I HATE FI's family right now!

[-Kate-]

That blows. Please don't let this ruin your thoughts about your wedding though. It's your day and you will be marrying the man of your dreams. If they miss out on sharing your day - their loss. You WILL have a magical time without them. As you are dancing the night away you will not think about them once - trust me.

 

And get your f'n $$ back - they owe you!

[twinkletoes]

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Originally Posted by Christa That really sucks. The fact that you paid their deposits requires they pick an option: 1. Go to the wedding 2. Pay you back what they owe you. I would not be shy about making that crystal clear.

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Originally Posted by LC_Rachel That really sucks- especially when it's FAMILY. But as we have all learned during this DW process, sometimes family isn't any better than the other pathetic assholes out there. Have you reminded them that they still owe a deposit unless someone else decides to go in their place? I would make it VERY clear that you are not shelling out that kind of money as a gift to their lazy, inconsiderate ways.

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Originally Posted by LadyP I am sorry that your future family has caused you all of this drama. Christa said it best. Either you come and pay for yourself or at every function we will be looking for our money

Well said ladies! If the $ can't be transferred to you and your FI, then they defitenly owe you, especially since they knew you were putting the deposit down to begin with. Someone needs to tell them to on how things work, b/c that is not cool!

Hope you're feeling better today

[Copita]

Just enjoy your wedding, no matter who is there. If they do not want to come or cannot come, that is their problem, not yours. Enjoy it.

It sounds like you will have way more fun without all their drama anyway.

[becks]

I'm so sorry. And we all sympathize and empathize. I know it's just a matter of time before someone important to me backs out. And I haven't even sent the STDs out yet.

 

But keep your spirits up, don't let the money issue be a factor in your relationship with FI. (Yes, I think he should demand that his family repay the deposits, but don't let that be an issue between you.)

 

Big hugs!!

[ErinB]

Thanks for all of the support and words of encouragement, Ladies!

 

I think that was just my first (and hopefully) last break-down.

 

One thing I'm sure we have all learned is that this is just part of a DW. You really learn about people's character!

 

To the Newbies, don't worry! Go on and plan the wedding of your dreams and do what will mean the most to you and FI.

 

If and when some family member or friend acts like a butt-head, BDW is here for support!

 

Thanks again! Erin

[happygilmore]

Sorry to hear about this, it really sucks. I don't know if this is possible but could you talk to your TA about selling off those tickets? perhaps you locked in at a good rate and someone would be willing to pay you back the deposit and pay off the rest of the ticket?!