I moved to NJ to live with my FI in aug 2011 (I lived in NY) and before I moved we hung out and talked ALL the time....when I moved she never came and visited me.....almost a year later she asked me and my FI (than bf) to go to a Met's game with her and we took a picture together and I put it on FB and one of my FI's friends commented on it saying she was cute and than we hooked them up. After that she came to visit all the time, I found it kind of weird.......well my 30th bday came and her and her bf didn't have money (my bday is new years eve) and we decided we'd throw a house party....my FI really wanted to take me out but she was my bf so he understood. Went out an bought $200 worth of food and liquor and some other friends and his brother came......my "best friend" and her bf came and literally stayed for an hour, brought nothing and than left to go to another one of her friend's parties.....I was so hurt and my FI thought it was a totally dick move and was pissed since....well we got engaged 3months later (which she knew our plan for a DW for over a year now) and I asked her to be a maid of honor (i was having 2) and she was happy blah blah blah....well than any time i'd try to ask her to help with anything she'd say she was busy......than it turned into she would help me in like august to now we had an all out fight about the whole thing b/c she suddenly said she couldn't afford it yet was going out and spending $200 on a coat, going to all these other ppl's weddings and baby showers etc and honestly I was hurt and she still can't see how I feel. Her excuse was that she couldn't afford to go to the wedding, throw a bridal shower, and also go to a bach. party etc like I have another maid of honor you didn't have to do it all. It was like she had every excuse in the book to not go to my wedding and obviously money was not an issue if she's constantly spending hundreds of dollars and telling me about it constantly.....like I don't understand ppl. Sorry for ranting