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@@talicea7812 I'm sorry to hear your situation. I think no matter what her reason was it was going to hurt no matter what. I think being angry and feeling hurt is very normal. I am in the same boat as you, one of my very good friends said she was going and when I let her know about the deposit she backed out. I was angry and hurt for a few days but let it go. I totally understand that a destination wedding is an investment for everyone with money and vacation time from work (if they have vacation or they lose pay). I think you should just try and put yourself on her side of things, if she really is a good friend try and understand maybe there is more then just want she is saying? Maybe talk to her and see if she can just come and not her husband? maybe stay at a cheaper hotel? At the end of the day you have to decide if your friendship is worth saving and if you can move past it.

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@@cmingalone thanks so much! I am going to go try them on during my lunch. There is a store by me that carries all her wedding shoes

@@girlinthecity97 Maybe you can just express how important having your grandma see you get married is. When I first got engaged I wasn't sure my grandpa would be around much longer (he was in the hospital at the time) so my FI arranged for photo shot with my parents, grandparents and us that is another option you can always do? but also having a little reception and a JP with her is also very sweet

If you could let me know how much shipping is to Toronto Canada, I would totally buy them! (unless shipping is crazy!)

Hi! My name is Kristina and I got engaged June 19th 2013 (my Birthday ) I am from Toronto, Canada and after a few months of roughly looking into planning a wedding in our beautiful city we have decided a destination wedding is where it is at! No drama or unwanted guest added by either of our parents! We will be departing Toronto on January 13th 2015 to sunny Cuba where we will be getting married at Melia Las Dunas we also will be staying there a week after for our 'honeymoon' I guess but later on we will be going to Europe. Our colours may not be anyone's first choice but they are purple, lime green and hot pink. We have a small wedding party made up of my best friend and FI's sister and he will only have a best friend on his side. I ask my bridal party to be my bridesmaids by making a little box of goodies. I took a white kraft box and scrunched up baby blue and white tissue paper and placed 27 dresses and bridesmaids in it along with a mini bottle of champagne and a ring pop. I tired the box up with white and cream tulle and attached little pearls and crystals on it and added plastic baby blue butterflies and a larger wooden ring I painted. I also made t-shirted for them with the role I was asking them to be and tied it with the same tulle and a baby blue and white butterfly. I made a card that said: Laugh with me Cry with me Stand with me Plan with me Will you be my Bridesmaid? I tend to take my ring off a lot (cooking cleaning showering or sleeping) so I made a ring holder for beside my bed My FI and I were planning on inviting everyone who would have be on our list in Toronto to our destination wedding. We spent a few months looking for pricing and dealing with some great and not so great travel agents. The bottom line was we knew once we got our price and put down our deposit our guest had 90 days to put down theirs to lock in their price and reserve their room. We wanted to let our guest know before Christmas because we didn't want anyone to feel short of money or blindsided by our choice in picking a destination wedding. So we sent out postcards letting everyone know what we were doing and to get the ball started. At this point we didn't know where we would be going or the cost of it. This is just a screen shot of the postcard we sent out (we did catch the error of the year before it was printed)

@@csho you can buy them individually I found them on there for $5-8 depending who you buy from. The tshirt idea is neat and I am sure everyone coming would love it but I don't want to get stuck with bill plus his mom said she wanted to use one colour for brides side and one colour for grooms. Only issue is that 90% of the people going are from my side

I totally hear you on this! I really close to my grandparents. Maybe you can getting married before leaving for Mexico and just do a symbolic ceremony there? You could always get married in the state where she lives? It makes me really sad to read your post because I would be so heartbroken if my grandparents didn't get to see me get married or at least see pictures/video. I know my grandma is coming but I would love for my grandpa to see me get married

Sorry to hear your dad wont be able to come to your destination wedding. I would say ask your mum but this is a personal choice that has many factors involved depending on your relationship with your mum. You could always ask her to walk you down the aisle and still have the dace with your brother in law? My FI and I are getting married in Cuba and after reading many brides comments and talking to our travel agent we have decided to get married in Toronto first and then do a symbolic ceremony in Cuba and just not tell anyone about this besides a handful of people. This not only easier for us/whole marriage process but also allows my grandfather who I am super close with to see me get married since he is 93 and wont be able to travel, so maybe that is something else you can consider?

