding) and tells me "who knew wedding stuff was so expensive!" So not only is she flaking on my wedding, but had the nerve to write me a message on facebook that she guessed I wouldn't be able to make it to her wedding since it will be a month before mine, but to drink a beer on her wedding day to think of her. IS SHE F**KING SERIOUS! Okay now I feel better. Is it wrong to think she is stealing my thunder by getting married before me??

Friends are just like that sometimes. Women just have this need to compete especially when it comes to relationships and marriage. Don't let her steal your thunder, if you don't let it bother you, no one else will notice. Just brush off the passive aggressive remarks and just congratulate her. Afterwards she'll wish she had been nicer.

Though I do have to say, even if someone isn't paying for all of their own wedding, that doesn't mean they shouldn't try to budget and be frugal. I am my family's first daughter to get married, it's a big deal to them and so they want to help pay for it. And just because I could ask them to pay for something that costs a lot, I'm not going to because I don't think we need to be spending that much to make our wedding special and I don't want to put that between us in a way that could harm our relationship. A wedding isn't about the money. It's about you and your husband and the people around you sharing the day with you.

[ashly87]

confession: I bought 2 pairs of shoes today and didn't tell my FI because we're trying to save for the wedding (they were on sale and the price was too low to pass up!)

[*kellis*]

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Originally Posted by ashly87 confession: I bought 2 pairs of shoes today and didn't tell my FI because we're trying to save for the wedding (they were on sale and the price was too low to pass up!)

I've definitely been guilty of buying little things that didn't cost a lot, like a pair of shorts or shoes then when I wear them, if FI notices, just act like I've had them for awhile. Or like someone was nice enough to hand them down to me. Lets just hope he doesn't notice the old navy receipt on the dresser.

[~Jessica~]

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Originally Posted by Future Mrs. Kt Ellis Friends are just like that sometimes. Women just have this need to compete especially when it comes to relationships and marriage. Don't let her steal your thunder, if you don't let it bother you, no one else will notice. Just brush off the passive aggressive remarks and just congratulate her. Afterwards she'll wish she had been nicer. Though I do have to say, even if someone isn't paying for all of their own wedding, that doesn't mean they shouldn't try to budget and be frugal. I am my family's first daughter to get married, it's a big deal to them and so they want to help pay for it. And just because I could ask them to pay for something that costs a lot, I'm not going to because I don't think we need to be spending that much to make our wedding special and I don't want to put that between us in a way that could harm our relationship. A wedding isn't about the money. It's about you and your husband and the people around you sharing the day with you.

Katie, I think you just took what I said the wrong way. I didn't mean that money makes the wedding, but if you knew her and the way she spends money it would make more sense. It was just offensive to me that she asked about our money situation when it is so different from hers and she knew that before she asked, she was just trying to be rude and make a point.

[*kellis*]

Oh, I completely understand what you're saying. That would really bug me if someone did that to me too. I hate when you can tell that people are asking about your life or wedding but they aren't asking because they care and want to know, they just are going to make some passive aggressive comment about it. It's sad that some people have to find fault in other people's lives and happiness in order to feel good about themselves.