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I made so many trips to Indianapolis cooked, cleaned, made decor/invites was running around on her wedding day fulfilling any and every request. And I still would. It's amazing how people forget how to treat others when they are not in need. At minimum be honest and upfront and it wouldn't hurt to exercise a bit of grace if telling a bride you can not attend her wedding.

Omg my sister, my only sibling told me she didn't want to have to save even though I gave her 18 months notice, bc it would impact her daily quality of life to save for my wedding. That I'm selfish and my wedding is not suppose to be for me, it's for my family,(mind you my family is my 2 children and their father) and the honeymoon should be when I travel! You think she would put together a bridal shower or anything? Ha! I put together her entire bridal partly, she lives out of town btw, lugged her and her friends around Chicago 41/2 hours away for her bachelorette party etc. People always put themselves first, and when you find someone who is considerate keep them around!

Ok so I have traveled a ton thus far in life and I know the do's and don'ts of luggage and all of that. Any time I have travelled with jewelry I have been wearing it. Our wedding bands?? I get it, the pocket, the purse, the carry on etc. But I've also heard stories of people getting things taken right out of their carry on without catching it during routine luggage check, right in front of them. Has anyone just bit the bullet and wore your wedding rings until you got to your destination and then securely (hopefully) locked them into your lock box? Thoughts? Experience?

@@beckys98 oh that's really cool! At least it gives you peace of mind. I hope we have something similar! @@beckys98 oh that's really cool! At least it gives you peace of mind. I hope we have something similar! @hellosassypantsyour wedding is so close!!

What details are you including?

The best registry tool is Amazons universal registry button. Discovered this little beauty Saturday! Awesome bc none of the unique stores have registries! Now it doesn't matter!

I am no doctor nor am I giving medical advise, but the comment about diets made me think about internal body health. I started taking 5 -HTP. 100mg extended release from Natrol. You can find at health food stores. It has kept me more calm, happier, sleeping better, more motivation, and I've lost about 5 pounds in 3 weeks bc I'm not reaching in the fridge to comfort me throughout this stress. Again, not recommending anyone take medication even OTC but wanted to share what has helped me recently. I've also been taking barre classes and I sware my butt has lifted 2 inches. It was in need of desperate help! For food - I can't diet, I just can't. I don't want to that's the problem. So instead of dieting the last month I've thought of the nutritional value of my food instead of calories. So for example instead of saying to myself I'm not gonna have this or that, or I gotta eat eggs and no toast, I think to myself What can I eat to give my body protein, or vitamins etc. Idk if I've lost weight because of it, but I feel a lot better. I've not been hard on myself for putting crispy chicken on my salad instead of grilled bc I've convinced myself the nutritionally dense kale and carrots in my salad is giving me lots of vitamins. And I've been sticking to it feeling satisfied. Hoping that I can stick to it for 3 months! Maybe forever? @@kellymiller That is SO exciting! 2 weeks- sooo close. Did you do any personal touches besides an OOT bag (I'm not doing one) for the wedding yourself?

@@rachelia160 Omg I'm sure your friend is wonderful, but I wouldn't second guess your judgement, I would second guess hers! Lol You did and said the right thing. And bless your heart, she brought it up you were so patient and not quick to snap. Do and ask for what you think is best my dear.

@ I see your point. I think it's common not to receive gifts but I think a registry should be created for those who want to bless you regardless of wedding location. Otherwise those who want to honor your marriage with a gift are left "hunting" down a registry and probably asking you for one, and that in my opinion is bad etiquette.

Girls - you nailed it. So I am not alone? Do you think it would be a bad idea to just call it break for the next 2 months? I, like most work more efficient under an impending deadline. Maybe doing nothing is exactly what to do. @@TinkerSofi I even did that too early. Massage company said they had to wait exactly 3 month or less to booking date to schedule bc their software doesn't allow scheduling any sooner. Go figure! Ha

@@MissJen3 What I did was take a 3 month break from almost all wedding planning from Oct-Dec. It let me temporarily recharge. Now, I'm like shit do I have my floral foam? No, but I'll get around to ordering it. I'm so burnt out.

Feeling kinda burnt out on wedding planning. Just ready to get on with it. Because I feel that way I've sort of been feeling laissez-faire about detail. Anything I should be doing these last 3 months? Anything you wish you did towards the end?

I'm going to give my FIL and MIL cash in envelopes marked.

@@kellymiller I was going to buy that dress! Good choice!!

Oh wow thanks! I was told only if you place furniture on the beach, Thanks for clarifying!

I know! I don't mean to get off topic but I am sure Calgarybride 2015 you are tearing up, what a once in a lifetime memory. My 71 year old dad who hasn't left the USA since he arrived at Ellis Island on a ship from Greece is coming! Didn't think he could, but he is! I can not wait to be witness to him throwing a pole in the water and fishing and relaxing with us on a vacation together with us. Its going to be a great time and I know it will enjoy just as I am sure all of you will. Congrats everyone..

