LisaAnthonyPoppy

@yasminea84you could have a 70 person massage line. Lol Syke. If your having your wedding at the resort and all your guests are staying at a resort, maybe it would be nice to get OUT from the resort, together. 70 people is a lot of people to get together though geesh!

I'm having ours the 2days before wedding. We are staying in a condo with a complete kitchen and a roof top jacuzzi, and outdoor kitchen. So in the evening family are coming over just to hang, eat some food that we will grill and drink some cold ones. Was trying to get a massage therapist to bring over an express massage chair and give ppl 15 minute massages at my expense. But as of right now haven't found someone who has those chairs. I only have about 25 guests. If people wanna leave from there n go to the pool, or beach that's a possibility. I'm trying to set no "rules" so that it's a more relaxed evening, where guests will feel comfortable. Not doing OOT bags, none of my guests would want or need one. But I do know they would like a massage in my condo while hanging out. So I'm working on that. Hopefully the night will be calm and feel like will have good energy. I don't know what to do if your staying at a hotel. Maybe they could reserve a section of a restaurant for you, or if you want to be more active, there's lots of places to have group activites if you go on tripadviser I hope this helped a little bit.

Damn that is crazy! An $800 vendor fee?! The resort obviously gets kick backs by having a "house" dj, no surprise there! Bc they tack those hefty vendor fees on if you don't! Goodness. In my Kanye voice "that sh** crazy".

Is the credit they are 'giving" you worth hiring the hotel DJ just so you have an MC? Is it included with your wedding costs already or do you have to pay a large amount? If its free or a low cost, and all you need is a good MC I would hire after you have some chats with him. I think a DJ is more important to your guests than anything. IDK tough call. I am having about 25 guests and we hired a DJ and an LED dance floor to make our large venue cozier, giving it a dedicated space for dancing. We didn't have to pay a vendor fee though. That's a tough one. Best bet would be talking to the hotel DJ and see if he can accommodate your needs and see if you like his personality. Good luck dear!

I guess it depends on 2 things. 1.) are you marrying at a place that will allow you to bring in a dj of your choice? 2.) a lot of WC have people they are friends with in the business and like to recommend their services. Your doing the right thing by coming on here and asking. It's good to be thorough. And I agree DJ is so important. If it wasn't for my DJ being so awesome this far I would be worried bc my venues WC quit last month. But I think my dj will keep things moving along come wedding day. Good luck!

I bought one to take. Was just a simple one for like 10 bucks at Craft Store. I didn't put much thought into it.

Yes they are not bad. I am packing 14 9 inch glass vases for pillar candles, and some other vase like stuff, table overlays, and a few others. Not much. I found the chargers at Michaels for .75 almost on a huge Christmas sale. They are gold. Couldn't pass it up! Mother in law is a TA who gets free luggage so I'm packing and hAbding over to her

I'm actually bringing 30 charger plates lol

Congrats! Something to consider is NOT choosing a resort. We decided to just let everyone choose where they wanted/could stay and then we chose to have our wedding at a beach club. Don't let beach club scare you. The beautiful beach club we chose did not have a rental fee, and you could get prices for about 40-50 bucks per person. Obviously you can customize it and the price would vary. We wanted to customize it so we are able to have whatever food we want, whatever dj, florist, baker, photographer we want, officiant etc and have to pay ZERO extra vendor fees! Additionally we don't have to run around crazy worrying about people booking rooms, which seems to be a common stressor I see on here. And we don't have to have our guests pay an exorbitant amount of money for a room while providing the option for those who do. Just a thought. Have fun!!

Thanks girl

@@calgarybride2015 can't. I wont let anyone take my children to a different resort for the day. Anyone.

Alright so I've been patient. This new wedding coordinator is not so great. I've tried to be patient. She was hired on Jan 22 and did not reach out to us. No biggie, she's prob really overwhelmed. So I'm sympathizing with her. However; she assured me she had my file and reviewed everything once I contacted her. Then I emailed her last week and she doesn't respond I have to call her, her VM is full I have to email her again asking her to confirm my rehearsal time as previously arranged and do an additional email asking her to please respond. She tells me that she can so rehearsal but 2 hours before the time that was previously set. No big deal except it is a big deal!! It's the day before my wedding and I have commitments and I can not change everything. I also mention my schedule and vendors and she said she was not aware I had vendors. Lol. Wtf. She clearly didn't read my file. So I then forwarded her all of my previous emails. To show her what was agreed upon and what Was already scheduled. Also in the same email she tells me she won't have time to arrange my 3 guests tables. I mentioned to her I was going to send her a photo of how I needed the centerpieces, table overlays etc set up. I explained there would be a large photo in each box. And for every table there would be a separate box, so all you have to do is pull out photo and arrange each box as photo. Nothing complicated, I'm talking votive holders and table overlays plus a normal place setting. She's a wedding coordinator what else is she doing before my my wedding? Double checking food? Talking to Dj? Meeting officiant? Good. Yes this is her job and I miss the old coordinator I'm not even mad she went AWOL. Baby come back!!! Lol Idk I've got a solid dj. He will help with that. Blah.

