Married or going to be married at Grand Palladium Punta Cana?

[caribbeanLover]

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Originally Posted by sungoddess_08 Thanks for the support!!! I'm just angry, and feel like they should just be there -- it's family after all. It wouldn't be a question of me missing their wedding. My fiance and dad both tell me it's their loss. I guess they are right. Did you call after your lunch to see if you can add the extra week?

I think your FI and his dad is right.. it's ther loss. Family or not. They clearly don't believe your wedding is important enough to make sacrifies to come.
They lose out, and miss the best day every in your family.
After all there will be pictures to show them (I know not even close to them being there) Do you have a close friend that will be comming that you could ask to be MOH?

I made the phone call, and now they are call the actually people we are flying with to see if we can add the extra week,I told him I would want to stay on the other side that is the cheapest lol. I will see what happens. Keep you posted. Thank you for asking

[Nonnie]

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Originally Posted by sungoddess_08 Thanks for the support!!! I'm just angry, and feel like they should just be there -- it's family after all. It wouldn't be a question of me missing their wedding. My fiance and dad both tell me it's their loss. I guess they are right. Did you call after your lunch to see if you can add the extra week?

I can't imagine how upsetting that must be


Keep in mind that the rates will likely drop significantly a month before the trip. Advise you sister and brother to try and book vacation time anyway, then watch expedia and other travel websites for a price drop that makes the trip affordable for them. It's important they (or you) keep a daily eye on this, since once the prices drop, the remaining seats fill up really fast.

It may not work out for you, but it's worth a try

[rgonzalez_83]

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Originally Posted by sungoddess_08 I need to vent - so I called my parents to let them know about the date and to tell them we would be putting the deposit down for everyone today or tomorrow. My dad hesitated and then told me that my sister was humming and hawing over the price. She called me an hour ago to tell me she can't afford to come. I am SO hurt and don't know what to do....I can't believe she would do this, she is a single mom but I looked for resorts where children had a special rate. She's known for over a year that we were doing this, and backed out before but then changed her mind after she thoguht about it. My dad also warned me that my brother is doing the same thing -- so to prepare that he may not come either. I was expecting that because he lives out west and cannot afford to get home, plus he is starting a new job. But my sister...she was my MOH...I am SOOO hurt and can't believe this is happening. Plus, I need to see her at my parents for Christmas, I do not even feel like going anymore. I can't stop crying Sorry, I had to vent because I do not know what to do.

Sorry to hear that. Keep in mind a lot can change from here to June 2010. I wonder if she can do a 2-3 day trip. It may not seem like much fun, but it may work in terms of affordability. My Wedding is in May and the prices now in December have dropped $100-200 since we booked in August. Maybe she can wait a while before making a definitive decision. My advice is to try not to be reactive to the bad news and keep trying to work with her on ways to make her presence possible.

Cheer up!
Rebecca

[caribbeanLover]

It's true tho... prices usually drop a lot a month to 2 weeks before your actual date. Find out if she even has a budged, and we all can keep an eye out everyday see if the prices chage. June being a low season, prices especially then drop so much!

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[isy_beau]

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Originally Posted by sungoddess_08 Thanks for the support!!! I'm just angry, and feel like they should just be there -- it's family after all. It wouldn't be a question of me missing their wedding. My fiance and dad both tell me it's their loss. I guess they are right.

I feel your pain, my dad, my godmother (who is literrally like my second mom) and my cousin (I am a only child and only have two cousin's) are not coming because they say they can't afford it So I really understand how you're feeling right now.
but your fiance and dad are right, it is there lost. At first I'm even the one that felt bad for them so I wouldn't talk about the wedding around them, now to bad it's my day and I'll talk about it, and enjoy it. I'm still hurt, but I'm still gonna plan my perfect wedding day

[shankd]

we all knew that this would be a chance in taking booking a wedding down south. But in my view, when familly know over a yr in advance even before booking, they should know it's coming and make necessary adjustment to their budgets in order for them to book. It's a sore spot in all of us, in my FI familly, not a one booked except for his parents, and now the MIL is saying it's too expensive and they can't afford to come. Dwayne (FI) told his parents and 3 sisters, that if they aren't there, he's done with all of them. There isn't anyone on his side going, including friends, and I think he's embarrased of that and truly hurt.....Time will tell. You really do find out who truly cares for you in these times....

 

On the other hand, not everyone has the means in going. Let's be realistic. I have been blessed with a great job, parent's with money, that speaks volumes. My sister is a single mom working her a** off for a living. My mother is helping her out. She also has a great carreer. She's an R.N working full time. I guess what I'm trying to say is that if familly and friends have the mean and aren't making the effort, well to them they can go play in traffic!!! To those who are upset that they can't make it, and truly don't have the funds to go, I put my arms around them and try and make it as painless as possible for them, even though it's our day!!!

 

I hope this has made sense.....

[sungoddess_08]

It does make sense!! My parents are paying for my FI and I go to for the whole 2 weeks, so I would NEVER ask them to pay for my sister and her son. My sister may be struggling, but she knew it was coming and as you said, could have budgeted accordingly.

 

I am sorry to hear about your FI family, that is not nice, but good for him for standing up to them. My mom told me last night that of course it is awful, but try not to focus on it and maybe she will come around closer to the date, but if not, oh well...the people who want to be there, will be. And that's all that matters.

 

How many people are in your group? It is mostly people on my FI side (family and friends), I didn't invite too many friends because I did not want to put them in an awkward position, and it is just my parents coming now. So I'm happy at this point. But still wish we had a big group to share the day with!

[caribbeanLover]

Make sense Danielle. I totally agree.

The FI friend has money, We sent the invites out in July. He said he would try his hardest to come because last year they had booked a trip for March (the wedding being in APril) so we understood this trip was booked before we decided to do a DW. Then out of no where, him and his gf (who just moved into together, each have their own kids) decided to take a 'family' vacation to Punta Cana. They just recently came back, and sent in my rsvp with a big fat 'no'... I don't consider this a friend anymore. but the fi does. He puts the blame on the gf so to the FI it's not his fault!!!! I am mad about this.

 

I am having 23 people so far. Them all being my friends or family. FI parents and sister. None of his friends

[Nonnie]

I posted up more pics: Flickr: Nonnie31's Photostream

[beachbum]

Great photos!