For those who are NOT having a bridal party.....

[PrecisePlans]

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Originally Posted by lucky k72 = ( I'm sorry to hear you are in a pickle regarding this. Would it be worth it for you to travel to where a close friend or family member lives? Might be fun to go away for a weekend, blow off some steam, and party with someone close. I don't see anything wrong with throwing yourself a bach party. But IMHO I'm not sure if I would want to celebrate with people who couldn't be bothered to step up for me.

That's exactly how i feel! The party is suppose to be for me!!! Not for them! and if they don't even want to be bothered with setting one up for me, I don't feel like I should set one up for "them".......but in the end, I"m the one who is missing out. :-(

[fogdog]

I did not have a bridal party, but my various groups of girlfriends did get together and have showers for me. I somewhat organized by own bachelorette by telling 3 very close girlfriends that I really wanted to have a girls weekend in NYC, not necessarily as a bachelorette, just for some fun! They all said yes and we all went and stayed with another girlfriend who lived there and each took part in organizing the weekend's activities. So I didn't have 1 huge party night out with the veil on, etc, but it was one of the best weekends of my life.

 

If you have 1 or 2 close friends who you can tell what you have in mind, judge by their response - if they start to get excited about it then you can all plan it together. If not, you'll know you'll need to do most of the work yourself and might have trouble getting full participation.

[Ali0624]

I didn't do a shower, but I am having a bachelorette party. In the end, it is just an opportunity to get together and have fun before the wedding. So maybe you could do something like suggested above and organize "a girl's weekend." Maybe your family/friends are just a little strapped?? Is that possible? I know it takes a lot for everyone to pay to attend the wedding.

[LCBride2007]

I didn't have a bridal party, but Paul's family threw me a shower. However, I didn't want a shower at all, let along a bachelorette party - so I guess our situations are a little different. But I did go out to dinner with a few of my closest girlfriends, and some came with gifts - so maybe that was like a shower ... but really it was just dinner and drinks with close friends! It was quite nice, actually.

[Kishalee]

I am sorry to hear that you are in that situation.

[foxytv]

lol, even WITH a bridal party, I've had little help in this area! My sister is taking care of the showers though.

 

I started the planning of my own bachelorette party, b/c the BM's that said they were going to plan it never got around to it.

 

So, I sent out 'feelers' to see which dates would work best for people and I had a good friend from back home step up and ask to take it over for me. So, perhaps if you send out the 'feelers' someone will (rightfully so) say "hey! why are you planning your own bachelorette party? let me take over for you!" like my friend did. they might not know that noone has stepped up to do it for you.

[GeminiLibra]

I am not having a bridal party just a MOH and she's in grad school so I know she's tight on money. I said NO to a shower but YES to a bachelorette party. My MOH, mom and friends will be planning that so I can't wait. You could casually bring it up to someone and help plan it, you don't need to know when it is but you could always help out with ideas. Maybe (like stated above) people aren't sure who's planning what so they're just waiting to be told what to do.

[jajajaja]

Honestly I pretty much planned my bachelorette. I don't feel stupid for doing it either. I know how to have a good time, so I created one. I can't wait to do it either. Everyone is so excited.

 

This is just a time to have fun with your girlfriends. Not everyone is always going to step up and roll out the red carpet. Some people are just more thoughtful than others. I'm usually the one that does all the planning in my group, so it's not a big deal to me to step up and plan this too. I don't care how we get from point a to point b. Just as long as point c is a great time!

[DreaW]

I didn't have a bridal party either, and my close friends and family didn't throw me a shower or B-party. I did have a lunch date with my BF and sister and another friend the day I went to LA to get my wedding ring....it was kind of a celebration,.....I think Erik and I counted our B-parties as our legal wedding night when we went to dinner with friends and then went to a bar and celebrated with friends after

[shannon]

I'm sorry about the situation--- sounds super frustrating...

 

I am not having a a bridal party--everyone that is going would basically be my bridal party- so we are just trying to include the guests in photos, etc.. We are only have about 20 guests.... My sister, sister-in-law, and mom are giving me a shower- with all my relatives that couldn't afford to go (it's not worded like that- but basically how it turned out!).... My girlfriends that live in the same city as me-- they are coming to the wedding, so I certainly don't want any of them to throw me a shower/buy a gift when they are paying over a grand to come to the wedding!

 

We live within driving distance from a beach -so I am thinking I will try to plan and pay for a Friday and Saturday night at a condo for all the girls that are coming to the wedding as a sorda "bachorlette" weekend....