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We are just going to continue with the trip- my side of the family will be attending, while most of his wont. We plan to enjoy the first portion of the trip with family, then we are going to Cosumel for our honeymoon portion. We are planning a SMALL wedding at home now- our date is October 11th and it will be family only. We have already put deposits on everything, but the cancellation I like the idea! I do want a few shots in the dress before I go into the water. We are planning a small wedding at home, and bringing everyone out for dinner. We are keeping the dinner reservations in Mexico for anyone who wants to join, and we are planning the "trash the dress" too. I'm still unsure of how to go about getting out there etc. My dad wants us to buy a camera that we can take the pictures ourselves. policy states that we can use the money towards extras on our room bill.

As an update for my previous post- My new sister in law found out that her due date is incredibly close to our wedding in Mexico. Her parents told us last night that they, along with my FI's grandparents won’t be able to make it. As difficult of a decision to make, my FI didn't feel right about getting married without his mother and grandmother. We ended up needing to cancel our wedding reservations, but we are still planning on taking the vacation to Mexico. I still want to do something in Mexico for our wedding, and want to do a trash the dress session for a wedding photo album (I can't help but feel that a trash the dress would have incredible symmetry to the situation we are in) Does anyone have any good ideas, location tips, references for a trash the dress session in the Riviera Maya Mexico??

Yes, this will be the first grandchild of the family. The family is very close- they run a business together and grew up very close. Jason's brother is his twin, and his younger sister (the pregnant one) is close with them as well. I do worry about them bailing, but I also worry about feeling crappy that she probably won't be able to attend.

Some of this may just be to vent, but I reallly really NEED to vent. My FI's family has had a lot of drama in the past year, they are planning to expand the business, which is forcing the business to search for land, and us to live in whatever house is on it (and PAY for it!) All of the children (theres three siblings) will end up paying for it. While I was upset that my dream of searching for a home to buy is out the window, I got over it- Now, we just found out that his sister is pregnant with her first child. The father is a dead beat, and already has a child that hes not around for. BUT she just found out that shes so far along that its going to prevent her from coming to our wedding.. She said that an estimated time of getting pregnant would be March, and we are getting married in November! Her due date will be less than a month after our wedding, and now I'm worried that his mother and grandmother wont come either due to this new baby possibly being born while we are away. His family is the only reason that we decided to do a wedding, because I knew that his mother and father would want to be there (my family is really indiferent about eachother). Anyone ever been in a situation like this before? Do you think that his parents would really bail out on our wedding??

So since the beginning of my wedding planning process, I have been trying to make sure that my FI gets his word in on stuff that he wants out of it. As we were making our selections on what form of music, he said that he would love a saxophone player, so I went along and sent the request to my coordinator. My FI hasn't had the time to pick which music he wants, and its time to put in our requests to make sure the player knows all of the songs. I've been listening to saxophone music on Pandora, but have NO CLUE what would be good for our wedding. It will be incredibly laid back, family only and there won't be any dancing or anything of that sort. Anyone have any suggestions for decent sax songs that might suite a wedding?

I haven't had to deal with this- but there are a few people I'm kindof worried about how they will choose to dress. It's not something I'm planning on confronting, because I don't want people to be uncomfortable- and the only thing that really matters is that they people I care about are there with me. Perhaps you could go to your "wedding party & family" and suggest colors and styles of dresses that would couple well with your wedding colors & attire? After reminding people how many pictures they would be in I have had a few request a change in attire (aka MOH)

We never sent out save the dates- but we did give people an estimated time frame of when we were planning to get married and what location. We got in touch with people 12-13 months in advance to ensure that they would be able to set aside the time etc. We sent out the invitations with the resort info and activiites 8 months in advance- that way everyone could do their research and know how much they would need to go.

If you want the "grass isn't greener" scenerio- I'm actually trying to gain weight. I've always been underweight, which doesnt help when coupled with my hate for taking the time to cook & eat meals. I weigh 109 right now (104 when I started 3 months ago) and I'm hoping to get up to 115 by the time my wedding comes in November.

Those came out great!!!!!!!!

My FI is planning to buy them all cigars to have before the wedding (as my girls and I will be doing a spa morning). I'm pretty sure tequila will be in there somewhere also

Those came out great! You did a good job

Thanks for sharing

Those came out incredible!! Good Job!

I think it depends on what your dress is like- is it fluffy at all? I'm packaging mine the same way that it was shipped to me- The resort says they can iorn/steam and prepare it for the big day, so this way I won't take up much room. I managed to be able to fit all of my "wedding necessities" in a carry on bag.

We decided to give them to everyone before the trip- I'm including travel itinerary arrangements and things of that nature. All of my guests will be arriving on different days etc.

I have some beaded sandals like the ones shown that I will be wearing- I lovee being barefoot

Do you guys have any favorites?? I was just reading a post from one girl who wanted to incorporate rap music into hers- I really think that it depends on what you want

We origionally didn't want to do an AHR due to the lack of cash also-- However, with so many people unable to make it due to finances, we really wanted to do SOMETHING for everyone else too. So we decided to rent a private room in a bar, someplace that has a projector screen so we can show our wedding video, and a video from other parts of our trip (the resort, day trip etc) Luckily, we found a cheaper way out of it. We went to a local bar, and they are letting us rent out a private room for $150, with appitizers around $1.50- $3 per person. We are still debating rather we are willing to purchase a drink for everyone or not. My FI is against it lol We found another bar that states if our group spends more than 600 dollars in food and drinks, then the room is free! Even if 50% of our group bought one drink, and we purchased some appitizers for everyone, it would only end up costing us around 300 dollars..

Those came out incredible!!! Very nice job!!!

For details Ive just been sending pictures of what I want- If it is something that they can accomidate, then she will tell me, if it is not I ask her to describe what she can work out. I tend to stick with pictures that the resort has on weddings they have already performed, that way I KNOW that they can accomidate. As far as special requests, I do my best to create diagrams and send them to her- she just adds it to my file, and hopefully it will cut some of the planning stress when we arrive at the resort.

Honestly I am unsure- My MOH has not done a damn thing either lol, but then again I haven't asked. I pretty much had it in my head from the beginning that I would be doing everything myself- My MOH has a very intense job, and is a full time student. If I were to choose people to help with the wedding, I would either have no bridal party, or a very large one, and my mother would definitely be included... Does she have the available time to help with something like this? Maybe you should simply sit her down and talk to her about it. Perhaps you could suggest scheduling some time to sit down- Once every other week for two hours to meet and go over things that you need her assistance with. When I meet with my MOH, I make a list of questions, and things I need to discuss with her. To help things along maybe you could schedule to meet somewhere like a pool or for lunch.

The only other activity that we are doing is snorkeling- I'm thinking of buying everyone underwater cameras from walmart or something along those lines. So it will cost us nothing. We asked if the family wanted to do a day trip with us to the underwater river, but they politely declined due to the lack of time.

I think some people have taken offense to it, but were asking people not to bring gifts for us. They are spending a lot of money, and I would feel awful if they spent even more to get us something we may or may not use. If it is something in the family then that's different, but we wont be doing a registry-

Very pretty!! I love the sleeves and the lace!