In an offhand way, many of my friends said they didn't think they a bridal shower would be appropriate since I am having a destination wedding.... has anyone else encountered this? And, is it selfish of me to be a little upset about this? I mean, granted it is asking a lot...buuuuut, I have spent a lot of money on their weddings (shower & wedding gifts and being in the bridal party), e-parties, bridal showers, bachelorette showers, and baby showers....