3 Showers...WTF!!??

[michelle08]

Okay so 2 of my friends who can't come to the wedding wanted to throw my shower because they wanted to repay me for all the showers and birthday parties I have done for their weddings, and babies...so I just assumed that I would have the one and everyone would just come to that one.

 

Well, then I go and ask my mom to give me her satuday availability in april and she tells me that she would like to throw me a shower (which I don't even know if it's okay since she is family).

 

Then FMIL told FI to feel me out (not tell me) about her and his sister throwing me a shower!!! Well he told me and I feel bad because I appreciate the gesture but I don't need 3 showers and really, there is no one for her to invite!

 

So I don't know what to do...I don't want to let my mom down or my friends or FMIL...OMG! I didn't even really want a shower let alone 3!

[JUSTUSTWO]

Wow...well why don't you tell FI to tell FMIL to call your mother. Maybe they can get together & throw you 1 big shower. Have FI suggest that to your FMIL so it doesnt seem as if he told you what she wanted to do.

Will that work? Oh wait, I forgot about your girlfriends. Uh, ok, why don't you also have your girlfriends call your mother & then everyone get together and work as 1 big group. This is a doozie. LOL...Anyway, how's that sound?

[amandalovesryan]

I agree with Yolanda! I just have a question, what about BMs? Do you have any? Are they thinking about throwing you a shower, too?

[BarefootBride]

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Originally Posted by JUSTUSTWO Wow...well why don't you tell FI to tell FMIL to call your mother. Maybe they can get together & throw you 1 big shower. Have FI suggest that to your FMIL so it doesnt seem as if he told you what she wanted to do. Will that work? Oh wait, I forgot about your girlfriends. Uh, ok, why don't you also have your girlfriends call your mother & then everyone get together and work as 1 big group. This is a doozie. LOL...Anyway, how's that sound?

I agree with Yolanda! I think the mothers should throw you a shower together that way you can get your fiances family and your family together. Just accept the jesture that your friends want to throw you a shower.... and just invite friends, in fact it can be an untraditional shower... a couples shower/party... just invite friends over and have fun!!
People just are excited about you getting married. I know you probably dont want the attention but just try to live through it. This is one time that you dont have to plan a thing. Just show up.

[boscobel]

I think you should send an email to all four (mom's and friends) with their phone numbers and ask them to contact each other to plan it out, since you don't want to have 3 separate showers. Sometimes people just need some guidance or a door opened to them on what they should be doing.

[LisaG]

I agree that the moms should get together and throw one big family shower. Your friends could do a "stock the bar" party for all your friends to attend. That's what our friends did and it was so much fun! Everyone just brought a bottle of liquor or a bar item.

[boscobel]

Lisa - OMG that is the best idea I ever heard. A "stock the bar party". I want one!!! I am telling my friends.

[LisaG]

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Originally Posted by carlymcmullen Lisa - OMG that is the best idea I ever heard. A "stock the bar party". I want one!!! I am telling my friends.

It was so perfect!!!! They did it in their backyard and we cooked out and had a beach theme. We ended up with over 20 bottles of liquor and so many fun bar items. We even got a neon "Crown" sign for the garage. DH loves Crown and all his friends know it. It really was so much fun!

[JessicaM]

I think the idea of giving all of them the other's phone numbers will help. They will all be able to be a part of it, and you don't have to go to three different showers. The family shower and the Stock the Bar (Which sounds fabulous) might work too if you are comfortable with that!

[Maura]

michelle i feel your pain. one of my grad school friends is insisting having a grad school girlfriends shower for me, and i really really dont want it because a) i hate showers, i dont have the time to have multiple showers and c) one of the other girls who got married last year didnt get a shower although we all chipped in for a nice gift.

 

i told her with my work schedule i just cant swing two showers here in the states, so please respect that my aunt is throwing me a shower in june and trust that all my friends will be invited. i didnt want one shower, let alone 3, but im going to have to settle for having 2.

 

hook your family and your FI's family up so they can throw you a family shower with whoever they want, and then do a sep. one with your friends if necessary. honestly, my first shower was not that bad (see my post called My Mexican Bridal Shower), and i am totally anti-bridal shower and hate attention on me.