I fell in love with a few adult only hotels and had to switch :/ All over 2 kids! but how could i say no to my soon to be nieces?!?
Any hotel down there seems to be awesome so try not to stress to much!
I would tell the hotel that the photographer is your guest. How could they say your "friend" cant take any pictures at your wedding? adding a guest to these hotels seem to be way cheeper than their vendor fees.