About 2 weeks ago I had a mini break down when my brother and SIL said they were hoping to have a baby next year. I think it frustrated me cause they know we are doing a DW. When I asked my brother if he would still come to the wedding his response was " well its a family friendly resort, right?" We are hopign to book at a family resort as there will be children invited, but at the same time I dont think that they have thought about taking an infant to a hot destination, and how much that will suck. I feel like a selfish person because I just want to scream at them to wait a bit, but it is their life and who am I to tell them when to have a family? My brother knows that I want him there, and it would hurt to not have him there, but like when he was getting married, they did it their way and my FI and I plan on doing it our way, which is DW.
In all honesty, the conversation about my SIL getting pregnant made me not want a BP at all (my SIL was going to be in the BP). I had a break down at maybe her being pregnant and not coming, and my wedding is over a year away! I could not imagine my BP backing out closer to the day. My FI is still unsure about the idea of not having a BP, but for my sanity and emotional well being I think it should strongly be considered. Like I have tried to tell him, at the end of the day, its about the two of us.