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@@zeman321 Yeah, we decided to forgo the christmas lights at that price. That said, I have found that they're willing to do a lot of decorating for no cost. I'm doing my own centerpieces and they're setting that up for free - and there are a few components to them. They are only charging $1/chair bow. Not bad. That price for starfish is nuts!! I'd be surprised if they charge you to set them up down the aisle though if you supply them.

@@Mrsktobe Yes, I don't care that she isn't taking an interest. Better for me, actually. But I do think it is b.s. that I'm going to have to buy her a BM gift....what am I thanking her for? That she didn't cause a problem??!! Good luck with your MIL and SIL. And I'm sorry you're dealing with that - such b.s.!!! This is a second marriage for me (first for FI) and my ex MIL was a nightmare and a half!! Like to the point where she was looking at white wedding gowns to wear to the wedding! I am very fortunate to have a wonderful, wonderful MIL this time around.

We decided no gifts. We're splurging on our honeymoon instead

@@Mrsktobe Ugh! You've got it from both ends?? I'm so, so sorry!!! Is your BIL in your wedding party? I'm just a very passive person who always likes to do the right thing...even though it often bites me in the you-know-what. Plus I know it meant a lot to FI that I asked her. He's not close with her at all and goes out of his way to avoid her drama, but he did make a point of thanking me for including her. So at least he recognizes that I did it because it was the right thing to do and not necessarily because I wanted to. I don't think I'll have to put my foot down on anything with her, because she doesn't seem to take an interest in my wedding at all (which is fine). I think she also thinks I don't deserve any attention because it's a second marriage for me - first for FI. I'm going to resent buying her a BM gift even more though!

@@TinkerSofi Hmmm... interesting that you were on the receiving end of this situation. Was it still a good experience for you? So far, sis-in-law is the only BM who hasn't offered to help with anything (I only have 3 girls, total.) I guess I shouldn't be surprised because the whole family calls her selfish but still, if I can do the right thing and invite her in, I feel like she should do the right thing and offer to help....even if she doesn't want to. @@Mrsktobe That stinks that your bridal party is causing you stress. For me, sis-in-law is just clearly not interested. I suspect part of it is because I am (indirectly) taking some of the attention away from her.

FI is one of three kids, the other two of whom are married. He asked his bro-in-law to be a groomsman and bro to be best man. I was very happy to ask his sis to be a BM, but just to make things easier and not cause any waves, I asked sis-in-law too. I know it was the right thing to do seeing as everyone else was being included, but I kind of resent that I did that. Sis-in-law makes me feel like a third wheel when it's the three of us - me, her, FI's sis. She's also made it difficult for me and FI's sis to have our own relationship/friendship. She says things to FI's sis like 'hi, this is your ONLY sis-in-law because she's not married yet.' It's a total insecurity issue but it makes me unhappy that this is happening. I hate that I do the right thing and she doesn't. The entire family walks on eggshells around this girl and it drives me nuts. She doesn't deserve it. And I couldn't have made it easier than I did with BM dresses. I picked a color and said something above the knee please. After that, do what you want - any dress you like, any shoes you like, do your hair as you like...and then FI's sis comes back to me and says 'we saw long dresses that we like in your color, how about those?' Does anyone else have issues like this??? Sorry to vent but I can't help it.

Sorry you're going through this! If you do switch though, take a look at Now Sapphire. We found their packages very reasonable, and you can bring your own decorations for little to no fee. So far the only decoration fee we're being charged for is chair bows - $1/bow, versus $5/bow if we used the resort's.

@@duchovny0901 Thanks, but that site leads me to amazon?

I was thinking about a loose side bun that is low with a waterfall braid or something similar. But I always wear my hair down and FI asked me if I would consider wearing it down for our wedding. So I kinda want to wear it down. I've been looking at styles that include waterfall braids, but are still halfish down. Brides posts some great ideas on FB.

For our ceremony, we are thinking: Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Hawaiian version (processional, for everyone but me) Best Day of My Life - (processional, for me.) Also thinking about Marry Me by Train but listening to it makes me burst into tears. I don't want to cry walking down the aisle. I don't know if I'll actually have the guts to do it, but we've been talking about Talk Dirty To Me for when we leave. lol.