Ya too bad my family can't afford an all inclusive resort. We'd be having all the unlimited events on the side of the street in the middle of town, maybe on a small patch of grass if we all has to stay at hotel. Haha! Love them though! I was trying to rent a big 10 bedroom house and prepare meals ourselves each day, but no one could get deposit together.

Agreed. And I didn't include travel or lodging bc that's not actually the "wedding". Also the ring and dress can be included I guess but I think those are personal expenses that I didn't include in my budget although my dress was only $500. I was only referring to the event, but gosh I guess you could have an 8k wedding and blow another 7k on dresses and jewelry if that's your thing! I know I'll be saving a little room in my budget for some yummy tropical drinks! This cold weather stinks!

My wedding costs, not including travel expenses bc that is not wedding exclusively, not including rings or dress, is running me 8k and that's including private club, officiant, open bar,2 course plated filet mignon or salmon, lots of canapés, dj for ceremony, cocktail hour, reception, LED dance floor to make the large space seem much cozier and inviting place to dance, wedding cake from an amazing bakery, chocolate fountain with treats, florist, photographer for day of AND TTD session, makeup artist, daughter and son's outfits, and decor. How I cut costs- Chose a venue that had NO rental fees, used on site WC. Created my menu and priced it out, carefully chose bar package, sought out all vendors worked on prices, bought all my decor from various stores at home and am carefully bubble wrapping and bringing, am hiring a florist for tall centerpieces and bouquet bc mine is very specific with anemones and ranunculus and DIY the other small arrangements, not having an alter but marrying inside circle of flowers placed in sand, and the venue has all tables, chairs linens, glassware, we are bringing overlays and chargers, lots of candles. I'm very detailed and have high expectations and I literally created it all for 8k. My vendors are Officiant - Petra Rattue personable, woman who I feel like I know already Venue - Kool Beach Baker - Carla Molina of Pasteleria la Migaja who is excellent! Photographer - Gonzalo Nunez so kind and quick to reply, worked with me on my schedule and had no prerequisites how the time had to be split or started. DJ - Audio Cancun (amazing so professional excellent ears for matching music based on preferences) Florist - Floreria Iris, quick to reply quoted me honestly lots of experience, there are a few good ones but I chose them. MUA- the oh so fashion forward makeup artist Zoe Elizabeth. So dynamic and creative portfolio, awesome chick. We will be buying extra flowers for ceremony and extra petals and small arrangements at Walmart, DAC, and maybe Iris. Daughters flower girl dress -etsy Sons tux - Calvin Klein on amazon. Both outfits totaled less than $180. If you negotiate, look for honest vendors, and do your research you can have a wedding for as much or as little as you want and it WILL be beautiful. If I had a little more jingle in my el pocketo I would sit back and let everyone do more things for me which would be fabulous, but even with a tight budget and having to wait almost 2 years to save, I never thought I would have to sacrifice things, meant a little more elbow grease on my end. I don't like to mention costs or private stuff but people need to know it can be done for far less than 10k. Bam! Lol 30 guests.

@@dreamweddings It was my understanding that without chairs or (gazebo is only one example) basically any structure placed on the beach you did not need a permit.

I have received many quotes on this. You might want to check out Wickys. It's semi private, but they close off a part of the restaurant for you. There's also indigo beach club. It's small and. Closes at 5 or 6 pm. You can't go off of what they offer on menu you have to contact them. Email, see what your options are. Most all beaches are public. You can marry on any beach you want and don't need to pay a zofe fee as long as there are no chairs or alter set up. Meaning everyone would have to stand. If you use the same beach as your beach club like Wickys or indigo I think you can set up shop until like 2 am on the beach with tables abs chairs and not pay the zofe fee bc your using their beach area and they already have permits for chairs and stuff to be on the beach. But just picking a random beach site and setting up the zofe permit fee is like 500. Where we are marrying we aren't paying any fees. We are marrying at Kool Beach Club. We only have to buy our food and alcohol (optional) and there's no other fees. We are having all vendors there and it's private. I'm customizing everything at a fraction of the cost and getting privacy. What more do you need? Plus everyone is in charge of choosing where they want to stay, which frees up my stress and allows ppl to stick to their budget, I looked at so many hotel packages and not a single one was for me. I could not afford what I really wanted. Good luck! And let me know if you have any ?

@@maybeoneday Thanks! That was the only way I felt comfortable handling our wedding!

Geesh. I'm sorry

Your gonna do great.

That's what happened to me around Christmas! I knew something was wrong. FInally Scott called the Venue bc he knew I couldn't handle hearing Adriana left! Have you tried calling? My WC sucks now. Like never responds I have to contact her manager etc. What are you going to do?