STD - how to say its ok not to come...

We will be sending STD to family we know can't afford/won't be able to come but whom we don't want to leave out. I want to add a short paragraph or 2 on our STD's that says:

- please don't feel obligated and don't feel bad if you can't come

- We are waiting to have the reception until we get home for those who can't come to the wedding.

I know other girls have put this on theirs. Any wording help? Thanks, Carla

I am working on the same thing, so I am interested in seeing ideas...my thoughts so far were to mention the AHR so people will know they can celebrate with us without actually travelling to the wedding. Good luck

We put a letter with our STD...this is from it...

" We appreciate gifts but really want you to know that just your presence in Cancun for our wedding IS the present itself!!

We don’t want anyone to feel obligated to attend or to feel like we are putting pressure on them. We know that some people won’t be able to make it and we really do understand."

maybe just add a sentice that says you'll be having a party when you return for those who can't make it

we added a message within our passport invitations stating that we understood that not everyone could join us.. here is the page I am talking about!

Titled: A Note from Chad and Amy.

Hope this helps!

Amy, I loved the way you worded that...I need keep that for my STD's!

This is what we said on one of our boarding passes... "Dear Family & Friends, while we both would love for all of your and your families to attend, your attendence certainly is not expected. We hope that you are as excited as we are about this special event. We look forward to celebrating this occasioin in a beautiful destination and having a vacation to remember with all of you! Upon our return from Mexico we are planning on having a reception in Denver, date TBA."

We worded things the following way....

Though we would LOVE to have each and every one of you join us on our special day, we realize that not everyone will be able to make the trip to {Jamaica}. We are planning a reception in {Omaha} upon our return to continue the celebration. Details will follow.

I will have to look at the exact wording when I get home from work. But we said something of the effect that upon our arrival back home will be a AHR to follow. With invitation to follow.