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Just a random thought that popped into my head - does the resort require you to wear wristbands? If so, will they allow you to remove them for the wedding day?

I've been MIA for almost 2 weeks - any more word on meeting up?

April 30th, 2016 at the Grand Bahia Principe Coba in Riviera Maya. Soooo excited! Got our STD'd out a few weeks ago. Mailed our Canadian, American & Australian invites last weekend and sending out our UK, Ireland & France invites when we are in London this week!

@@Ruzanna I can't do any earlier than August unfortunately. Picked up a lot of bartending shifts on the weekends (aka Wedding money!). But if it works better for everyone else to do earlier by all means go ahead, don't let me stop you

This is so exciting! Should we pick a weekend in August? It's still a couple months away so gives us all lots of time. I'm good for any weekend except the long weekend (first weekend in August). How is everyone else?

@@veryvalentine I would love to meet you regardless! And hear all the stories from your wedding! @ Downtown patio sounds perfect! I'm in Etobicoke so can easily shoot down on the subway. I've picked up a few weekend shifts this summer, but right now August is the most clear for me - is that too far? And the weekend would probably be best I think.

@@Ruzanna That sounds awesome! When we were chatting back and forth earlier I was thinking that it would be really cool to meet some of you ladies.

I used Wedding Wire. Really nice templates and easy to use.

@@TinkerSofi That would be amazing if you could send a picture. I'll go back this week. Thank you!

I couldn't find them anywhere, went to two Michaels If anyone sees them please let me know! Was hoping to have my invites out this week.

I found these beautiful calla lilies this past weekend at Michael's. I'm not sure what they are made from but they feel so real and look amazing! They were reg $5.99 a flower, reduced to $2.39 and my best friend got me 15% off with her teacher's discount. So 15 flowers cost me $35 in total.

@@TinkerSofi @@ashhtayy Thank you so much for all your support @@snswedding2016 I'm so happy to hear it's all worked out for you I will try to speak to my mom again, even though it's like talking to a wall. Will keep you ladies posted. Thanks again!!! xo

@@TinkerSofi Thanks for your advice, the flower ceremony is a nice idea, I'll look more into it I've tried to speak to her, it never goes over well. It starts with me speaking, then she gets angry and picks parts of what I said to argue back about, then I sit there quietly until she's done her rant, and it ends. Nothing resolved, because I can't get a word in, she thinks I'm being condescending and treating her like a child. I try to speak really nicely and not raise my voice and she says I think I'm better than her... its a cycle. I'm making her sound like a monster. She has a really big heart and I love her, but can be very stubborn and sometimes hurtful. My girlfriends know her and have promised to help me out. I'm sure it will all be okay, just need to be positive I actually fought back a couple tears writing these posts... this is definitely my biggest wedding stress and I can't believe how open I'm being on this forum. Thanks ladies

@@ashhtayy Thank you Honestly, it's like you know me - you hit the nail on the head about the motherly role, she can be very immature and I had to grow up fast. When I lived with her I actually remember having to bang on her bedroom door and ask her to turn her music down! lol! It's like Freaky Friday. @@ashhtayy That's a great perspective to have - the bigger picture is what to think of. She does enjoy a drink (or few) and I've already talked to her about not causing any problems (that didn't go over well) since she doesn't speak to my Dad, his family or her own sister and they of course will all be there. I think you're right, doing something small for her could prevent a lot of potential problems. If anyone has some tips please let me know! I want to do something special, but I want my dad to have that moment, he deserves it, and it doesn't necessarily have to be at the ceremony. Thanks!!! xo

@@ashhtayy Totally! This post is amazing, because every situation is so unique. I agree about how it's incredibly selfish of her to act this way. The wedding stress is enough on it's own but as my parents haven't been in the same room since they were in court, I'm of course stressing out about them being on the same resort for a week. I'm trying to do damage control and have given my TA their names to request their rooms are furthest apart, and thank goodness our resort is huge! They won't even pose for a picture together... she actually tried to bargain with me: "You let me walk down the aisle with you and I'll be in a picture that your father is in, on the opposite side of you and Colin of course". Thanks for the compromise Mom... I'll have to look into other ways to include her, but honestly, and again I feel bad saying it, but her attitude is making me not want to do something special for her. I know she's my Mom but it's not good practice to reward bad behaviour. I've never been a selfish person, always doing whatever I can for her (even getting a bigger, uglier car to drive them around in since I was the only driver in the house) and I think it's my one day to be a tad selfish and put me and my fiancé first, I don't think that's too much to ask. Sorry for hijacking the thread with my fam drama! Thanks for all the great ideas ladies

@@TinkerSofi oooo thanks! I hope they do. I'm going on my lunch break! lol

Thank you for posting! I should have my mom read this so she can see how important decisions like this are to us brides. My mom continuously argues with me about the fact that I have decided that just my Dad will be the one to walk me down the aisle. My parents divorced about 15 years ago and my dad moved out because he wanted my sister and I to have a roof over our heads. He let my mom stay in our house even though the break up was her fault - He's such a good man I'm 28 years old and my Dad still calls me every night to say goodnight. It still breaks his heart that he couldn't wake up with us on Christmas mornings or help with our homework in the evenings, but he is always there and is always going out of his way to show me and my sister how much he loves us. My Mom is bitter, calls me a "Daddy's girl" and says that people will think I love him more than her... very childish thing to say but that's my Mom. She even hung up on me on Skype when I was living in the UK when we talked about this 2 years ago (I wasn't even engaged yet!). I feel bad saying it but I'm not sure if walking me down the aisle actually means a lot to her or if she is just jealous and doesn't want my Dad to have this moment. She can't see that this is a memory I want to share with my Dad and everyone is entitled to make their own choice. Sorry for the vent! Felt really good to let that out.

@@TinkerSofi Everything is looking great so far! Where did you get your stamps? They are so cute!

Thank you @@acw271011

Again - thank god for this site: I looked back at the pic I posted above of my invite and realized I made a mistake on the date! Thank goodness I was able to catch vistaprint in time and change it. Phewwww!

@@Victoriabride You look stunning in both! The first one with the more detailed ruffle bottom and belt is my choice. I may be bias because my dress has ruffles too, but I love that one on you. Probably even more difficult of a decision now with all the opinions you're getting! Good luck and relax because you look amazing in both, so either decision will be a good one

@ Oh for sure! Colin thinks I'm crazy for always thinking about the wedding and talking about it... but things need to get done! lol Half my battle is convincing my frugal fiancé about needing things like chairs... no I'm kidding, he's not that bad lol he's loving all of this too. But he still thinks I'm wedding-crazy right now. Which I am I knew once we had the resort booked it would all start happening from there. It's so exciting!!! I already got my dress though so at least that's one big item crossed off my list. Once I get more done I'll start a planning thread to help me stay organized. This website is a god-send. Tips I've heard of on here I've shared with my best friend who is also getting married in April 2016, her wedding is local and she's always saying "Dee, you are so on top of things, I wouldn't know about any of this stuff" thanks to this website!

Thanks @!!! haha oh my goodness, my mind is already racing nonstop!

@@TinkerSofi I'm reading through your thread, not even at the end yet and just wanted to tell you how amazing everything looks! Best wishes for your Dad! xo

I emailed my STDs (just posted and in my gallery if you want to see) basically the day after we got the group rate. I'm mailing invitations because we have a couple people of the older generation on both sides who don't use email. But we got a vistaprint deal on groupon and spent very little so far. We're having everyone RSVP on our website as well, partly to cut costs and partly because we would have rsvps coming in from Canada, UK, Australia, USA & Ireland - so we didn't want anything to get lost in the mail.