I was thinking of doing the whole out of town bag because I think they are super cute BUT everyone travelling with us are travelers so they are already going to have most if not everything we would have given them. So my FI and I are giving them a personalized tumbler, room key holder and an 'Oh shit' kit that has advil, pepto/immodium, band-aids and alcohol whipes and I found on dhgate some bright sunglasses that are are fairly cheap 20 pairs for $16 http://www.dhgate.com/product/20pcs-hot-sale-classic-style-sunglasses-women/161663799.html#s1-14-1|3077779322 My FI's mom wants to make t-shirts for everyone...not sure on that yet I also found some super cute swimsuit cover up on dhgate 20pcs for $119 for the women coming, still thinking on this one http://www.dhgate.com/product/hottest-20pcs-deep-v-neck-sun-crossing-beach/160848427.html#svh-1-5|null:0

I loved being a kid when I was that age! So much easier If your wedding party is smaller, you could still make her a junior bridesmaid (if that's what she picks) but maybe still treat her roll like a flower girl? Just not in a little girl kind of way? Her dress can be different and her role still can be different

My FI and I are inviting everyone we would have invited if we had a wedding in our City. We also know that most of them wouldn't come because its costly and timely for people to use their vacation days on us. We both felt that leaving people out of the guest list would cause drama, hurt feelings or make people feel like they were wanted around to celebrate during our special day. I would rather someone say they can't come over why wasn't I invited. We picked a hotel that was all inclusive including the wedding (unless we upgrade to a few things) so we don't have to worry about paying extra for people.

You could also ask your niece if she would rather be a flower girl or a junior bridesmaid

I was able to pull up the postcards we sent but I can't seem to upload it. If you give me your email address I would be more then happy to send you it

I would say make her a junior bridesmaid

I sent out postcards in December letting them know we were doing a destination wedding and that we understood that it is timely and costly and if they couldn't come we fully understood we also gave them the location we were looking at and a rough cost budget $1,100-1,500 and that once my FI and I down our deposit theirs would have to be put down within 90 days of us putting ours down to lock in their rate and save a seat/room We also let them know that if they do want to come but money is an issue they could always try last minute or a different hotel to save on money. I ask them to call or email my FI or I to let us know if they wanted to be included in the group rate. We pretty much sent it to people we knew that would come (family and friends) and then in June or July this year we will send out regular wedding invitations to everyone who we would have invited to a wedding in our city just so they don't feel left out but we know they won't come. As for RSVP we aren't putting one because people can book last minute but we are including a note card that states all the details again hotel price travel agent. I'm not at my computer but I will send out wording on our postcard once I get to it.

I am going to use white Kraft boxes they are 6 inches long 4 1/2 wide and 2 inches high and glue the label on the front flap. I can build them when I get to my destination so they lay flat in my bag and will be easy to travel with

Congratulations! I'm getting married January 2015 at the Melia Las Dunas....Happy Planning!

I have gone to a few travel agents looking for pricing and the travel agent told me it depends on the hotel and who we book with (Air Canada, Sunwing, Signture etc) We were told 2 weeks on some and 90 days on other

Congrats! I'm in Toronto and getting married at Melia Las Dunas Santa Maria January 2015

Hello Ladies, So I love taking photographs! My FI and I are looking into getting a nice camera. I use to have a Canon rebel while I was doing photography when I was younger (before digital) I was wondering what camera do you life? I am a fan of Canon but I also know Nikon makes great cameras as well. I am looking for one where I can change the lens. Thanks for your help! K

I got a binder as a gift from my best friend (MOH) and we started planning it in our city and then switched it to destination and haven't used it since but I totally love the idea of the binder. I actually found it yesterday (we just moved) and thought to myself I need/want to use this