jeffandrobyn

@@SusanMarie813 I don't think I'd put where you're registered at on the invitation, but if you're making a website, that's a great place to add it. Then you can add your website to the invitation. Also tell your immediate family where you're registered and say you're telling them 'in case they get asked.'

@@kellymiller Can you blame it on the resort? You could say that the booking deadline has passed and you had to give a final headcount to the resort at that time. Unfortunately there is no flexibility to add people to the list at this point per your wedding coordinator.

There's some awkwardness surrounding my shower and I don't know how to handle.... any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. So my best friend was planning a surprise shower for me. It's no longer a surprise because FI slipped but that's another story. She was planning it with the help of another friend, and left our parents out of it. She wanted to plan it herself. My mom passed away, but FI's mom wanted to get involved, so she reached out to my friend. My friend was planning a small-ish shower at her house which I liked. FI's mom looked at the guest list and said she wanted to add a couple of people. She also suggested moving it to a catering hall (not my thing) and said she'd pay for the entire thing. My friend told her I don't like the catering hall she was suggesting. FI's mom doesn't want to step on my friend's toes, but now everyone is in an awkward spot. There's only so much push back my friend can give without being disrespectful and i am not supposed to get involved. all i can do is provide suggestions on how my friend can respond to FI's mom. But like I said, my friend is in a tough spot now... how does this get handled??

@@calgarybride2015 yay!!! 11 days is awesome.

@@erobin223 I have a picture from Juan Carlos of the lighting that is provided. Let me know if you'd like it and I'll email it along. I can't post pictures for some reason unless I'm starting the thread.... even though I have more than 150 posts

@calgarybride2015 @acw271011 @@cometgirl Thanks ladies! Yes, it def feels more real now that they're out... FI and I even said 'wow, it's officially real now." Plus it got me even more excited!! I remember when I created my website it there were over 300 days to go. Now I'm in the 180s. Yikes!

I don't think a few months after the fact is too much. We are leaning towards an AHR (this is pending budget since we are paying for our DW ourselves) a few months later as well. Though I will admit this is partially due to the fact that my aunt will be undergoing chemo during my wedding and can no longer attend

My invitations went out on Friday and RSVPs are already coming in! I'm SO excited and just had to share! Also, for those brides who don't want to pay extra for custom stamps (you pay the postage plus a fee to have them customized) the post office now has 70 cent stamps that have a wedding cake on it - very pretty. Or if you order online, there are hearts and stuff that say I Do. I got the wedding cake ones since they were already there at the office I went to. Yay!!!!

@@JaxBchKay I have a budget sheet. If you send me your email I will give it to you.

Oy! I work in the travel industry, but am not a travel agent. Let me issue that disclaimer first. That said, and I know this sounds horrible, is that your TA may be pushing a specific supplier like Transat bc it offers a higher commission than other tour operators. That said, since Transat is a tour operator it should have relationships with other resorts like the two you are interested in. Also, group rates aren't necessarily cheaper but there are incentives and added value. For example, I'm getting married at now sapphire. The rates online are $1 more than my group rate. However my group rate includes ground transfers, resort credits for the spa and room credits for me. If guests find cheaper rates elsewhere, I wouldn't stress and just let them do what they want. I have guests that aren't even staying at my hotel. As for why they can't match what your friends found online, it is probably bc it's an expedia rate or something. I could go on about the reasons behind why that affects everything but I'll spare everyone. Lol. Private message me if you want. I hope it works out for you!

My girls are all wearing teal and I said I want above the knee length. I was encouraging everyone to get what they want bc I wanted them to feel comfortable. I also like the way mismatched dresses look in photos. But one of the girls copied the other one, but just picked a diff shade of teal. I was annoyed but it wasn't worth the hassle to me of saying something.

@@CurlyKristen this is the first time I'm hearing about this - yikes! Can I just ask where you read about it? FI will be taking a lot of stuff with us too!! We're taking OOT bags and its contents, vases, lanterns, placecards.... def over $300 worth of stuff but my thought is, how would they know how much it cost?

@@KRP87 We have a package that includes pictures too, but I've heard very mixed things about the resort photographer and so we hired our own. For photographers, you only have to buy the day pass, which is $65 and not pay the entire vendor fee. Wow. That's bs. If you were quoted one price and have a budget sheet from the resort that reflects that, I am absolutely boggled as to how they think they could get away with raising you after the fact. I think FI will flip out if Juan Carlos tries to switch the price on us. He's an attorney and will use that if he has to.

They will put up any decorations you want. Some things have labor charges (ie - putting on chair bows that you supplied) and some don't (ie - making your own center pieces and having them set them up. My guess is that hanging anything from the canopy would incur a charge because it requires someone going up on a ladder and such. It could become a liability issues.

