Bad news just flew into town... *UPDATED*

[Spazz]

Stephanie, I'm sorry to hear this. We're here for you whatever you need

[Can'tHardlyWait]

I just spent the last 20 minutes reading through all these posts... I am at a total loss for words. I am just so sorry for you I can't even think about it. I am just sitting here praying for you that everything will be ok, and somehow everything will work out. Mu heart trully goes out to you...

[Maura]

oh steph. so so sorry to hear that your family is going through this. we are all happy here to let you vent and bounce your thoughts off of. we dont want to stress you out any more than you are. do you need any help with wedding stuff? what can we do?

[StephanieMN]

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Originally Posted by mauraw oh steph. so so sorry to hear that your family is going through this. we are all happy here to let you vent and bounce your thoughts off of. we dont want to stress you out any more than you are. do you need any help with wedding stuff? what can we do?

Thanks. Sorry if that came off bitchy I just can't handle the
thought of having to explain why I can't do anything..

As far as wedding help I have a wonderful group of friends and my sisters have helped a lot. I have a lot of stuff done.
Since there has been all this drama my mom doesn't even have her dress for the wedding and I am also very worried that once I tell her that her felon isn't allowed at our wedding she will back down and won't walk me down the isle.

[amandalovesryan]

oh, stephanie! This sucks! I am so sorry! I really thought that you were going to be online telling us he left. I hope your mom will still walk you down the aisle!

[StephanieMN]

Do you ever just want to throw your hands up and say "WTF-just do whatever!"

Chris and I had discussed that we don't want her felon at our wedding. NOt just because he is a felon but twice he has said that he really doesn't need to get to know us because he isn't marrying us. So we are taking it day-by-day as far as if we will have him there. Cut to today- I figured I should let my mom know that we are not planning on inviting him AT THIS TIME...my fear is that she won't come. I didn't want her to be surprised on Saturday when we do invites and she sees that his name isn't on our guest list. So I called her and boy was that super bad timing. She is in the process of finding a judge to get them married but I had already told her I needed to talk to her about something so I couldn't back down once she said that. She made very little sense and I told her that this isn't a choice that I made by myself and that she needed to be be respectful of Chris' feeling about this. He is just as upset about this as the rest of us are. I am not sure if I am making any sense or not. Basically she said she would still come but she won't be happy. Great fucking new--my mom will pout if we don't invite him. It is nice to not be the only one making the decisions...chris and I will have to talk about wether or not to invite him. There are friends of our we aren't inviting.

 

Don't ya just love family?!

[boscobel]

So sorry, Stephanie. I was really hoping, that my now, your mom has "seen the light". I mean if the guy is making no moves to get to know her family, does't that show that he isn't really all that interested or involved in the relationship?

 

I mean, I remmber in the beginning of my relationship wiht Matt, meeting his family and getting to know them was one of the things that I looked forward to most, b/c it brought me closer to him!

[Yari]

I was just thinking about you regarding this situation yesterday.

 

I am so sorry! I wish there was something I could do.

[foxytv]

Geez, this is ssoo crazy? I don't mean to be a downer about your Mom ... but who would WILLINGLY be with someone who makes it clear that they have no interest and plan to make no effort to get to know/be a part of your family?

 

Despite the whole felon issue ... that is just ASKING for trouble. It leads me to believe it could end up being an abusive relationship as well.

 

Oh I hope this gets worked out.

If your Mom is standing firm that she will pout ... then it's really up to you and Chris to decide what is most important. Him not being there or your Mom not pouting.

[jajajaja]

I'm sorry to hear that nothing has really changed. You guys know what's best for you so if not having him at the wedding is what's best, I wish you luck. I would have a very hard time standing by and watching my mom go through this as well. I really hope things turn around!