@MissFrench: I was told by several people not to wash my hair the day of because "dirty" hair will stay put better than "clean" hair. But I ignored them... I was concerned about my hair getting frizzy during the night (from the humidity and from tossing around on my pillow). If you have type 3A/3B curly hair like I do, then you probably have a lot of texture to your hair. For both my trial and the day of the wedding, I showered that morning, and the hair stylists had no problem working with my hair. And it stayed put all night. So that's what I'd suggest.
What I did the morning of the wedding: in the shower that morning I used a TON of conditioner. I mean a TON! For my hair, which goes past my shoulder blades, I pretty much filled my entire palm with conditioner. And I just kept working it through my hair until all the tangles were gone and there were no rough spots. The key is to just barely over-saturate your hair... the more moisturized your hair is, the less it will need to pull from the air. So you want the conditioner to completely soak in, but at the end of working it through your hair you want a tiny bit left in your hands. I hope that makes sense, I probably didn't explain that very well
Then, while my hair was still sopping wet, I applied the gel. At home, I normally use non-silicone based hair products. But they're just not effective down in the humid Cancun air. So I used the silicone-based Catwalk Curls Rock Amplifier. 4 pumps did it for me. Then I just let it air-dry. As it dried, my hair became really hard and crunchy. So before the stylist started working on it, I broke some of the crunch... I left some, thinking that as she was working with my hair she'd break they rest.
As it was drying, I purposefully stayed indoors to prevent frizz, which meant that it took a really long time for my hair to dry. The stylist started working on my hair at about noon and it still wasn't dry (I showered at 9am), so she had to blow-dry it for about 15 minutes before she could start. So fyi.
Sorry, that was a long-winded answer to your question . I was just trying to be helpful since I completely understand your concern! Here's another another photo of the side. The hair stylist was the one who suggested the flowers... she just grabbed them out of the bouquet!