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@@calgarybride2015 oh yes, the outlets and I are best friends for life! hahaha Oh and while i was organizing my things today I found the groom's vow book!

@@calgarybride2015 - totally talking Les Mills. The FI and I a double class today, step class first and then pump! Such a good morning. We made some progress this weekend. We bought the grooms gifts. We found some great gifts at Fossil. A travel bag perfect for the destination wedding with a luggage tag, passport holder. I loved the passport holder because not only does carry the obvious, your passport but it has a special slot for the boarding pass and luggage receipt and a pen to fill out the travel cards in the plane. Love it. They also have a little card carrier for their hotel room key and some bills. I took pictures of my bridesmaid gifts earlier but my camera was dying and my pics turned out yellowish so I retook them because they didn't do Kate Spade any justice. I am making them all jewellery for their dresses. Haven't designed the jewellery yet but I am also giving them this necklace that will be perfect for dinners at night. My fiance surprised me with a beachbag - so I'm totally getting so excited to start packing these things away. Overwhelmed. I think we found our cake topper. Everyone I show it to doesn't get it though. It's the "&" sign. lol so we may use it as part of the decor at the reception and place it in front and centre of us. My future mother in law found these adorably cute shells with a little zipper. I was thinking of either including them as a souvenir in our OOTD bags and putting a peso in there for goodluck or filling them up with rice and leaving them on the chairs at the ceremony so that our guests can throw rice at us. Not sure which one. I think rose petals might look nicer in pictures so i'm not sure yet. My future mother in law also bought us these fans and they come with their own organza bag. We will placing these on each chair so that our guests can keep cool. And finally, I made myself a necklace to match my pretty passport holder! yay! 91 days til Mexico ...oh my god.

Aww thanks @ The dress really caught my attention. I'm on #BeastMode right now and taking lots of step and pump classes to try to shed some lbs and get ready inside and out for the wedding. I thought that dress #1 would showcase my progress better. It really suits my personality too and I never saw myself as a lace person, but I just fell in love with it. It also seemed like it would fit in with the destination wedding theme. I love the hanky too! I saw one that is for flower girls. It says something like, this can be your something old for her wedding day. how sweet is that??!!

@ I can't believe the things some people say. Weddings really bring out the best and worst of people. I'm sending this little quote below because I found it very helpful to focus on me for my wedding and focus on my weightloss and focus on my happiness and to not worry if it is making someone else uncomfortable because maybe they feel some insecurities about their own issues. "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?... Playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do... And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Marianne Williamson I just love this quote~ xoxo

Continuing my theme of gratitude I found the cutest little 'thank you hanky' from the WeddingChicks website. (which is my new obsession right now). I was thinking of ordering this hanky for my future mother in law. I thought it would be so touching for her and it would definitely make her feel appreciated and loved. They are $12 so I might get one for my dad and for my dad's wife as she has been pretty great too.

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I have been a little m.i.a with my planning thread. I had a really tough weekend. I think like most brides on this forum you find that at some point or another you encounter a bit of disappointment. I posted on a different thread about a negative experience I had with someone in our bridal party. (someone who is now no longer attending and no longer a friend.). I spoke about focusing on gratitude and to not let someone else's negative feelings towards life, or my wedding affect my FI and I. I decided to focus on all our guests that are making the effort to support us and send us text messages saying how excited they are, our guests that are counting down with us on, our guests that have been with us from the start. So I designed this really cool thank you card for our reception. One will be placed on each dinner plate. We also will have some maracas at each place setting with a little tag. I don't have pics of those yet. So my advice to anyone feeling frustrated with the planning process, because it will definitely happen, practice gratitude and you will start reshaping the way you think and suddenly be so happy because you will realize how much there is to be grateful for!

Exactly. I think it's going to keep us healthier, more positive and create a more positive vibe if we realize that there is so much good too. I'm really going to give this a try. I know things are gonna suck a long the way, but I'm going to try to back it up with a positive. Either that or a shot of tequila. ha ha. Last night I actually worked on a DIY project that I will share later on today expressing gratitude to our guests.

@ @@calgarybride2015 thank so much for the advice. I'm starting to feel more peace with my decision. My decision was to put my foot down and not accept a friendship that is giving me less than I deserve. I'm over that. I'm taking a Brene Brown workshop to do some work on myself and the lesson last night was that I can practice gratitude when I feel this disappointment. So one friend totally bailed on me and tried to turn herself into the victim. She really fell short of being a friend. But now I'm shiftubg the focus off of her and focusing on those who have been nothing but great and supportive. #ProjectGratitude

@ wow, that's so awful and awkward. As if she needs you to plan every detail for her wedding. If she had thought about it, you would have been so valuable to her because after your wedding you would be probably in wedding planning withdrawal that you'd be excited to plan hers too. Aww, so sorry you had to experience this!

