Yes, I would go ahead with the wedding. My FI best man (bestest buddy in the whole world, they live on opposite sides of the country & still talk everyday) had the same problem. His wife held a grudge against my FI for not attending their DW back in the day. We were not together at the time & my FI was admittedly irresponsible & didn't save properly. My FI asked him to be best man at the DW & he said yes, but that all changed when he talked it over with her. Then the friend was avoiding any wedding talk, so we asked him. He said he was still trying to talk it over with the wife. She was saying the reason they couldn't go is because of $ (which we all know is just an excuse). So we suggested he take the trip alone (since she takes vacays 3-4 times/year without him) but she won't let him. Its quite disappointing but it was ultimately his choice, we wouldn't change anything to accomodate them knowing full well it would just be excuse after excuse no matter what we did. They are still best friends, but we know now who is calling all the shots. Unfortunately it has caused alot of friction between my FI best friend & his wife...I don't think he will ever forgive her for taking that away from him sad Anyway, thats my two cents lol Hope it all worked out for you Cheers!