Did you bring your kids??

[MRS.BANKS]

Hello Ladies! I need some help. Well, I am a single parent. I have a 9 year old daughter. I am no longer with her father. We have a every other week schedule with our daughter. I have her one week he has the other. We DO NOT have a good relationship. I dont have a great relationship with my mother and her husband. So far the only people who will be there are FI's parents and each of our bestfriends. I really want my daughter to be there. I could bring her with us but I dont want her to be hanging out with us on our honeymoon! Did anyone have childcare issues? Or something similar? Any ideas would help me sooo much!! Thanks so much!

[TATrisha]

You know, that's a very difficult situation to be in. I'm really sorry.

But, and I appoligize because this probably doesn't help at all... but you need to get a notarized note from her father to take her out of the country. If you don't have a good relationship would he even be willing to grant you that permission?

[LadyP]

who are your bridesmaids. Who else in your family will be at the wedding that she knows and will feel comfortable with? I know some hotels offer childcare services.

[MRS.BANKS]

Its not a custody issue. We have joint custody. I dont need his permission or anything like that. Its more of a I dont want to spend my honeymon with my daughter but I want her at the cermony. BUT I dont have anyone to stay with her and bring her back to Maryland after the wedding.

[MRS.BANKS]

The only people who be there are,m my FI's parents my best friend and his.

[IrieBride08]

Is it possible for you to pay for a cousin or close family friend to come expressly so that they can take your daughter back to Maryland.

 

My FI has a disabled daughter, and when we were considering bringing her, we decided that if she went, we would pay for her babysitter to come to the wedding to be with her, and be responsible for getting her back to the states. It had to be someone familiar with her and who she felt comfortable with. (In the end, we decided to leave her in Maryland and celebrate with her later.) It's an idea though!

[LCBride2007]

i don't have kids, but what i've seen a lot of people do is have the children there for the wedding, and for the time immediate before the wedding, and maybe a little after. then often the rest of the family/guests head home, or the bride and groom go elsewhere. then the children go home with another relative of friend of the family. is your daughter close to your FI's parents? Would she be comfortable staying with them?

[nancnursi]

Be upfront with your family/friends that are coming and ask for some help. What is your relationship w/FI's parents?

[MRS.BANKS]

FI's parents have not spent a lot of time with my daughter. I wouldnt feel comfortable with asking them because of that reason. I really dont know what to do ladies! I have thought of many options. My concern is that I need to decide on a couples only or kids welcomed resort as well. I dont want to spend my honeymoon on a resort with kids if she is going to leave the next day. We dont have the knind of budget where we can split the hotels. Im so lost. But thanks ladies for all of your help.

[LCBride2007]

maybe you can bring a daughter's friend - so that way she at least has a friend to play with!