nadiakat17

Ah that is rough. Your parents aren't dumb. Most likely if they wanted to contribute they would have offered by now. I would say it depends on your financial situation bc asking for money will probably be awkward. If you can pay I wouldn't ask but if you are in dire need of cash I would...although I would just ask in general if there was anything to contribute and not for something specific. It's hard bc they are already shelling out a large sum to attend and I don't blame them if they want to spend their extra money on vacations and not on the logistics of a wedding. Maybe they are planning to give you a large wedding gift. You can always do what a poster said above and drop hints about paying.

Thanks everyone. I found some dresses and ordered them from lulus. If I have time I'll take one last trip to the mall . Tonight I'm going to finish packing, finish my vows, and work on half the music recs. weds finishing up music. Thurs nails and eyebrow wax. Friday leave from work to my parents and then super early Saturday taking a limo to the airport ( bringing champagne too) ! I'm going to try hard to enjoy the moment and not care about little things ( it's so engrained in my personality though!) I hear from everyone they wish they would have let everything go and just had a blast bc it will be over so fast. Not going to lie, already getting a little sad ( I'm so weird) that it's going to be over before I know it...hundreds of hours of planning and lots of excited family and friends! Wedding is Friday march 27!

I'm not taking my FIs last name because growing up my mom never changed hers and we have the same profession-in science a lot of times women keep their maiden name. So it has just been engrained in me. I get why people change their names and it does seem easier/romantic ( also my name is hard to pronounce and my FIs is easy) but for me my name is part of "me". Although not going to lie, it's nice not having to jump through all the hoops to change it My FI doesn't care ( if he did we'd have a problem, more on the principal of it all) and I told him the kids can have his last name but that means I get more pull picking their first name

Can't wait! the things I am doing now are haha buying a rehearsal dinner dress- so if anyone has cute ideas with 2 day shipping let me know- picking out some songs for the dinner, dj, and packing. Any last minute advice? When I come back I was thinking of doing a post planning thread lol- I made a lot of cute things but never got around to doing a planning thread

i get wanting to do the legal in the church if you are religious. I had thought about this but then went the route of just signing papers because I didn't want to take away from my mexico ceremony But for you since you will have your grandparents there etc, I would wear a nice white dress and have the priest bless you and say a prayer and have your family pray with you , do a reading, maybe light a candle, and maybe say some vows. I wouldn't do anything like have your dad walk you down the aisle or exchange rings..I think I would want to save some things - things that aren't necessarily part of a catholic marriage- for the mexico ceremony since you will def do them then and it will be more special that way...especially the ring thing. It would also be nice to have a lunch afterwards.

Make a detailed list and start checking off items. Even small things like making sure you have all your prescriptions filled to take with you or some books for reading. I packed a lot in the month before to make sure all our OOt bag stuff would fit , etc. Be mindful of things like for example I hadn't tried on my rehearsal dinner dress for awhile and did and then hated it, so now scrambling in last week to find new one. Every weekend I would make sure to finish my projects like the fans and maraca tags

I'm sad bc I tried to loose weight before the wedding and it didn't happen... I just love food too much I guess . Oh well!

Oriental trading was 24 usd and michaels was 16 usd fyi

We are bringing boxes. We checked with American airlines. For the amount of stuff we need to pack it is the only way. We had ginormous duffels but just had panic attacks bc I thought it would be ok since they are 50 inches but I didn't realize airlines meant 62 inches which is length plus width plus height. I'll let everyone know if I get stopped. I'm bringing receipts and I guess some cash to bribe if we have to

Sure! You are asking the pro. We are taking 150 lbs of stuff in wedding decorations oot bags etc to the wedding. It's all about packaging them well and dedicating a big suitcase or box to them

You can get a nice white lantern for oriental trading michaels also has a nice seasonal one

You can travel with that! You are just going to have to dedicate another suitcaseto it and wrap carefully. To be it was worth the extra 40$ suitcase fee to save all that money

I just kept our bridal party family only because I knew they were coming. In your case I would just play it by ear and for sure have your sister and two groomsmen. I think there's a way to keep costs down for the bridal party... We picked out 75$ outfits and ended up paying for almost everyone's . They are doing their own hair and makeup ( one is doing mine!) we gifted them with some nice things including the flip flops and the jewelry. And I'm glad on my part I only had 4 total so buying them this stuff wasn't too crazy

I am bringing a ton of glassware and breakable things over..the key is in the packing. Lucky I am getting married to an engineer to help pack the stuff. I think it is way too much for any carry on. We bought ginormous duffles (as long as they are 50 lbs we can check them ) and stuffed them with the stuff....the way we prevented breaks was by very careful packing. Things were wrapped in tissue/bubble wrap etc and then packaged in boxes. Bubble wrap padding the boxes inside the duffle. So yes, we are checking 150lbs of just decorations not counting our clothes bags etc. Hope this works!