I was told by my resort that even the 'rainy season' usually just means a sprinkle of rain that lasts a few minutes. Nothing significant. But I agree with the others - make sure your venue as indoor options just in case.

So my best friend (MOH) is planning my shower. It's supposed to be a surprise but FI slipped. I know she took it upon herself because my mom passed away and my dad isn't much of a help. When I talked to my dad about a shower awhile back he said "I thought about it but wasn't going to do anything because I thought it would remind you of the one you had when you were first married." I interpreted that as my dad didn't think of it and was trying to make excuses. Either way, I never brought it up again. Now my future MIL has expressed an interest in being part of this, both with the planning and a financial contribution. So my MOH and her will be speaking after the holidays. I know men don't go to showers, but I also know my dad is going to probably be mortified when he finds out that my MIL paid for part of it and he did not contribute anything at all. My dad has very poor social skills (ie - he didn't know he was supposed to bring a gift to a family chanukah party.) So my question is - do I have my FI tell my MOH to tell my dad about it. Not point blank ask for a financial contribution but just let him know it's happening and the date? Or just leave it? Our parents are not contributing to the cost of the wedding, so this would not be an added expense. And again, it's not about the money, it's about him feeling embarrassed after the fact. We had an engagement party and he was the only person there not to bring us a gift. He just didn't think of it. That's who he is. I know it's not malicious.

@@DinaQtobe beautiful pics and congrats!!! I love your hair. Did you find that wearing it down made it frizzy through the night?

We are having the hotel deliver them to each guest room on the day the guest arrives.

I'm doing wedges. I need height! lol.

I agree. Every friend is fun and great when nothing is wrong and it's all light-hearted, but when you run into trouble, need support or help well... that's when I saw who my true friends were. And not for nothing, the girl I'm referencing didn't even call or text to say congratulations on my engagement when she saw it on Facebook. That was disappointing. Though I guess the fact that I didn't think to call her and tell her the news tells me something too. FI had thrown me a surprise mini-engagement party immediately after our proposal. It was only family and our closet friends and very, very informal, but he didn't even think of her either. @TiffanyMC I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I feel like weddings always bring out either the best or worst in people. I had a friendship end over a DW a few years ago. I got sick the day before my friend's wedding...like vomitting, can't sleep sick, not hungover sick...and I was MOH. Her hubby and her got mad at me that I was trying to take attention away from the bride. Seriously?!! Meanwhile I took anything I could to make myself feel better temporarily and didn't let on to anyone that I was not well the day of her wedding. At her after party, she got mad at me for changing out of my bridesmaid dress into something a little more comfortable and - knowing that I was sick - got mad at me for leaving 2 hours after the after party started. Adding fuel to the fire was that she was already annoyed that I was only staying 4 nights instead of a full week. I was not in a financial position to stay longer. She was aware of that and STILL was upset with me.

We are doing white fabric over the canopy with bushels of flowers in the middle.

@@KRP87 The aisle runner is $100 and material for the canopy is $200.

I have a good friend who I haven't seen much in the last two years - first she had a bad pregnancy and now she's got a baby. Even before then, things were one-sided with me making most of the effort to maintain the friendship. She's scared of planes so I knew she wouldn't come to my wedding but I planned to invite her anyway. She received a save the date. Then about two months ago, we had a little tiff over my bachelorette party when she said 'she doesn't mind going out as long as her daughter is sleeping because she doesn't like to miss any time with her when she's awake,' I got really annoyed at that - she's married and has lots of childcare options - but also, since she's not going to be at the wedding I would think that she would at least want to come to this. We didn't talk for two months until a few weeks ago when I said Happy Bday. I go on FB yesterday and see she had a big 1st birthday party for her daughter at her house. I felt like that was a huge slap in the face not to invite me. I sent her a nice text - saw you had a bday party for your daughter, she's so cute, can't believe she's one already! I wanted to see how she'd respond. She didn't respond at all. So between that and how our friendship has been over the last few years, I am questioning whether to send her an invitation at all now, even though she got a save the date. What do you think?

@@kyoung090 did someone at the resort tell you the preferred pool is an option? I was just there in July and the choices were some indoor spaces, a garden off the indoor space, the pool terrace or the tequilla terrace.

We are not telling anyone. It will be a secret between me, FI and my best friend who will be our witness. We aren't making a big deal of it - not getting dressed up, celebrating afterwards, etc. We're looking at it as just something else on our to-do list to make our day in Mexico more special. We will celebrate our DW date as our anniversary.