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awesome! Make sure you post pics of your inspiration and the final product!!!! Exciting! Its been slow here lately of brides getting their dresses!!!!!

a At Sensatori you cant use the sky deck for your reception.. only ceremony. So we are moving locations for our reception to a space called Zavas Plaza... a ground level open area by the pools that has a gazebo used as a dance floor. It is ok to have string lights here and done all the time. They have also confirmed I can have the chandelier here.

Hahahah duh! Yes it's paid in cash at your onsite meeting to a maximum of $250.00 I discussed this at my BDR with their planner (who is amazing) and she said just bring everything you need and they will set up exactly as you want (you can do a mock table in their office for them to copy or provide pictures/maps etc so they can duplicate exactly what you want. This does not need to be even discussed with Miami. Just don't add anything to your detail sheet that you aren't renting or requiring from them- and discuss set up and the rest upon arrival.

Yup chandelier is being hung at reception and then I'm bringing string lights from Home to supplement. They are the basic folding white chairs for reception and ceremony. I am upgrading to the drk brown Chivari.

I have found it hit or miss actually... Some items are totally reasonable while others seem high.. With no rhyme or reason! Hahah... I plan on bringing smaller decor items with me, but are renting key items like chandeliers, Chivari chairs etc.

I'm only speaking for my resort (karisma property)... Other resorts may do it differently

From what I understand you need to bring them yourself... I'm sure you could rent some sort of thing from lomas but would pay through the nose!

WeddingDJ (the most popular DJ app for weddings) is not an internet based app so this should not be an issue for those using it for their ceremony or reception.

This thread is 3 years old. I doubt the OP with the tags to sell is still checking in here.

As per your question about whether she has "anyone else" or possibly more hurt than let on" about the MoH first marriage, BM this time around, I really don't think that could be it. She has plenty of friends whom she has become very close with (they call themselves the "ladies who lunch- and who simply meet for lunch weekdays and then shop together in the afternoons). I obviously am not part of that group- but have met them and it's not my cup of tea. I think it's just that she can't be bothered to make any type of effort in the friendship because she's busy doing her own thing... And gets defensive when I ask her about it. I have 4 other BMs and plenty of other friends- If this friendship is over- it will be sad but won't leave me broken... I guess I'm just disappointed is all. Even if she DOES show up for the concert this Friday it's sure to be awkward... I mean- the last thing she said was a text telling me to replace her in the wedding- and then she just shows up for a free ticket and a night out like nothing's wrong? Arg. Let's hope she has the maturity to handle this one way or the other BEFORE then. I made my effort. Ball is in her court. I just hope it doesn't ruin what was supposed to be a special night out with my BFFs.

Yes it is directly next to the pool and you are allowed to do so. Keep in mind you would want to use se sort of weights with them or they will float away and would be rendered useless as the pool is very large and stretches out toward the ocean which is 200ft+ away.

Leg-work and Saviness? Absolutely.... But trust is also a must in ESPECIALLY the business world. I sign multi-million dollars on a daily basis in my business career. Obviously my education and training along with research and Saviness makes me successful in what I do, but without mutual trust and respect by my colleagues AND clients none of the deals would go through. It's fine to be smart- in fact... It's imperative that you don't go into any financial situation with blinders on... But if you want to hire a Wedding coordinator to work WITH you or FOR you, you have to trust that they are doing what they need to do and are great at their job. If it doesn't feel right.. Find someone that you can trust. - if not do it yourself and hold yourself accountable.

There are a variety of levels of photographers out there and some are very reasonable priced. Ones that often get the best reviews are true artists and the number of hours they put in to not only shooting, but editing and preparing your images can be hundreds of hours. If you are looking for someone who is more reasonable you may want to look at shortening the number of hours you have them at your wedding and capture only the key shots... Work alone (two shooters will add to price), and that don't include extras like photo albums or online viewing. I have seen prices as low as $600 and as high as $5000 so it really depends on what you expect in the artistry and experience of your photographer! Check the reviews section and message a bunch of the photographers there whose style you like- tell them your budget and ask if they can build you a package.

The way I look at it, if she bails on Katy Perry and doesn't show up- it's her way of saying she doesn't want to be in the bridal party and I move on.... If she shows up and pretends nothing wrong (or talks to me about it), then I will assume she wants to be there and let it be.... Our RSVP date is September 21st... So just under a month away. If she doesn't RSVP or book by then I will let her know that I didn't receive her reply to our wedding and will move forward in ordering BM dresses without her. I'm tired of her drama. (In reference to your point about her pouting about not being MoH and just a BM... I wasn't surprised by this... She likes to be the centre of attention/prettiest/most popular type... So knowing someone "out ranked" her didn't sit well, but I don't take that too seriously. After this long of a friendship I know not to play into this with her. I grew up... I feel at times like she didn't- she just changed circumstances.

You are fine there/ I've never heard of any resort charging for this! Only thing they charge is if they are expected to set up or prepare something you brought from home. It's often a very nominal fee.

