Lilian84

Yeah no one in our bridal party is a couple so it doesn't matter. I just want everyone to have fun.

First of all I love KEEP CALM shirts this was one of my FI xmas gifts last year. They can be funny and personal. Second, my strong opinion would make me suggest exchanging gifts that same day through the mother or a groomsmen. Or... and I think this is what I want us to do... exchange gifts the day before, like the last thing we would do before we are apart and see each other at the alter.

At this point the amount of groomsmen and bridesmaid do not match. On top of that one of the groomsmen will be playing guitar (he's an amazing musician). I think I want my step daughter walking down the aisle alone if she's up to it, then my FI sisters together and then my sister and my 18 yr old niece while all of his groomsmen stand at the alter. Last but not least I will walk down the aisle with my father.

We need posts @@MJTK lol So my question to you is do yo want your mother to walk you down the aisle?

Oohhh that's you with the twin boys!! These forums get confusing! But I do love your boys being included I'm sure they love that. As for your step son.. Ugh teenage boys what can you do really?!?!

Absolutely! I have been working at the same place for 13 years now and love pretty much all of the 20ish girls I work with, even the ones I don't like so much... I will miss. Before I get married, and once my fiance visa goes through I will be moving to the US and changing my life around, no joke the hardest part is leaving my job. But one thing is for sure I will have a bridal shower and all of them will be there even if I do not invite them to my wedding. Most people understand and all they want is to celebrate with you.

That's really awesome. How old are your kids?

Looks good

I like that! kids are fun and can make for a great atmosphere for a wedding. I'm sure you will have a blast!

@@kmk2016 I love that your sons are walking you down the aisle, it's a great way to include them. I have a 10 yr old step daughter and I want her to feel that she is an important part of our new family. I will have her as a junior bridesmaid, but I think I want her dress to be a different color than the BP so that she feels special. I want to take her shopping for the dress I really hope she feels special and included in the whole process.

In my opinion etiquette is different when it comes to DW. I would ask myself this question: If I were getting married locally would I invite them and would they attend? If you feel close to them then why not invite them to the shower? I wouldn't be insulted if I wasn't going to a co-worker/friend`s DW and was invited to her shower, I'd go without even questioning it. Ultimately you have to do what feels right for you.

I hate when the people with the future bride are negative. But I guess if theres a party of 10, opinions are bound to clash. No matter I still love that show! lol

Love the story!!! Engagement and getting married had already been discussed because for us to be together I must apply for a fiancé visa to move to the U.S. I had already told him that I wanted to be surprised, and no cliché like a ring in a champagne glass, and had described aspects of a ring I would like. When I was visiting for a week early July, he got really serious and told me that he knew the type of ring I wanted but it would mean a lot to him and his family that IF and WHEN he proposed he would do so with a ring his mother that has just passed in November left for him to give to the woman he chose to marry. I was obviously very emotional about it, and thought he would probably do it next time we were in Florida, where the ring was. He also added that the ring would be too small, because his mother was very petite, but that it had a pearl with 7 or 8 diamonds and that it was beautiful. Anyways the week went on, and this completely slipped my mind. We stayed at a hotel one night and had gone out for a few drinks. We were sitting on the bed just cuddling, my head was on his shoulder and were talking about random stuff. And then he said ‘’well honey how would you like to have 8 diamonds on your finger?’’ I looked up and he was holding the ring, my very lady like reaction was WTF?!? Lol. I took the ring from him amazed, just looking at it. I couldn't believe he had fooled me. I handed it it back to him and said ‘’Do it again!’’ and then he said the most beautiful things to me about how he never thought he would love someone so much and that his mother wouldn't want it any other way. It was simple and beautiful and so us. Just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes.

I love the John Legend song too, the lyrics are just so beautiful! And the transition with the Tiesto remix is a great idea!

I am going with my mother, asked my sister she's still on the fence if she wanted to come or not (long story) I feel your pain @@calgarybride2015 lol. I also want 2 of my nieces to come along if they can get off work. My boss and one of our co-workers who are actually much more than just co-workers, after 13 years of seeing each other everyday they are like my 2nd family, want to go shopping with me as well. My game plan is to go first with my Mother and nieces, and then another day with the girls. I don't think it's possible to try too many dresses!

Etsy is amazing I love that website!

Like The Kardashians?

I love everyone’s stories!! Engagement and getting married had already been discussed because for us to be together I must apply for a fiancé visa to move to the U.S. I had already told him that I wanted to be surprised, and no cliché like a ring in a champagne glass, and had described aspects of a ring I would like. When I was visiting for a week early July, he got really serious and told me that he knew the type of ring I wanted but it would mean a lot to him and his family that IF and WHEN he proposed he would do so with a ring his mother that has just passed in November left for him to give to the woman he chose to marry. I was obviously very emotional about it, and thought he would probably do it next time we were in Florida, where the ring was. He also added that the ring would be too small, because his mother was very petite, but that it had a pearl with 7 or 8 diamonds and that it was beautiful. Anyways the week went on, and this completely slipped my mind. We stayed at a hotel one night and had gone out for a few drinks. We were sitting on the bed just cuddling, my head was on his shoulder and were talking about random stuff. And then he said ‘’well honey how would you like to have 8 diamonds on your finger?’’ I looked up and he was holding the ring, my very lady like reaction was WTF?!? Lol. I took the ring from him amazed, just looking at it. I couldn’t believe he had fooled me. I handed it it back to him and said ‘’Do it again!’’ and then he said the most beautiful things about how he never thought he would love someone so much and that his mother wouldn't want it any other way. It was simple and beautiful and so us. Just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes.

Belt buckle is a good idea too. I remember seeing a website that had really nice once, I'll try looking for it.

I only have 54!!! I still have 100 to go! I can't wait

@@calgarybride2015 That is really beautiful I love the idea! It's a way for her to spend the day with you. Just thinking of it makes me emotional. Beautiful idea! Where did you get it?

My FI lost his mother in November and he misses her terribly and wishes more than anything that she could be there when we get married. I also want to incorporate her in his gift but I'm not sure how. I was thinking maybe get him cuff links for the wedding with his mothers initials or something along those lines.

That is a good idea as long as they don't decide they want to see what's in it while you go through Airport Security, cuz that would really suck

In the province of Quebec we are not allowed to change our last name after marriage... Yay for Quebec and it's crazy useless laws! It's been this way for a long time and I somehow forgot that everywhere else it is possible and even normal to do so. I will definitely be taking his last name. We will be a family, I am proud to become his wife, and want to have the same name my kids will have. However I also feel as though my name is part of who I am. Could be because I'm so used to woman using their maiden name. Anyway we kind of touched the subject right after we got engaged while talking with a friend and he seemed surprised I wanted both names.... further discussion is required lol. But I will not be giving my name to our kids for their own sake, it's French and Americans will butcher it for sure! lol

My FI wants us to do that, but I kind of feel bad inviting some kids and not others. On my side of the family the kids are all grown up. His 10 year old daughter will be there and his family and friends have kids but he doesn't want all of them there. I just don't want to insult anyone