we are allowing people to make this a fmaily vacation, so while they can join us for excursions, we havent planned ours out yet (and would like some to ourselves). We are doing a bonfire the night before in lieu of a rehersal dinner. Wedding day I am having my mother FMIL, MOH family that wants to join for a spa day, and the boys are doing golf, etc... then the ceremony at 4, drinks, and dinner, and a beach party after. Ive contemplated a brunch the next morning with just parents and grandparents, not sure yet though. but my hair trial will be stateside, and fingers crossed!