@@duchovny0901 Hi! Where did you get the shoes? I can't see them because I haven't reached 150 yet and the size isn't right for me but they sound very pretty! I've been struggling to find appropriate wedges.

Does anyone know where I can buy plastic hurricanes for candles? I'm only seeing glass ones that are $25/each and up.

@@zeman321 I have Juan Carlos as well and he's wonderful! I heard that they're very slow at responding until your wedding nears but I haven't found that to be the case at all, and I'm getting married in July. I usually get a response within 2 days.

@@MrsRoberts Can you send me a pic of the earrings? My email is robynbrooke81@@gmail.com

@@AllieH Hi! Can you please send me a picture of the turquoise table runners and the sparkly starfish? My email is robynbrooke81@@gmail.com

July 12th at Now Sapphire. Woo hoo!!

I will be 34 and my fiance will be 38 (though one week shy of 39). Second marriage for me and a first for him. Everyone's different, but what I've noticed is that those friends who got married at 30+ are still together. Those who got married younger (I was 25) are now divorced. I think a lot of it has to do with how we evolve as we get older - sometimes couples evolve together and sometimes not. .

@@moodyc82 Hi! Can you send me a picture of the shells? Also what are diamond table crystals? My email is robynbrooke81@@gmail.com.

Anyone have experience decorating the tequila terrace with Christmas lights and/or hanging lanterns (lanterns that don't light up)? Juan Carlos quoted me $400 to do the Christmas lights - says we need to rent 3 poles at $100/each and then a $100 labor fee. I'm not sure it's worth that much to us. For those of you who are planning evening receptions at the tequila terrace, how do you plan to decorate? Does anyone know what kind of lighting is already there?

@@xtina6210 Our reception is ending at 10:30 too and I believe the nightclub opens somewhere between 10-11pm. If people are still up for partying, we'll continue it on over there. Who cares if it's empty? Better for you! Then it's like a private party that you're not paying for

@@BrideToBeJolie We picked Now Sapphire! I'm so excited I think we def made the right choice.

@@Smellsey Hi! It came down to an Azul property and a Now property for us too - maybe the pros and cons I found will help: Azul (now I was at Azul Beach, not Azul Fives) Pros: - food was phonomenal - sky wedding was incredible. So was the Villa we saw. - great amenities for kids based on Fisher Price partnership - relaxing Cons: - They had multiple weddings going on at the same time, a few hundred feet from each other. They say they only do two weddings a day but if you go on the Lomas website, it says one per hour between 11 - 6. - Expensive. We felt nickel and dimed on everything. - You have to use their vendors through Lomas Now Sapphire (we ended up booking this): Pros: - Great value. We got everything on our 'must have' and 'would like to have' budget - cheaper rooms for guests, but still beautiful - Staff communicates well with you - With the exception of chair bows, they will set up your stuff for free (chair bow set-up fee is $1 per bow) Cons: - The beach ceremony spot doesn't give you a tremendous amount of privacy - The pool - it's one huge one rather than multiple smaller pools

@@jh0510038 We are expecting in the 50ish range as far as guests go, but that's based on what we're hearing from people (our STD are going out next week) thus far, not actual numbers. We invited more people than I would've liked so I'm hoping we get a lot of no's! We are doing a one hour cocktail reception and a three hour reception, with a one hour break inbetween our ceremony and cocktail hour for pictures. For flowers, I'm on the fence. We are making our own centerpieces (no flowers) so I need only for ceremony - bouquet, bout, corsage, canapy, etc. I'm thinking about hiring a florist to do the bouquets, bouts and corsage and applying those flowers that are included in my wedding package to the canapy. I hear that if you meet the florist at the gate, they don't charge a vendor fee and the florist I talked to only has a $200 minimum requirement.

@@JaxBchKay I wasn't planning on menu cards. My understanding from Anel is that guests need to make their dinner selection before they arrive on-site. @@tcaurie07 We are doing the Divine package and I was told that extra people are $129/each. This includes extra chair set-up, dinner, bar service, extra cake, extra champagne, etc. etc.

@@Tiffany1221 Whoops! I gave you the reverse. It's www.jeffandrobyn2015.com. My bad.