Hi there!
My wedding is 4 months out and yes, the vendor fees are ridiculous and I'm on my 4th wedding coordinator/designer. However, it seems that no matter what hotel you choose, there will always be something. The hotel itself is gorgeous and honestly, everyone I know that's done destination says the same thing: the planning is a nightmare, but once you're there, it's beautiful and the point it to have a good time, everything will work itself out.
I'm definitely disappointed about the lomas prices. I'm arguing right now about the gazebo linens, as paying $100 per linen (white only) is ridiculous!! It's $150 per linen in a color. They're making a ridiculous profit, it's crazy.