Wow! Thanks so much for your advice and perspective. @ I have to ask, how awkward was it when she realized you received the text message? did she try to fix it or apologize? I think I need to come up with a wedding mantra to stay positive and really communicate it with our guests that we only want positive vibes... #PositiveVibesOnly I can totally understand why you would just cut that person out. It's so unfortunate that people go a little nuts when a wedding is brewing. My ex-Officiant spent the majority of her time complaining when she stood up in several other weddings previous but I thought I would be an exception to this. Apparently not.

So true. We don't even want to hear about this crap. Is it normal to be in the super thick of the planning of a destination wedding and sometimes just feel like giving up? I sometimes get so overwhelmed and wonder if it was the right decision. @@calgarybride2015

@ Omg, I know what you mean. I keep having dream I'm going to forget my dress. Or that they changed the date of our wedding to today and in my dream I'm like freaking out to get everything done. I have also had to practice a lot of patience. A lot of my questions are so easy and simple and yet require the patience of a saint because the WC (and I totally get why they take time to respond, I know they are busy) but the WC sometimes takes 1 week or more to reply to a simple question like, can the flower girl throw flower petals on the ground? ahhh,

It's very true. I would have been so worried about making sure she's having fun. that's she's not getting sick from the food. And she's the type of person that everyone would be having a great time and nobody would have issues with water or food, but somehow she would. She'd find a way to be miserable in paradise. #NoThanks

@@calgarybride2015 that was a true score. I wonder if there is a way to request peso pricing. Im sure they would just make it whatever the equivalent was in U.S. @perianjay I'm totally kicking myself too. Like I grew up in a border city where the dollar has always fluctuated and nothing is forever. I am going to start up this account and keep it for good because when it is at par I will be buying aggressive to make some $ off the exchange.

@ Agreed! It's not any easier at all. I told someone that I was having a destination wedding and the lady replied, "oh you are eloping" and I was so surprised to see the stigma attached to Destination Weddings. Just sending out invitations and save the dates. Just getting people to book their deposits seems like soooo much work. At home weddings do not require you to plan out a week of activities for your guests or OOTD bags. I'm tired just writing this. lol

The dollar really put a damper on our budget. At the time that we signed our contract everything was at par. We are going to open a U.S account to start saving some US just in case it drops any lower. I've heard that it won't go much lower and I've heard from others that it will continue to drop. Much like the weather and gas prices, I'm sure that nobody really knows anything.lol

I think you should do whatever it is you feel the most comfortable with. Some people will feel left out without a bridal party if they felt like they should have been asked...and some people will feel overwhelmed with the responsibilities of being in a bridal party if you ask them. Follow your vision and at least if nobody else is happy, you will be!

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Hi Lydia Congrats on your upcoming wedding! I`m just curious- What are you doing with the loteria cards. We love that game and didn`t even think of incorporating in our week. would love to hear what you are doing!

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@@JoannaBanana I'm sending you all my support virtually. Don't let anyone make you feel like you have to play small in life. You deserve to shine and outshine those around you. It sounds like the people who are making those comments feel threated by you and can't handle seeing you transform. Honestly, keep going. reach your goals. If they can't handle it, they can move on. this is your time to shine!

Awww thank you for your advice @@TinkerSofi I think you are right. I can't even begin to describe the feeling when she spent 30 minutes on the phone explaining that they were so tight with money and yet declined when my family offered to pay for them. It was literally one excuse after another. It's so sad that weddings bring out the worst sides of people. I'm going to take some time out of the next few days to express gratitude to all those who have committed to coming and touch base with them so they know just how much we appreciate it. Instead of focusing on her I am going to focus on all the positive. I know what you mean about time healing things but this is one of those deal breakers for me. My family also will not keep the offer on the table. They also felt hurt by her excuses so she's lost our offer of help.

@@calgarybride2015 I feel lighter and it truly feels so good to put myself first. I always put everyone else first. I really needed to respect my boundaries here. I won't be chatting with her at all and I can't see that she would change her mind because she is so used to be the victim that I don't think she would step it up. I opened up with a lot of my friends and discussed this in a mature way. They all responded with relief. She was the one that everyone was worried about. Nobody knew how she was going to fit in because she is so difficult to handle and negative. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise.