TinkerSofi

I agree with @@calgarybride2015, anything is possible if you set your mind to it. It might take some people more or less work, but you can get there! She has a lot of the medical information that I don't. I basically only know what I've gone through but I can try and help you with whatever you need! Really don't be discouraged, and for the love of Pete do not look up forums on this stuff because they paint the grimmest picture. Or at least don't start your research there. I did that one day out of curiosity and started to get really paranoid. All of a sudden everything was a symptom! Definitely stick to medical information on symptoms and management. Just like with any other chronic disorder what works for one person might not work for others and it's just a matter of finding what's right for you. It might take a little while but you'll get there .

hahah I love your garter story

hey!! Welcome to the club my friend! I've had PCOS since I was 13. To start off, this disorder has soo many different presentations that it's hard to say which symptoms you will have or which ones will be the ones that bug you the most. Some girls do have a hard time losing weight, others don't. For example my main issue is facial hair but not so much my weight, even though I also suffer from hypothyroidism. I do think that your doctor jumped the gun a little bit with telling you that you cannot have kids. According to my doctor it is hard to say whether you will have trouble or not until you start trying. He said some women really don't have any issues while others need quite a bit of help to get pregnant and of course, there's the other extreme with women that can't get pregnant at all. The reason for this is that your body doesn't ovulate every month. On a positive note, there are drugs out there to help you out in ovulation, etc. so not all is lost! I know it is hard to get these news when you're older and you have been thinking of having a family for years, but you have to know that there is hope out there! Hell, you might get pregnant on the first try! you really don't know until you try. If he suggested for you to lose weight, it might have to do with the fact that if you do get pregnant it's safer for you and the baby. Have you tried losing and do you have a hard time? If you have trouble with losing weight you can get an insulin resistance test. Sometimes women with PCOS that have trouble with their weight have insulin resistance. Mine came out ok but I know it is very common among people with our disorder. I can't stress enough how important exercise is in balancing your hormones. I find at least that when I exercise regularly my periods are more regular. Also, if you have insulin resistance, it's important to try and eat foods that have a low glicemic index (spellcheck on me here). I also read a while ago that sometimes medication for diabetes helps to balance things out. Just a few things to research because I guess I don't have much info. I take birth control for my symptoms but birth control is really a mask for symptoms rather than a cure. I will have to come off these, of course, when I want to try and get pregnant. Has your doctor prescribed anything for you? Just know that you're going to be ok. There's no cure for this but it can definitely be managed. Let me know if you have any other questions!

that's an excellent point. Our resort in Cancun had hangers like that so thank you for pointing that out because I didn't remember at all! I might just bring a normal wooden hanger then. It will still look nice, but it won't cost me $50 . I could engrave them after the wedding, grade 7 style (you know, the Sofi + Juan 4ever haha only not as cheesy), with our names and the date haha. They will be sitting in our closet as our hidden gem .

I really liked the wooden ones with the writing printed on them because I remember you saying the wire ones bend out of shape easily and so they can't be used again but at this point $50 is money. I still have to finish paying the bridesmaid dresses and for $50 I'd rather get Juan a gift other than a hanger that will later sit in our closet. The second guessing really comes from the thought of "in 20 years, will I wish that I had kept some of this stuff? or are they just going to be sitting in some box, totally forgotten?". I'm on the same boat with the garter. I like this simple one that is just the tossing garter but then I start thinking, will I wish I had kept one as a keepsake? I'm a total packrat so if it's up to me I'd keep a piece of every single thing as a keepsake, but that's just silly and am I really going to miss this stuff or will the memories be enough ? I guess I'm getting to that stage where I'm over the details hahah. This wedding has been almost two years and a half in the making, I just need the day to be here hahha.

yeah i don't think i had told you because they just booked yesterday. Anyway, it's definitely on my to go list, especially since it's quite a bit cheaper than the hotel we're staying at! I'm glad the list helped. the hotel's list really got me started and then I just went through my itunes and picked songs that I liked haha it is coming together nicely. I don't have a lot to buy either, just a a few things off etsy. I really wanted some hangers that said bride and groom or our names, but at this point I'm kind of like "whatever", I'll use the resort wood hangers for the one picture of my dress. I know they're not as pretty but are people really going to notice, are we really going to miss them? I don't think so. I haven't scratched them off completely, but I think it's starting to dawn on me that the final payment is due soon so I better save some money. We went on Tuesday to get Juan's ring, but since it's from spence we have to wait until they make it. I'll post a picture when he receives it.

oh that sucks . Unfortunately it's all too common to hear that they work hard and once they have your money they act like they don't care anymore. We really lucked out with ours and she was the only one we went to see but sadly that's not the case with everyone

they're staying at grand riviera princess. I guess the reason why I didn't see it was because I did all my research in the Cancun area and then we ended up in playa del carmen haha. Yeah, I did want Juan's tie to be different than the others. I think the pink will look very nice with his blue suit and the other ties will add a nice pop of color to things

I don't have kids but I really don't mind them at weddings. You barely hear them because they're too busy having fun and I have to say they can be pretty entertaining haha.

Good! I was thinking that I can't be the only one! haha. I've had a draft forever but even as things change I keep having the same issue hahah. The ties are definitely darker than what I saw on my screen but I really don't care. At this point I think I'm starting to get over those silly details hahah. I just want the day to be here! They'll look great anyway . I thought they'd be more pastel pink but they're more pink pink . This makes me laugh because if I'd say that to Juan I know he'd say "what's the difference? they're all pink" hahaha

I just read the other day that apparently, at least in Ontario if they find out you exchanged vows before your legal ceremony they won't marry you legally! So I would get married before if I were you. I know it's tough because you feel like some people will think the Mexico ceremony won't be real but if your MIL is against the DW to begin with it really doesn't matter if you get married before or after because she still won't really like the idea. Just my two cents, but it might save you a really big headache to get married before. did you guys have the same TA?

Two news today! The guest list is complete! The last couple booked last night, they're staying at the hotel next door, which looks gorgeous and I can't believe I missed it when doing research! Anyways I'm happy that they are coming . Now it's time to finalize the table seatings. Does it happen to everyone that you always have two extra people, that no matter how you arrange the tables there's always two people who cannot sit with their friends because they don't fit! So frustrating and driving me nuts but I'm trying to make it work. Hopefully since we're all stuck in the same hotel they'll make friends with their table people haha. I feel like I'm trying to play fortune teller to see who is more likely make friends with who during the week . The ties arrived! They are really nice, the groomsmen ties (the solid ones) match my shoes exactly. I am very pleased and the price was reasonable. They were around $25 each. I got them from an etsy store called tieobsessed

so cute! Kids always make for the best pictures

I think if you feel like she should be MOH you should ask her! Sometimes even though you plan things one way, some people really step up to the plate and fill those shoes without any pressure from you. I know it feels like you're ranking people, but for those who aren't stepping up as much I'm sure they're ok with not being MOH because perhaps they wouldn't like all the work anyway . Sometimes you have to go with the flow In my case, I asked my two closest friends to be MOHs and the reason why I did that was because one is in Argentina and the other one is in Canada. I thought the one in Canada would be available for a lot more things because she's geographically close, but as always, life has a way of surprising you. It's actually been my Argentina MOH who has stepped up to the plate with everything, even though she's in another continent! It's really no wonder we've been friends for 15 years . Sometimes people will surprise you and I think you need to be open to those situations and change your plans accordingly. In my case, I'm not going to demote anyone haha but in your case it's much easier to promote someone to MOH and I'm sure she will be glad with the recognition for all the work an effort that she has already put in.

this is honestly the most difficult part! I would start by narrowing it down to a destination and then go through the forums of different hotels to get a rough idea of what out there. Then create a wish list of the things you want and things you don't want in your resort and get in contact with a TA. The TA will be able to steer you into the right direction taking into account your budget and your wants Today I was doing research on some other hotels around the area of the one we booked and I couldn't help but to start thinking, oh this would have been a good one, etc. You will literally go insane without any help from a good TA . Good luck and happy planning!

they are so logical, but sometimes I need a bit of logic in my life. I'm too much of a dreamer. I can't remember what Juan said the other day when we were talking about what he'd say in his vows. I told him that I knew he didn't want to do vows but he insisted that we should because I wanted them. He said something ridiculous and I was just like, well we might as well not write anything if you're going to say that haha. It was also something so practical, no feelings, just bad hahah. ahaha @@veryvalentine I went back and read your comment on the feelings hahah. The other day this comedian was saying that men and women are different because women have 100 things going on at once in our brains and men have 1 or none. So he said, it drives women crazy to know that men can actually be thinking about nothing, because there is no such thing in our dictionary. It was funny and true lol.

I found the website so confusing haha so I prefer to get the info from people to clarify but yeah you would think that they mention that big no no somewhere!

I want to know the same!!

hahah, as if you would have gone for that lol. Well I don't feel so bad about my dress now, I was talking with a friend the other day who's getting married in July. His Fiance's dress was around $4000 with the veil and stuff . I guess she kind of shopped out of her budget and once she tried on this dress she loved it, of course, so she had to get it. He said it's still a bit of a sore spot but he couldn't tell her not to get the dress of her dreams. Yeah we're going the traditional way so I don't know if I'm more excited for the wedding or for moving in with him . It's just this ball of excitement and I love it hahah. Yeah, sometimes I think people are kind of naive about the trouble other people go through to help them out. I've always been like that and at least this isn't one of those cases when people take advantage of you, which is nice. I'm so glad everything is resolved and we're all set to go . I received a list from my TA the other day, we're sitting at 18 rooms, 36 people. So we have 38 guests total! (a couple are staying out of the resort or coming for only a few days). Steal away girl! Maybe I will post a word document with a list of reception songs in case some of you guys want to get some ideas . I do have a lot of Spanish songs so I don't know how relevant it might be for most people. The cutlets, lol, I told my mom the other day "I have to try on my chicken cutlets!" and she asks me "is that what they're actually called?" hahah. It definitely took a couple of tries to get them right but I think I got it now. They stick on pretty well if they're set up properly so I don't think they'll fall off. I can't really get much cleavage from the middle thing because it's a bit wide for me (unless I put them half way to my back hahah), but meh, they still look better than not wearing anything! I'm getting so excited to go for the alterations in 2 weeks! I know, if people are like this with work deadlines, oh boy, haha. But yeah I'm glad it's all sorted out and that stress is over. Yeah my fiance wanted to give people fanny packs with utensils and people would just go around and eat their dinner haha. He also wanted to skip the whole dance of the reception and just go to a club (he was actually serious about this). I was basically like "hell no" I can go to a club any other day, this is my wedding. I guess I got the crazy look on because he looked at me like "ok, ok" hahah.

Same héroe! We've been engaged for 2 years and a half and I've been around since then. It felt like time was going at continental drift speed but the last 6 months are going by really quickly! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

You can start whenever! Some Start them even after the wedding . We sure love to read them! It honestly takes about an hour for me every day to make sure I'm caught up with everyone's planning hahah. It really helps to bounce off ideas with other girls and if you're like me and haven't been to a lot of weddings it also helps because I have no clue what I'm doing [emoji13] I started mine about 4 or 5 months out. I just couldn't wait! Lol and most of the planning has been happening since then. it also keeps you accountable because you're like "I need to keep this thread alive, what do I need to do next?" Haha and then start checking things off your list Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Yeah I didn't know about the whole legal before symbolic ceremony thing. Good thing ours is booked for before! Although how would they know if you had a symbolic ceremony first [emoji6] Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk That's around what we are paying $260. We're in Calgary but still. We're getting married on a Friday but at noon Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Periwinkle, blush pink and ivory! Haha. I wanted the bridesmaids to wear periwinkle Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

omg!! I love that venue!! It's truly beautiful and I think it will look great with everything you have planned. I can't wait to hear back about how your fitting went! I'm sure the dress will fit really nicely, especially with all those inches lost! 6in is a lot!! congrats on the hard work You guys are leaving on my brother's birthday! The day my life changed forever hahah . How soon can you apply for the marriage license? I was just thinking about this the other day. Funny story about licenses. One of my mom's friends, she's like my aunt, got married about 15 years ago and they were having just the legal ceremony. When they asked friends everyone had been married in a church, so everyone told them that the officiant takes care of the license. Well when the wedding day came, the officiant asked for the license and they didn't have it!! They had to convince the officiant to do like a symbolic ceremony until they got their actual licence and could be legally married since all their guests were already waiting, she almost didn't do it. Luckily no one found out about this mishap, they went through all the motions of a real legal wedding and everyone thought they were legally married right then and there haha. Moral of the story, get your license girls!

The only wedding where I've been a bridesmaid in I bought my dress, shoes and everything. I didn't get any gifts either. However, I wasn't all that close with the bride, I almost felt like I was put there because my fiance was one of the groomsmen. There were so many of us and only 2 of them were close friends with the bride. I felt like that was unnecessary on their part and I would have been totally fine had my fiance been a groomsmen but I wasn't part of the bridal party. The only reason I'm paying for my BM's dresses is because there's only 2 of them and they are both students so I didn't want to burden them with that cost, on top of the trip. Initially I was going to give them $150 towards their dress, but the dresses ended up being $160 so I was like what the hell, I'm not gonna make them pay $10 . With that said, they are choosing their shoes and jewellery. They all ended up choosing the same dress so I think it will look good even if their shoes and jewellery are different. Both of them have very different personalities so I think the accessories will show that . Both of us knew we didn't want a large wedding party because like other brides on here, if we had put everyone we wanted we'd have 2 guests sitting down haha. It's kind of a small wedding and most of the people coming are really close friends. It was hard to choose, but I chose my 2 oldest friends and my brother . Luckily, the other girls understood why I didn't have everyone up there and said that it totally made sense to them. I seriously love my friends!!