Just changed my wedding date

[monicaswave]

I am soooo sad. I came to the sad realization that I was stressing waaaay too much trying to get the wedding together by June. We just got engaged this New Years and we were really really trying to get the wedding done before the summer. Little did I know ALL the work involved in putting a DW together! My FI still doesn't know all the work involved. He doesn't understand why I stress so much. So back to my story, there were so many things that weren't working out for us like

1) I still haven't found a reception site so haven't sent save the date cards or any notice

2) I haven't found a dress and many shops are telling me it takes 3 to 4 months for arrival and another 1 to 2 months for alterations.

3) Our church is requiring us to do some classes that will last at least 6 months and we need it done way sooner.

In addition, we decided that we were set on having an outdoor reception and found out it may be a little too hot in June for people to be comfortable.

 

Sooooo, after all those disappointing news we decided to move the date to Nov. I feel relieved but at the same time I am really really sad because I was so pumped and ready to go.

 

Has this happened to anyone?

[Nic Dragomire]

No this didn't happen to me but I think you are doing the right thing. Take your time, plan it right and you will be happy you did.

[Dbld78]

i almost had to change my date recently...due to some family medical emergency. but thankfully it (so far) will still stick. but really don't focus on it too much it will only make you crazy....just know that now you can enjoy the process a little more and make informed decisions instead of rushed ones...have you decided where you are getting married?

[sohappy]

I had to change my location and date. Now looking back, I'm glad I have more time. You did the right thing. Now have fun planning and don't stress.

[starchild]

Awww I know you're bummed but it will work out. You have time to be more creative as well as give your guests time to plan/budget for the trip.

 

BTW you mentioned classes, are you Catholic? If so, you may have to go outside of your parish but there are one day classes. (unless you want to take 6 months). The first church we contacted said 6 months, and our wedding was planned on kind of short notice too, so that wouldn't do. We contacted the diocese and they put us in touch with a church where we went on a Saturday from 9-5. It counts the same )

[Spazz]

I'm sorry, I know you're disappointed. But now you can relax and have fun with your planning instead of stressing so much.

[becks]

I'm sorry you're bummed. But you'll see - it will all work for the best. And your stress levels will be lower and all will be fine!

 

And we're here if you need us!

[tvt]

i think it's probably for the best. it's much better to be able to enjoy the months leading up to you wedding rather than spend your entire time engaged in a ball of stress. We've been engaged almost a year and our wedding is another 8 months away. I love how relaxed everything is!

[ticia277]

Planning a wedding is no easy task. I too thought a DW would be simple to plan, but it's not. There's no rush to have a wedding. Take your time and do not stress. Remember, time goes by so quickly. You can plan your wedding for next June- it seems far away, but believe me, it's not !

[ErinB]

I'm sorry you are disappointed. But, now you can relax and have the wedding you really want instead of setteling for things just beacuse of convienence or because they fit your time frame. Everything happens for a reason, I believe, so this is proabably for the best!

 

As far as your FI goes, you need to give him a calendar of things to do with a deadline. I've got Mike doing "baby-step" tasks about once a week. THe other day he put stamps on all of the envelopes.

 

They never really get it, so you just have to delegate. It gives him a chance to practice his "yes, dear" skills!