Ladies, I thought I was alone in this!! One thing I will say to you all is my FI and I made a pack no matter who makes it we are going! Even if its just us! I think that is easier said then done. My fiance gets very upset at the thought of certain people in his family not being able to make it, when Im very much like no big deal! I just hope that it doesnt cause us problems in the end like I made him have a wedding without his mother being there or something because I'd hate that!! This is really what we want and we think its more cost effeciant to top it off.. We are from two different state (NJ&PA) as is. My biggest fear has always been catering to everyone having a wedding for everyone else and not really having what we want... Im just not prepared to cater to people who 1. arent that supportive of our relationship/wedding 2. wouldnt be any happier if it were stateside. So with that Im moving along and hoping for the best!!