Bad news just flew into town... *UPDATED*

[jean-marcus]

thats probaly the best thing you can do.. i dont see why she should feel the need to get married so early and take the pleasure out of your day. the way you put it really doesnt sound like you dont want her to get married or that she cnat make her own choices. hopefully she reconsiders her date

[~Melissa~]

All I can say hunni is that you're not in the wrong. I would be feeling the same way you do.

 

I hope she reconsiders moving the wedding date back so you can enjoy your wedding... I agree with you and it will give her more time to see if he is "the one". Gosh I hope he is a changed man.

 

[Spazz]

Oh my God Stephanie, I don't even know what to say. I agree with what everyone has said about the background check, being overly cautious, etc. Please keep us updated and let us know if we can do everything. I am so sorry you're going through this.

[Conster]

EEEK!! You for sure have reason to be worried about your mom. I hope you can talk her out of it.

[DreaW]

I'm so sorry Stephanie, we are here to help,

[-Kate-]

This is not good! I hope she moves the date back, not just to give you the wedding day you deserve but to give her time to actually get to know this man. Once you find out what his history is let me know and I can give you info on what the charges actually mean.

[StephanieMN]

I am not really all that sure of what she is planning to do. This is part of her email....This year is for

you and Chris. I dont intend to take anything away from your plans.

Focus on your wedding

 

I think what she might still do is get married soon and then that will be the big drama at our wedding. I am working with my sisters on planning an engagement party so everyone can meet him before the wedding and get the drama over before. I am not all that sure she will go for it but if she doesn't it opens the door for me asking why she wants to keep this a secret. Secrets are usually for thing that are bad. Did I tell you she waited 2 days to tell us?

[DanielleNDerek]

Wow that is some story. Your not overeacting at all. Is there anyone that you could get to talk to your mom like one of her sisters or brothers (if she has any)? Maybe she wouldn't listen to you because, your her daughter and moms think they know best (usually do).

 

I really don't know what else to say to you, sorry. This is just too crazy.

[StephanieMN]

That is part of my reason for having this party is so she can get back in contact with some of the family she has lost touch with. She has a brother she was pretty close to and he moved away so that may be able to be rekindled and he may talk to her. If she won't let me host a party for her I will be calling him.

[JUSTUSTWO]

Stephanie, you are definitely not overeacting considering this guy's past. Have you shared the info with her that you found regarding the background check or are you keeping that btwn you & your sister?

I don't know what else I would do that you're not doing. I guess by trying to support her you'll keep the door open for communication, which would be good because you can keep an eye on her & look out for anything shady.

I can imagine how hard this is for you but just keep hanging in there & hope for the best.