Ok girls... I REALLY need your support/advice as I'm sick to my stomach not knowing what to do! A bit of history... I was married 10 years ago, and at the time asked a friend who had moved to another city 2 hrs away but was still very close (old room mates, travelled together etc) to be my MoH. She said yes and although she was 7 months pregnant at the time of the wedding, was a great support that day (though was understandably absent for all other planning/lead up events like parties or dress shopping etc)... I totally got it and didn't resent that for a moment. Fast forward a decade and after going through a very hard divorce, I found an amazing man who made my life full. We set our wedding date and started planning our DW. Over this decade, my former MoH had moved back to my home city... We had kids together...and were there for eachother through both the breakdowns of our marriage and becoming single moms. Despite this, our lives had moved in different directions as she had married "well" and stopped working when she married and got a multi-million dollar settlement in her divorce that quite literally has set her up for life, while I was the primary bread winner and had to work even harder after becoming single. Our social circles changed due to this fact, and we had less in common- but she still was an important woman in my life. Ok.... Sooooo I asked her to be a BM and she grumbled that she wasn't the MoH again (I told her that was bad luck) but she seemed happy I asked. All the BMs booked with our TA immediately except for her- stating she was planning on getting a last minute package... I explained that I wasn't comfortable with this since only one tour operator in canada sells this resort and the likelihood of it selling out was high. She ignored me. Last month, I wanted to show my BMs some love and scored us 6 seats together for Keith Urban and VIP tickets our local rodeo (those who know Calgary know this is a big deal) she cancelled with a lame excuse a day before, and I tried to not let it bug me since I know she is busy. Fast forward to the last 2 weeks..... On the 12th of August my TA called me to say that our original contract of 30 seats on the plane (with an attrition to a max of 50) was at capacity and starting the next day a new contract price would be in place and price would raise. since she was in my bridal party and the only one who hadn't booked, I messaged her to give her the heads up saying I know she's busy but that I wanted her to be aware and if she could book that would be great. (The deposit is $150 and trust me... $$ is not an issue here). Her response? "I will do it when I'm ready- if you want to choose someone else to go just say so". Wtf???? Next Friday I made plans (and purchased 6 tickets) for me to take my girls (and 1 guy standing up for me) to Katy Perry. Everyone is pumped! We made plans for dinner before etc. And again, she hasn't reached out saying she is excited or anything. It's been weird not talking much at all for about 3 months.. But our relationship is often touching base in a text every few weeks and it's never been a sign of anything wrong. So I sent her a note this am saying I missed her and that I can't believe it's been so long since we've seen one another and thank God for Katy Perry so we can catch up... She replied saying I don't text her so not sure why I was giving her grief. I called her, since I didn't like where this was going and simply wanted to clear the air. I told her I felt like my recent attempts to reach out were met by some resentment on her part and didn't want to pester her knowing how busy she was. Her response? "I don't need to be micromanaged telling me I need to book (she never did).... I'm 41 yrs old." And then she said she had to go, that her kids were needing her and she hung up. She then texted me saying that our lives are in different places now and that if I don't feel she has been there for me it's because our lives are different and if I want to ask someone to stand up for me in her place, I can. I'm at a total loss! My girlfriend (who's also a BM and knows us both) suggested I don't reply... And wait to see if she shows up to Katy Perry and if she doesn't... Move on. Part of me wants to just say forget it... I wouldn't replace her but I don't need the drama and can do without her standing there but if I do- I know it will end what's left of a 20 year friendship. It feels like she wants me to push her out so IM the bad guy... But doesn't want to be a part of it to begin with. Do I just leave it and see if she shows up to the concert? Do I tell her I don't need her to by my BM and end our friendship? Or do I beg her to be there and stroke her ego and make her know how important she is to my special day? Help!!!!! (Sorry for the crazy long post! Hahah)

This isn't something that's in your contract... It's a service that you need to ask your WC about. Much like asking for pricing for special chairs or linens, or DJ... These are costs that are requested through the planning process. Some have better luck negotiating this fee once they arrive while others do so ahead of time and have it added to their detail sheet. Usually the fee must be paid locally and in cash- but confirm this with your WC as well, I would simply ask if there is a fee to have the onsite WC set up your ceremony/decor using your personal decor items. Most don't charge anything if it's just a few items but if your adding chair bows. Altar drapery, centrepieces, it can be time consuming and would need to hire staff to complete.

Mine charges $250 maximum fee for all decor set up at reception and ceremony regardless of how much you are getting them to do. I have them hanging a lot of drapery and set up is extensive so this isn't too bad.... At my resort I have been told that if you don't have much to set up, it's negotiated with onsite team and so I'm waiting until arrival to negotiate this cost but I'm totally fine with $250. I did a site visit and met my onsite WC who confirmed everything I learned on these boards regarding pricing so I'm prepared.

Not sure where you are getting married but a set up fee is pretty common. I don't mind paying a service fee locally to the staff who takes all my DIY and personal decor items and set them up for me so that my vision is realized. I'm planning on bringing the bulk of my decor with me, and ordering some of the larger items like a chandelier and Chivari chairs for my reception. The cost to have them set up all the decor is a real bargain compared to renting everything.

I actually respectfully disagree.... If a couple has a tight budget that only allows a limited number of guests, then I think you can't invite 1/2 of relationship unit and pretend the other half doesn't exist. Especially on a DW! I think if that was the issue they would have been more proper to simply review their guest list and determine how many couples they could truly afford to have there. If the OPs FI was important enough to have "made the cut to be invited and budget WAS the issue, etiquette dictates that they make room for his FI as well.

No registry here! After having friends and family spend $2000+/pp to attend our wedding, I would never want to insinuate that gifts were also expected. A registry (IMO) basically says "hey we want this stuff"... So nope- passing!

Welcome! Nice to have a few guys in here to level off the estrogen! Congratulation on your upcoming wedding!

Are You talking about eyelash extensions? They last weeks/months and simply slowly shed until you need to get them redone.... If you are talking about false lashes in either strip or applied as singles, they really have to be done the day of the wedding during the makeup application process.

Brilliant! Thanks!

Generally speaking this not true for Canadian brides who's all inclusive vacations are very different than US as ours are built by your operators and include flight, accommodation and transfers. Prices are normally the lowest as soon as they are released by your operators and then go up as travel dates approach. Then 90 days out they start to lower their prices to fill the plane since it's a charter and it flies regardless of whether it's full or has 10 people aboard. Great for getting last minute rooms for vacations... But not to great for weddings!