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@@ANM3 I feel the same way. I think it's a lot to ask of my friends. I did mention this to my BFFs, regarding the cost aspect, not that I didn't want them by my side, and they said they appriciated my concern, but that's for them to decide. So... we'll see. I have quite a while.

50! Only 100 more to go!

Anybody been? Vacation? Attended a wedding? Love? Hate? ALL the details! Even if it's just to say you saw it from the plane.

@@beckys98 Hah hah! I'm also like that. I need to research EVERYTHING. This is a weird question and a little backwards. I think I found the resort I would like to use. How do I go about finding a travel agent associated with it?

@@Mrsktobe I vote the first one! Sequins always work for a bach! Not to mention, dependsin on where you go, I don't know that I would wear white to my bach. I would be the first person to spill a drink on myself.

@@BrideToBeJolie A couple of my friends bought them for my BFF's wedding in June. They were inexpensive, around $40-60. They were not as cheap as we thought they would be - the ones my friends got were lined. They had bra clips in the dresses. They had a bunch of options, including the color we needed. I personally did not wear them, I chose a different brand/dress. But, the girls who did buy them were pleased. They are ready to wear, and for the most part, do not need to be altered (an added cost for BM dresses). Also, one of the girls bought two (well, actually she bought 8 styles, but returned 6 before the wedding) and was deciding between the two for the wedding, and the bride ended up wearing one of the to the rehersal dinner she liked it so much. One of the few cons we had with the dresses, they DO sell out easily. Or at least they did in the color that we needed. Depending on your style - I've gotten BM dresses from: http://www.lulus.com/ http://www.simplydresses.com/ http://www.modcloth.com/ http://shopruche.com/ http://www.laceaffair.com/

@@nadiakat17 One of my BFF was considering for her wedding. We had a different friend getting married who was having her girls in the infinity dresses. So a couple of us tried on the dress one of the BMs bought. I was not pleased and neither was my BFF (so thankful). I thought it fit me funny, but most of the girls trying it on felt the same way. Just was not flattering (IMO). IF you do go with it, make sure ALL your girls have some sort of support, even just some, ahem, covers. Double sided tape will not work to hide.

@@MorganRene What about boat shoes?

@@beckys98 @@kmk2016 @@LauraM Thanks ladies! What is the adverage cost of a travel agent? I've never used one, and obviously never for a wedding. I just usually do my own thing. That definitely has already happened. My BFF is helping me and she contacted one. I had specifically vetoed a brand (for a bunch of reasons, but most being cost) and the travel agent kept trying to pushing the brand even though my BFF said we were not interested. Not to mention, they don't even have a resort where we were going! It's pretty much why I came here and wanted to know why I needed one.

What are the pros and cons of having a travel agent vs. no travel agent?

@@Meandhim LOVE dress two and LOVE your shoes!

Slow and steady like a turtle!

Just wanted to say hi to a fellow newb!

@@kmk2016 I looked it up on the US Embassy to DR web site, but I thought MAYBE I didn't have to have the ceremony translated into Spanish, nope. Everything has to be translated. My birth certificate has to be an translated, certified copy. Embassy no. is 809-567-7775.

@@acw271011 I think if it were a regular wedding, not a DW, I would definitely run into the problem with people bringing their kids who are not invited. That's is part of the reason I wanted a DW, to discourage this. I think I will only have to worry about two parents bringing their children, or thinking it's okay to bring children... so if we are at an adults only resort, with an adults only ceremony, maybe they will realize their children are not welcome. However, I am not cool with paying for their sitter. I'm not inviting children for a reason. I should also mention, with at least one of the parents, I have a complicated friendship, as in you give her an inch, she takes five miles. I'm not doing this for my wedding.

Thanks for the suggestion @@calgarybride2015. I've been to David's quite a few times as I've been around the bridesmaid block quite a few times... I have yet to find one I like there. I also hate the fabric of like 75% of dresses. Honestly, I'd rather be in a cotton sundress and be very happy.

I feel like 'the little engine that could,' trying to get there...

@@calgarybride2015 I feel like I am being realistic about price. I honestly can not stomach dropping more then that on a dress. It's part of the reason I just kind of don't want to go, because I just don't want to spend more.

Have not started looking yet, but may go myself. I know my BFF will probably be upset with me, because I went with all of them, but I kind of just don't care about the dress. I would probably being okay with someone off the rack from Macy's or Bloomies. I just can't seem to see myself spending over $200 for a dress I will wear once. I think they are gorgeous and all, and I sure you all will look amazing, it's just not something I could see myself doing for me.

Hi! I'm pretty new too! Welcome!

@@kmk2016 the DR side is Spanish. The Haitian side is French. I didn't look into getting married in Haiti, but I assume it will be different because they are different countries. But even some of the Islands are split with different requirements. St. Marrten for instance, is split French and Dutch and it appears the laws and rules are different for the French vs Dutch. I don't remember why we nixed St. Marrten, but I remember being super confused by everything I looked up because some of it was geared toward Dutch and some French.

Working my way up!

Hi! Welcome! I don't have any advice other than my original choice was Punta Cana as well. Congrats on your engagement!

We will not be inviting them and discouraging parent friends bringing them along. Ideally, we would like a adults only resort. I just think it distracts from the vacation aspect and partying.

@@Tiffany1221 My (other) BFF, who was also kind of annoyed at what the first one said, mentioned she thought/felt that i/we should pay for off site guests to attend - which is why I posed the question in the first place. But I agree with you, before this website (and a couple of others) I assumed the proper etiquette would be to pay, but it seems with DW the rules of etiquette change a lot, especially with a/inc. resorts. @@kmk2016 I did not realize that most resorts will not allow you to leave children in the care of a baby sitter while they go off site! Totally understandable though, because what if something happens. @@calgarybride2015 @ I know that having it at an adults only resort/having an adults only wedding will make it for difficult for people to attend. When doing my guest list, I did not count those people in the numbers of people being able to make it. However, I do think it will eliminate (to a degree) some of the drama I know will come up. Of the friends with kids, there are at least two-three couples who, even if we had our weddding in the states and it was an "adults only wedding' would STILL try and bring their kids. And of those two-three couples, only one has well behaved kids. And, at least one of them, has in the past done everything she can to try and bring her child to friend's weddings. I know it will be an inconvenience for people to come, and that this might be one of the reasons why, but I'm/we're okay with that.