I'm overwhelmed and need advice

[luv2love]

I feel like I took on too much. I am a university student right now in my 4th year of my education degree, a dance instructor, and planning a wedding. On top of that, my fiance just got a job in another city and will be moving right away while I stay here (he's moving about two hours away -- great opportunity though so he had to take it). This is hard because we've lived together and never been apart for the 6 years we've been together. Plus, my uncle (whom I've been really close with all my life) is in the hospital dying of cancer, my fiance's grandmother was just told by her doctor that she has a year to live, and to top it off, I'm sick! Anyway, sorry to sound like such a complainer, and clearly I digress, but I actually do have a question out of all of this, especially for those that are teachers or university students themselves. I am thinking about withrawing from just one course in school. I think that it might just remove enough stress to keep me from going crazy! What I am worried about though is will it effect my chances of employment when I finish school (I know principles will look at transcripts). I have actually been on the Dean's list in the past, but I don't want all my hard work to be ruined just because of one "W" on my transcript. Anyone know anything about this?

 

I'll stop now before this post turns into a novel!

[amandalovesryan]

I don't know about what the "W" will do to you. Maybe you could call your school's counselor, they might know.

I hope that you are feeling less stressed soon! You need a massage!

I hope you are feeling better soon!

[LadyP]

I am soo sorry that your under such a strain. I am learning to believe that which does not kill me makes me stronger. I believe that you can handle all that has been placed infront of you only if you take it one second at a time and believe.

 

As far as the withdrawal all they look at is that you finished. Also if they ask you why you withdrew then you tell them. I had a similar experience I was in my 3rd year of masters in education and my mother was in 3rd stages of cancer. I would travel every weekend to see her. i contracted the shingles and missed 1 week of school and had to make up all of the missed work. It was HARD I will not deny it but I stayed focused on the finish line and I did it.

What i am saying in my essay is stay focused do what you can talk to your teachers and tel them your situation.

[MelissaH]

I agree with Catherine - talk to your teachers and see what they think.

 

All in all I don't think one "W" alone is going to make a whole lot of difference to someone looking at your transcript. People understand that sometimes you just need a bit of a breather - for whatever reason (and I think you have some pretty damn good ones!)

 

Hang in there!

[BePhoto]

Yeah, ask your university how it will be viewed..... I know my wife is working full time, in addition to taking 2 classes this semester and doing her thesis this semester. -- Its crazy for her, but I try to help by doing what I can around the house to make things easier for her.

 

Whatever you decide - you are still going to be crazy busy - so try to always make the best of your time!

 

Good luck!

[MrsV-to-be]

IMO I don't think 1 W will affect you, especially given that you are a Dean Lister. I had a W in my 2nd last year in undergrad - and nobody questioned it. If it ever comes up in an interview - tell them what is going on in your life - trust me, I'm sure whoever is interviewing will be able to relate.

 

I'm sorry to hear that your feeling overwhelmed right now. I understand what you are going through though - I'm in my final semester of law school, planning a wedding for a week after my last exam, trying to get our house sold in a city and build a house in another city 3 hours away and I'm also working. What I do notice, is the bad days always happen when I'm tired (or like you sick!) because that is when your mind can't figure out how your going to get it all done when you have no energy/feel like crap.

 

Honestly, and I know this sounds cliche - but just take it 1 day at a time. Just get through today and tomorrow until you feel better - and things will look better again!

 

Hang in there - and feel better

[KarmaB]

Sorry that you are going through all of this.

 

I just wanted to tell you that a "W" usually will not hurt you. Most people will not look at your transcript, but if they do, its likely the "W" will never get questioned. The only thing that you might want to check before you do drop the class though, is financial aid. That is if you get any. Sometimes if you drop any classes while receiving financial aid it can effect your fin. aid eligibility.

 

Good Luck, I hope things get better for you.

[rodent]

I don't think W's hurt. Sometimes people withdraw because they realize they didn't want to take a particular class. My school does WP (withdraw passing) & WF (withdraw failing). I think W's only look bad if you have a bunch. Like you drop half your classes every semester because you couldn't keep up.

 

I had 2 or 3 Ws on my transcript & I got a great job out of college & got accepted to Duke for grad school. The Ws never came up. I also recently withdrew from a class because I realized I didn't want to get this extra certificate. It was becoming to stressful & I didn't really need it.

[Yari]

I am so sorry you are stressed. Trust me everyone gets super stressed, it seems like there is always something happening. The beauty if we always get through it.

 

About the W, I agree with everyone else. No one will care as long as you have the degree in your hand at the end of the day.

 

Good luck.

[luv2love]

Thanks for the comments. I really appreciate the advice. Sometimes a girls just gotta vent you know!?