Same. Being creative..,

@@yasminea84 I do mind. I don't mean to put you off but until I hear them spoken by our officiant I kind of want to protect the sanctity of them, if that even makes sense. Thank you for asking though.

I like that your doing about 25 mins for photos. That makes sense. And then when guests are done they can go on to the cocktail. How many guests are you having? We are only going or have 25-30. I'm so OCD about dining and the flow, it stems back to my childhood memories of my father sitting down to dinner and in a matter of fact way, letting his server the way her wants his meals served " please bring out my appetizer and leave no lag than serveral minutes once you see that it is completed until you serve my dinner salad" lol oh Greek men. Anyways if my planner was saying allow for it I would be fine as long as there were no gaps in courses. And 5 courses would take about an hour and a half so she's prob correct. Wafflesmom, I looked into it too! Couldn't afford to swing it. I have never attended a DW before. If the hotel rooms were easily accessible than I think it wouldn't be a problem. There are so many wedding traditions that I never even heard about, like how it's popular in NY to start dancing before food is even served and in between courses. I love hearing everyone's ideas. It brings up really interesting perspectives and lets me think about all of my options!

I'm not sure but if you find it awkward opt out. Have the champagne flutes at the place seatings instead!

Thanks!!

Good point! If wafflesmom has some sort or entertainment that might engage her guests. Maybe set up a mojito diy station or something hell, idk lol! So do you think I should talk to parents to get specifics on photos? I've tried to do that but they are completely lax about it and watch, I guarantee come D Day that they will be trying to get camera time and be confused and unorganized. Regroup Lisa. Ok MC will have list.

@@misbosox you have time to do the things you make time for. If you need to register go register, it only takes a day. If you need to have a shower look at what works best, again it might not be perfect but works best. You got this. You can do it.

Speaking of the time... It happens to be a full moon our wedding night. Hoping for a clear sky. @@Wafflesmom I always thought cocktail hour was so your guests could mingle while you get photos. I guess as long as you swing it the right way like your guests all staying at same resort etc that would be cool. I guess I would be worried guests might lose their mojo. But I'm not sure your whole line up exactly. But I've seen other brides do it similar to yours! The lighting can present a problem. I think that's why we are going to do a ttd session during the day. Our beach club doesn't close to public until 6. So I thought 7 would leave room for any marginal mishaps. Are you brides going to show the coordinator how you want it set up? And are you going to check it out before ceremony to make sure things are correct. I know it's suppose to be a pampering day for bride. But I'm afraid my mind won't shut up until I see everything is correct. I'm not afraid to admit I am a perfectionist. I am a Virgo. Lol

Yes, we are. Well, kinda. Not is exclusively the whole time. I want to get some wild unposed posed shots. And maybe some movement photos with the kids, like running and hugging and walking. You think 30 minutes will be enough time for that based on your experience? We don't have a bridal party. And so I thought maybe the rest of he cocktail hour could be used to photograph the guests or us interacting with them? Thoughts?

Buffets are gooood. We didn't have 50 guests so couldn't get buffet,

Good point, I didn't think about ceremony running over. I have the whole ceremony written out. I should practice it. Hmmm. I know everyone is scheduling for more time for photos than me. I wonder if I will have regrets. We are doing a ttd session 2 days after. But bc our ceremony will be right at sunset I'm not sure what to do. I've already got $600 for 2 hours total wedding photos and $700 for ttd photos. I just remember with my first child I was photo crazy. Wondering if I'm making right choice with not doing a lot of photos.

Sounds amazing! I like hearing your timeline. Bc it brings up little but import thing that I hadn't thought of. 1. Giving photo info to MC 2. When to thank everyone for coming. We are a small group and I keep things informal but you helped me see that we need to say a few words of gratitude. So thanks for sharing!

@@calgarybride2015 ?. The lyrics start immediately after an 8 count, maybe in 4 count. Did you walk out have DJ announce and them commence song, or just step on dance floor? I'm thinking having dinner music then have a louder volume song come on " made to love" also by john legend and then have that cut after like 20 seconds and Scott and I begin to dance to all of me. How did you do it?