Okay ladies - I need some sound advice from you all. (This might be kind of long - Sorry) As you know I have a small invite list! I didn't want to have to deal with "obligation invites" Which is what made me decided on Parents and Sibling only! My BFF is more like a sister to me then my sisters (not because I have any issues with them --they are my half sister and we never lived near each other so only in recent years now that they are "adults" have we gotten closer) and of course I couldn't invite a friend without having my FI invite a friend. so that is where our guest list came from. So all along my FI wanted to invite one of my Aunt & Uncle (one of my Dad's Sister) and as much as I liked the idea it went against my rule... I didn't want to break my rule because I thought once I break it what's to say we don't keep breaking it. As I have mentioned before my Sisters most likely wont be attending.... I get they might not be able to and that is fine - what bothers me is that they were kind of rude when we told them (long story). One thing that bothered me about when we told them was that we were with my Aunt and Uncle - Who are VERY excited for us! We had told them the night before we told my sisters because we knew they would be with us when we told my sisters. They understood about the small ceremony and are happy they will be invited to the AHR. So then I find out that the day after we told my sisters - My Aunt & Uncle had a conversation with my Step Mom about how happy they are for us and how amazing our wedding is going to be and how they would love to go but they totally understand about why we are doing what we are doing. This kind of breaks my heart because they sat there and watched my sisters be little Bs about the whole thing all while being so happy for us. My point ---- I have been playing around with the idea of inviting them (I already have the plan on how to invite them with out it coming across like they are a second thought - so that is not an issue) This will also mean we will invite my FIs Aunt who is his Godmother.. but she will probably not come anyways (he is fine with that - and I don't mind inviting her too if we do this) My issue with inviting them is that I feel like this is opening up that door I didn't want open. My Dad has another sister whom I am not as close with (I moved around a lot my whole life and am not really close to any of my family) and don't want to invite just to invite Plus, she has two daughters but again I don't want to start inviting everyone - so cousins are out. Plus so & so and so & so... you see where this is going. . . My FI wanted to invite them from the get go - but now that he knows I am thinking about it he says "Its your family - your decision" I don't want to ask my Dad his opinion because he wanted me to invite them from the moment we told him our news. Lastly, selfishly, because my sisters might not be going it brings my inclusions down a level - meaning I would have to pay for some stuff that would otherwise be included so they would fill that gap. However, it is not the only reason I am thinking about inviting them. I know it is MY rule so it's not like I have to answer to anyone ... I am just really torn. Any kind thoughts are welcomed : ) Thanks Friends! *and breath* heheh