Wafflesmom

@@calgarybride2015 you are amazing! 6.2 lbs is awesome, congrats on the weight loss. Don't be so hard on yourself with the potluck, you have been so motivated and I don't see that changing just because of one incident So update on me. I'm happy to say that the Dr has given me a clean bill of health and I'm bronchitis free! I cannot wait to start my workout tomorrow, yay for bootcamp.

@@calgarybride2015 oooh that sounds like a great idea!

Looking good ladies! So jealous, I wish I could have joined

Wow, that's a logistical nightmare if you had to travel! I'm glad it all worked out in the end And thank you so much for the photo schedule! Based on your timeline, you're doing the 5 hour package? Did I get that right? We're doing a 5 hour package and I'm hoping that's enough time

I agree with Kim, your rings look great! I tried to see what you may be disappointed with but I didn't see anything. There's obviously something you're not happy with but I just wanted to let you know that I couldn't see anything and think they loom great! And I can't believe your day is quickly approaching! I have my dress fitting this Saturday too. My first of three appointments. Oh and you're also using Samuel Luna right? What does your photo schedule look like? And did you opt for video from him too?

@@deecol no worries, you didn't offend me at all! I'm happy that you don't have to stress about numbers because it's really an awful feeling. I know ppl have their reasons for not attending and cancelling but sometimes you can't help but take it personally.

Wow, that's great to hear! You're so lucky to not have to stress or worry about numbers. And woohoo to 6 month countdown. It will fly by, I know ours has!

Weddingstar has a few totes and they're actually on sale right now. Most of them are still a bit pricey but at least it's a Canadian company. I also know some brides who used vistaprint

@ don't worry, I'm sure it will all work out. I'm not too worried about mine and Der's family, I know they'll make their final payments. Actually, Der's whole side has already paid everything off so they don't have to worry about it. I'm just getting worried about room nights. We are at 77 room nights so that doesn't leave much wiggle room. If my friend (who is now trying to find someone to room with) ends up cancelling, Der says we'll just extend our stay and do a honeymoon. Can you tell who the level headed and calm rational person is in our relationship? Lol

@ perianjay good point. Remember last year when we were worried about room deposits, I can't believe we're now worried about final payments. I hate that guest count is a recurring worry. Our final payment isn't due until Nov 20, I have 51 days of hell And I agree with you. In the end, all the worry is for nothing. @@deecol thanks hun. I agree that there is a possibility that her new bf is encouraging her to go but she wants to make it work with him. She has been wanting a relationship for a long time so I can definitely see her being motivated to make it work. We're trying to find someone else to room with my friend. For her, money isn't the issue, it's being alone for a week that she doesn't want. She said she'll make it work regardless of what happens. @@calgarybride2015 you and Perian are absolutely right, pretty soon it won't matter because all that does matter is I get to marry the love of my life. And funny that you mentioned that, I was thinking about how time has gone by so quickly. It feels like it was just yesterday when I was wishing you all the best for your wedding!

@@calgarybride2015 thanks for the support and hugs Kim. As hurt as I am, I'm still really hoping her relationship works out and that her decision to not come is something she doesn't regret. I've yet to meet her new boyfriend but you're right in that you'd think he'd support her going and not push for vacation so close to date. I know Der would be like Shawn but I guess not all men think the same way.

Thanks so much @. I know you're always there for me I was gonna message you last night but Der suggested we take Waffle for a long walk and I can clear my head. She met him way after she committed to going to our wedding. I try to rationalize her decision in my head and try to put myself in her shoes but it's really hard. I don't want to guilt her into changing her decision since I clearly know what and who her priorities are right now. I decided to text her since I'm always honest about my feelings with my friends. I thought talking it out would make me feel better but it hasn't. It's still to fresh. Plus, I guess I have to mentally and emotionally prepare myself for more instances like this. I know as we get closer to the date there's a possibility of people cancelling but I'm hoping there's some who'll join too

Ok so I had my first emotional wedding-related day. I have a coworker who has become one of my closest friends. Over the last 4 years, we've gone on so many trips, confided in each other for everything, basically did all the things close friends do. So when I sent out the save the dates, she was obviously one of the first to say yes and put down a deposit. So yesterday we went out for coffee and she said that she and her new boyfriend (they've been together for 5 months) have been talking and they want to go on a vacation together. He is currently on training for work and has exams all throughout January and February so he can't make it to Mexico for our wedding. They were thinking of going away in April and she said that financially she can't afford two trips so she won't be able to go to the wedding. As a bit of background, my friend has not been in a serious relationship for over 15 years. She's always wanted a relationship but her life mirrors that movie "he's just not that into you". So when she told me I was actually quite calm and very understanding. She was very apologetic. After we met the sting of what she told me started to surface and my feelings of being an understanding and supporting friend turned into hurt and anger. Plus, I then realized that she was rooming with another friend so her decision could impact another person. So I called Der to let him know what happened and it dawned on us too that we just made the number of room nights to get complimentary events and now we may not make it. Argggh I know it's too early to get frustrated right now about numbers and things can change so I'm not gonna let that get to me right now (although I'm really worried about this). So many things added up that it made me even more upset and hurt. I didn't want to call my friend because talking about it made me so upset that I cried so I took the cowardly approach and texted her. I told her that her decision to not go to my wedding has sunk in and now I felt hurt about her decision. I told her that I had mixed emotions; as a friend I was happy that she found someone who made her super happy but at the same time, I was hurt that she would choose to miss such an important event in my life. She texted back an apologized...a lot.I'm trying to be a good friend and I know she's trying her hardest to make her relationship work. I know she's really sorry but still doesn't make the sting hurt any less. Sorry for the rant

