MissJen3

I have to admit that I stumbled upon my wedding dress in August. I had no intentions of buying it so far out from the wedding, but when I found it I couldnt imagine myself in anything else. It was a once a year sale, and it happened to be the last day of the sale, so I took it!! My FI and I are paying for the wedding ourselves so we have been collecting OOT items a little at a time so it does not feel so expensive/stressful next year. As for the STDs, we have to have deposits by the beginning of Feb. A lot of our guest have children, and with it being so close to Christmas we thought it was best to send the STDs now so they have a lot of notice. I think that we are done with wedding things now until the new year.

November 20th 2015!! I am very excited! So far I have purchased my dress, started collecting items for me OOT tumblers, and sent out my STDs.

We just sent out STDs out this week and we are not getting married till Nov 20 next year. I decided to send mine now because our deposit deadline is in Feb and with Christmas coming up I wanted to give people plenty of notice. We plan to send out our invited in June giving people a reminder at about 6 months until the wedding. Like others I have a website that I have told people to check often because we will be updating it as much as we can.

I lucked out and paid half price for my Cool Gear tumblers. My FI and I happened to be at Walmart at the end of the summer and they were marked down from $5 to $2.50 a cup. I have read that packing them might end up being a pain in the butt, and now it is looking like I might need to find more (how did we manage to invite so many people?), but I was VERY excited with my find at the time!

I reversed image searched on Google and when I did it took me to Colin Cowie Weddings. and from there I went to the website http://www.colincowieweddings.com/wedding-dresses I took a couple mins to search to see if I could find this one...so far no luck but I thought I would pass on what I could find so far. I couldnt let it go...LOL I found this! http://weddbook.com/media/2026737/bridal-french-lace-gown-by-maison-yeya-wedding-dresses-we-love-pinterest I think it is by a designer named Maison Yeya.

This topic is one that has recently been popular among my family, as well as my FI and I. We are getting married at the end of 2015 and at the time of our wedding I will be 31 and he will be 33. I have always said from the start that I dont want a honeymoon baby because I want some time to enjoy the honeymoon phase between the 2 of us. However, when asked when the right time will be, I almost want to say right away. I am so conflicted on this topic as well. Who knew that planning a wedding would bring up so many different topics, that are not necessarily wedding related at all.

I just have the resort, the destination, and Nov 20 2015. Plus our website.

I feel like once I get one thing figured out and get excited about it, something else comes up. LOL I am wondering if on a second page of my STD if I should write that as of now we are looking to start collecting deposits in Jan/Feb so people can start saving? I have included the wedding website on the STD, but I could move that onto the second page, and just write a short blurb about deposits??? And include our TA info so they can feel free to contact her before Jan/Feb if they choose?

I was just emailing my TA about this today. I am working on my STDs and went into a little bit of a panic. My concern is that if we ask our guests to put down deposits a year in advance, it might be cutting it close to Christmas for some of our guests with children. Our wedding is scheduled for Nov 2015. My TA said each person would only be required to put a $150 deposit down now, and the balance is required next summer. She also said that if I was concerned about it cutting it close to Christmas, I could wait till Jan to get deposits. The more I think about it though, Jan isnt a good time either because usually people are broke after Christmas. Ahhhh! I am so confused.

I am not planning on doing a registry either. However, in the last month, I have had 4 different people react negatively to the fact that I do not plan on having one. They actually got pretty upset with me. It is a very strange feeling to tell someone, " Come celebrate with us, that is enough for us" and they tell you they dont like the idea of no registry or bridal shower.

My FI and I are planning on doing the legal part at home as well. However, we are keeping it a secret. Im honestly not sure how my family would react if they knew we were legally doing it here. My dad actually keeps joking about just going to city hall and saving money on a wedding, and I am finding it increasingly harder to not tell him that we are planning on doing just that.

That is not a bad price per person. The cost of the tumbler is about the same cost as a bag, but without the cost of shipping. I may end up pitching this idea to my FI. The more I think about it, the more I like it.

That is a great idea! I have been looking at the cups at my local dollar store and really want to use them but the cost was adding up. This seems like the perfect compromise.

@@calgarybride2015 just to clarify, you are doing an OOT tumbler instead of an OOT bag? I love that idea!

I will be 31 and my fiance will be 34 on our wedding day. I actually had to do the math to figure that out. Lol I do not feel that old at all!

It went really well! I actually stumbled upon my dress by pure accident. I am about 14 months out from my wedding so I had decided to wait a few months before buying but when I tried mine on I had to have it. Not only was it what I had envisioned, but the shop was having a fantastic sale so I couldn't say no. An added bonus is that the only alterations I should need is a hem and to tighten the lace straps. I am very excited about my dress. I feel like I could ramble on and on about it.

I will admit that I am a giant baby when it comes to pain. I do not handle it well at all. Watch out if I get a sliver. ahah. Anyway, I have always said I would wait because it may end up being my only motivation to push through it.

In a way, I do think there should be a time frame on when to find a dress. In my case, I happened to stumble upon it this past weekend, and my wedding is 15 months out. I couldnt imagine myself leaving the store without the dress, so I purchased it. I realize my wedding is more than a year away but I think it was meant to be. I would say start looking when you feel comfortable. Like finding the right guy, it will happen when it happens.

I have yet to address the envelopes, but some of my friends who are getting married this year had some pretty cleaver ways of finding out names. Twice I was asked "How do you sleep your boyfriends (we werent engaged yet) name." In the end they admitted that they had forgotten his name, but knew it was spelt differently. He was very happy to see his name on the invite. I think its a nice personal touch to make sure you have all names included.

@@TinkerSofi I am a very indecisive person as well. When I tried it on yesterday I said that if I left the store without it I would be pretty upset, so I knew it was the one. I plan on taking it to my future SIL's house to store it there. She lives in a different city, and makes it harder for me to pull it out of the bag every day and think far too much into it. Im just going to try and remember the excited feeling I had when I tried it on.

@@calgarybride2015 I really like that idea! I wanted to use luggage tags but thought if I put them in the OOT bags they might not be used because the guests will probably have their own. But your idea seems perfect.

I just bought my dress yesterday. With my wedding being a year away I didnt want to purchase it so soon but I found a fantastic deal and just couldnt pass it up. I feel like the dress is everything I imagined. Finger crossed that in a years time I will still feel the same way.

Good thought! I didnt even think about allergies and such.

I just watched City Line this morning and this was one of the topics that they discussed. The Wedding Bells expert that they had on said it was very much ok to ask your guests to not use social media for your wedding photos. She also suggested that you write it on your invite in a very positive way. (Something like "we want to experience this special day with those who are closest to us, so please refrain from posting pictures on social media outlets, until the big day is through") However, like @@kmk2016 mentioned, she also said that your guests might not be able to help themselves, so you might want to create a hashtag or specific facebook group that your guests can post photos to and also include that information on the invite.

This may be an odd thought, but is it even necessary to do RSVPs? After sending out the STDs and invites, people should be placing their deposits, and after the deadline date, wouldnt your travel agent be able to tell you how many have booked? Just thinking out loud...