I think she is behaving in an incredibly childish way. And no that's not too little to end a friendship over. I think you should talk it out and see what she has to say, just be honest. Although I'm not taking my own advice, my one "best friend " made no effort to come and I kept putting things off bc I thought she'd turn around last minute but that never happened. Instead I got to the point I just don't even care enough about the friendship anymore to bring it up... It's over for me

Hmm we are doing custom koozies that say 2 less fish in the sea... But we're not at an AI. We are giving people Mini loofahs ( I always travel w one bc abroad it's sometimes hard to even find washclothes) . We are doing packs of gum, custom playing cards. I heard some people doing pashminas or water proof cases to hold room key etc . Towel clips? I know inexpensive sunglasses might not sound great but I thought they'd be useful for people that don't think ahead/break their one pair/ don't want to wear nice ones on boat etc You can always put some money towards an excursion . Hope this helps

Haha @@calgarybride2015 I know! My kids would have been in so much trouble ( my parents would never have let that fly w us) his mom chides him but that's about it. He's so spoiled since he has so many sets of families buying for him. i love him but he's getting to old to act like that. We're going to start donating to a college fund instead of presents

I wanted my nephew to match the guys in tan linen suits... I searched on Amazon and found a cute option for like 80$ We gave it to him as part of his Xmas present. He's six and notorious for being ungrateful for presents he doesn't like so we were like well if he's going to hate it anyways better give him something practical. Of course he pouted and said " are you serious!?" Lolol

Wow just wow. It's amazing how we all have stories of completely rude people. I think it's probably best if you enlist your FIs help to talk to these people about not coming since at least he knows them. You can white lie a bit and say unfortunately you've aleady finalized payment and there is only a certain amount of people the reception is allowed. That sucks for the boss to pay for everyone in the sense that he's making it ok too. Did your FI mention anything at work where people thought that meant an invite? It also sucks the boss is not giving the two guys money too! But then you have to hope you get like a 2 grand wedding present...

Awesome menu! Again like I did with the programs, I did it more for the visual and not really to convey information...like everyone said, everyone will know who's in the wedding party

Good idea on the dress code . I had omitted it from my website bc I was like um who doesn't know how to dress for a nice beach wedding... Turns out a lot of people by the questions I got ( I know it's hot but I didn't realize guys were thinking shorts, although in the end I won't care )

Haha this sucks! I bought my FI groomsmans gifts bc he was like meh but good thing he let me do it. He may be pissed if you go behind his back... No good solution! I think just telling him that it's important and that he already told u he would do it , and say you'd be willing to buy them . Maybe offer other gift suggestions. I bought them Reef flip flops that have bottle openers on the sole and I found a travel bartenders kit with foldable shot glasses etc with room to zip up 3 mini liquor bottles... I think they'll love it . Just tell him it's tradition and most guys that have been to weddings before would probably expect a gift so it's just bad etiquette to not do it plus it reflects poorly on you

I wanted programs, mostly for the sentimental value so I can look back or my kids can see them. I would have loved to see my parents program bc they can barely remember what was done at their wedding. I think they look good in pictures and I made raffia fan ones so they are useful. You can always make the template snd add in groomsmen names a month out. I also made a note on there thanking guests, reminding them to take their fans and maracas and the order of group pics so they don't wander away. Plus as a guest I love programs, it is something to prevent boredom and being type A I like knowing the order of which things are happening. My 2 cents

@@calgarybride2015 I know right? I'm like , how Is this going to work logistically? I obviously don't know the inner workings of the relationship but on and off whenever I saw him most times one or the other would be with him. Never both! They all live in separate states and none are married. Even if they just all our friends why do they both need to come plus not to mention there is one bedroom...so annoyed

Haha @@rachelia160 I spoke too soon. Thought we had everything finalized as we are 1 month out! was on the last minute phone call with the wedding planner & my mom in conference call (side note: the wedding planner is going out of town for the next 2.5 weeks and sprung this on us to finalize and pay everything at this moment even though we weren't supposed to for another 10 days) and my mom slips in, oh my cousin is bringing both his girlfriends now (this is a whole other story)- which one was invited but had said she had work travel and declined previously. I was furious but how much could I say on the phone with the wedding planner. My mom was like eh no big deal don't worry about it and I was just fuming. I have no say since she is paying and obviously she doesn't understand why this is so frustrating. She was like, well some people don't know their schedules til last minute and I said "well maybe then they are forced to decline an invite at the RSVP date- which was 3 months ago PS"!) We have already packed our favors, maracas etc and made personalized name tags and seating charts. I had crossed these things off my to do list. I am logging 80 hrs per week now at work, its not like I have lots of down time to go back to all this stuff. Not to mention we made a single guys bag for the cousin and don't think we have enough materials and what would we say- to cousin plus 2 girlfriends? everyone else is a couple or single. I took my own advice and am trying to roll with it but there better not be anymore surprises- I don't think there can be as we are paying for guests in full today. I will do my best with the favors but can't really be too bothered as this was pretty rude of them.