Ok so I'm a day early for check-in. I've been on antibiotics for a week now (last day today woohoo). I have a Dr's appt on Friday to see if the bronchitis is gone. Der made me promise to not do anything to compromise my health any further due to the likelihood of it turning to pneumonia so I've done zero exercises this week. So not a good week to be off exercises since I have my first dress fitting this Saturday. The last time I tried on my dress was in April so I have no clue how it fits. I tried to put my wedding on when Der was out fishing but I couldn't reach the back to zip it up lol. No one else was around but my dog and she was no help lol Although I didn't workout, as suggested by @@deecol, I was more mindful of my calorie intake. I meal prepped all week and was quite successful at it. I stepped on the scale and I have not gained any weight The antibiotics may have also played a role in no weight gain since it can do a number on my stomach. In terms of wedding planning, I did accomplish a lot. Der and I bought a custom suit for him to wear to our wedding We also mailed out our formal invitations and bought some goodies for our OOT bags. My goals for the week: - If I'm all healthy, I will be back to my 4 workouts a week (2x bootcamp and 2x pilates) - Continue to meal prep - Shop for frames for table numbers and décor - Update our wedding website - Buy items for our hangover kits Wish me luck

@ I know! I'm trying to find conferences in Toronto so I can visit you all. So far no luck

Oh I love all of your purchases! I love the colours on your garter, but you're right in that it may show through. I'm glad you've already thought of an alternate use for it I'm sure Doug will be happy And the cake toppers look great, just like the pics you showed us. I can't wait to see them on your wedding cake I actually bought my cake topper (which I still have to post) from Weddingstar. Anytime you see anything from The Knot store, Canadians can buy it from Weddingstar since they sell the same things but in Canadian and no int'l shipping fees. Plus they have sales often so never buy anything regular price unless you're in a time crunch And please say hi to everyone at the meet-up for me. Still jealous that I can't join!

Woohoo, I'm glad your work came to their senses! Now you don't have to give up your spin classes

Haha thanks @@deecol! I appreciate your advice and input so I'm glad you chimed in ☺️

Thanks @@JoannaBanana @ @@acw271011! My coworkers liked the ribbon one too. I think I just need to fix it a bit more, especially the end parts so it hangs down lower. I'll try it on a charger to see which looks best. P.S. My 22 year old coworker liked the ribbon too so your taste isn't old! Plus, your wedding gown is anything but "old" in taste and look. It's actually pretty modern and sexy!

@@acw271011 I bought them from http://canada.linentablecloth.com/ They were under $10 for a dozen and came quickly. They're a good material too and the colour is so nice. They also have chair sashes and other linens. I bought the napkin ring from a local bride, 40 for $15. She basically made them from a roll of jeweled ribbon (I think Michaels has it) and attached a velcro to hold them together. It was a nice added being for our table. I'll be attaching a tag to the ring as place cards

@@acw271011 thanks for the input! My bridesmaids like the ribbon fold too but my MOH likes the other one. @ thanks I needed a touch of colour for our tables and this was a good way of doing it @@TinkerSofi thanks for your input it seems like the second one is the winner so far. How's your new place?

Thanks @@deecol and @@calgarybride2015 Both are surprisingly easy to do

Thanks @ @@deecol great minds think alike! I'm giving Der the option of wearing both the tie and pocket square, or just the pocket square for a touch of colour. Plus he'll have his boutonniere anyways. I thought he'll need as much air and ability to breathe since he'll already be sweating due to his nerves lol. He liked that idea Ok I need your opinions and advice. I'm bringing my own coral napkins since LatinAsia (our décor vendor) doesn't have any. I didn't want to pay another vendor just for napkins so I found my own. I will be placing the napkins on top of Silver plate chargers and the place cards will be attached to the napkin rings. Back to what I need your opinion on, which napkin fold do you guys prefer? I'm sorry the pics are rotated, I can't seem to fix how it gets uploaded. The first one is a ribbon and the second is supposed to be vertical and not horizontal This one? Or this one?

@@deecol we're having a legal ceremony too!

I'll pm you his info when I get home. That's a fantastic idea for an anniversary gift