Confessions

[Jamaica2012]

Ok, confession....if I cld think of a juicy confession....which I haven't yet, I would be worried ppl I know would see it....?

 

Ok.....I got one! If my dad doesn't come to my wedding like he has offered (to stay home w/ the grandkids) I will basically disown him!!!!

[JayKay]

 

 

Originally Posted by jszy10 

 

Ummm...my shower is in 4 days and I CAN'T stop looking at my registry!!! lol

 

 

That's why I'm afraid to register so soon!! I'm afraid I won't stop looking at it!

 

 

Originally Posted by jszy10 

 

 

 

Oh and PS...there are only 8 things purchased?  It makes me a little sad?

 

 

 

[jamieirene]

Here's one...I really don't need to loose weight for my wedding but I want to in the worst way!! I want to be the slimmest person at my wedding. I am not annorexic or belemic but I am definitely going to diet and exercise hardcore!

[kerrib]

I secretly resent that my FI makes significantly less than I do. I am not a materialistic person and but life would be so much easier if he made even a little bit more money. He really loves what he does and it helps people a lot, but it doesn't pay the bills, or any bills for that mater. He jokes and calls me his "sugar mama" which at first was funny, now 2 years into his job, I want to pull my hair out and scream. I am trying to be supportive by telling him it is OK, but after the wedding I am going to tell him he should start looking for a better position. I'm not waiting because we will be married, but I'm afraid if I tell him now, he'll quit his job and try and get a new one before the wedding, which will stress me out and could mean we can't spend 2 weeks in MX.

[jszy10]

Oooh Kerri, I hear you....my FI and his father have owned their own service business forever..down went the economy, down with their work.  He is home before noon every day, and sometimes just goes fishing in the morning because they don't have work.  I so resent that. He jokes and calls me his "sugar mama" too.  He is so set in his ways that he doesn't even consider another job.  He just keeps saying business will get better.  He can barely pay the very few bills he has..which are all in my name and often paid late, and he has barely given me ANY money for the wedding, while i'm putting in all the extra money I have.  The other day he said he saw a job opening for work in his field that pays like $35 an hour and I finally opened up and said "omg you should look into that! Do you know how great our lives could be if you made a substantial income like that!?"  and he just got real defensive about how his work will get better and he's not taking that kind of job.  It really is hard to deal with...and even though we make it just fine on my income, it really does take a toll on you!

 

Thanks so much for posting...
 

Originally Posted by kerrib 

I secretly resent that my FI makes significantly less than I do. I am not a materialistic person and but life would be so much easier if he made even a little bit more money. He really loves what he does and it helps people a lot, but it doesn't pay the bills, or any bills for that mater. He jokes and calls me his "sugar mama" which at first was funny, now 2 years into his job, I want to pull my hair out and scream. I am trying to be supportive by telling him it is OK, but after the wedding I am going to tell him he should start looking for a better position. I'm not waiting because we will be married, but I'm afraid if I tell him now, he'll quit his job and try and get a new one before the wedding, which will stress me out and could mean we can't spend 2 weeks in MX.

 

[mexicobride422]

I absolutely love this thread..

 

My confession:

 

I have become so stressed out about money.. It's not even paying for the wedding that I am worried about but everything else.. Affording a place to live.. Buying furniture.. Pots and pans and a couch!

 

I've been unemployed for about a year and my fiance tries to assure me that everything will be okay.. But it's just so depressing sometimes.. I'm a Licensed School Guidance Counselor and the hiring freeze in the NYC Board of Education is ruining my life!

[subbi]

I confess I hate being an Interior designer. I feel I haven't accomplished much, I work for a small company and think my talent is being wasted and feeling am not that challenged. Very soon I am going back to school to study construction management but wonders if it's too late for change as I am 32.

[atalanta]

Go for it! You are never too old to pursue your dreams!
 

Originally Posted by subbi 

I confess I hate being an Interior designer. I feel I haven't accomplished much, I work for a small company and think my talent is being wasted and feeling am not that challenged. Very soon I am going back to school to study construction management but wonders if it's too late for change as I am 32.

 

[atalanta]

I confess. I can't remember if I asked one of my girlfriends to be my bridesmaid. If I haven't already, I'd rather not. But, how do I find out? If I ask her whether I asked her or not, she'll either think she's being asked or realize that she was considered and then rejected.

[june11bride]

I confess that I think that I am growing out of one of my friends. We have been friends for quite some time and have had some really fun times together, but I feel like our interests are becoming quite different. For example, for Canada day, she wanted us all to go to the big park to get drunk, where the whole town will be. I remember doing that when I was in high school. Plus, I'm a teacher now so I'd be fired if I did crap like that. These days Id rather stay home with my husband or have friends over for some drinks and conversation (which is what I ended up doing anyway, and which my friend left after 5 minutes and called us all lame). I am newly married, just started my career, and I just don't have interest in doing what she wants to do (and this started before I was married, it's not like I just suddenly became "lame" now that I'm married) lol. She hasn't done anything with her life and parties pretty much every day. I feel bad, but I really dont see our friendship lasting much longer. One night I was super tired from work and told her I couldn't make it out so she made some comment about me wearing "granny panties" and that I was lame. I also confess that I probably won't tell her, I'll just stop hanging out with her.

 

I also confess that I just got home from work and got really upset with my husband because he was sleeping on the couch (and once he's asleep there's no waking him up), and the one hour between me getting home and the time we had to go to bed was going to be pretty much the only hour we got to spend time together all week. After getting mad, I realized that the reason he is so exhausted is because he has been working SO incredibly much (double shifts, etc) because his employees suck. Then I started cleaning up and found a package of cold medication tea sitting on the counter and remembered that not only has he been overworked lately, but also has a cold. What a great wife I am, hey?? So now I feel awful about it but I REALLY want to hang out with him!! Darn our complete opposite shifts!!! I'll just have to wait until the next hour we get together and make it up to him (though I GUARANTEE he won't remember me bugging him when he wakes up tomorrow because he barely woke up when I was talking to him).

 

My last confession is that when I think about the future it stresses me out beyond belief that I dont think we will ever be in a place where I can come home from work and not clean. Even after cleaning for 5 hours the other day, I get home from work and the house is just TRASHED, and we both work a lot!! I don't have any idea how it gets like this so fast, and it stresses me out beyond belief. The worst part is, it's just the two of us-- what will happen when we have kids??? It feels so pointless to even clean because it just gets messed up before I have the chance to enjoy a clean house!!