jandl2013

Awesome breakdown...I have a few of these items already in my cart ready to purchase. Thanks so much for creating this very helpful thread Shay! Much appreciated, and I know it has saved me as well as most of us a lot of time!

I thought I was making things easier, but lesson learned. Next time I do any kind of event similar to this, I will take all stress off myself and tell everyone to book on their own and move on with life. Way too stressful when you're dealing with a lot of people. But I definitely have the same attitude as you, you're invited so the rest is up to you cause we'll be walking down that aisle PERIOD! Even if it's just us and our parents! lol

This is so true! I wasn't going to register, but we kept getting asked over and over so we just caved in and did a traditional registry at Macy's for a few things we like, and we did a non-traditional registry for honeymoon/house down payment with Honeyfund.com. We just wanted to avoid getting a bunch of things we truly don't need at all since we combined 2 houses. We did state on our website and save the date insert that gifts were not necessary and their presence was more than a gift. So we covered all the bases so we could stop all of the questions.

I believe the price is between $800 to $850 so I think you have it right. I thought that's the price I was told when I had my site visit back in September.

It is really crazy to read this whole thread and realize that so many people can be so inconsiderate, and so many of us are having this negative experience while trying to plan a special event? I just don't get it. We are getting married 5/23/14. I sent out the save the dates magnets with our website in late September and the invitations were sent out in late October which also included our website again. I asked people to RSVP their intent by December 1, hoping that the stragglers would at least get moving by this month and pay their deposits. Out of the 110 invitations that we sent out, I have received 14 yes RSVPs, and about 8 no RSVPs. Based on the count, we have about 88 invites we have not yet received any response for at all or they informed me that they are waiting to book for various reasons. I excuse the people that I've spoken to about their situation, so that leaves about 80 responses with no answer. What is with people?? We put down an initial deposit of $1500 on 15 rooms, and had to lower it a few weeks ago to 10 rooms because we feel very uncomfortable with the idea that we will be stuck with that penalty if no one books. Right now we only have 5 rooms booked. My fiancé has family that is avoiding talking to him because they don't want to tell him they are unable to come, and this is after some of them raised hell due to the location not being in New York (where we don't live) or in the states. I have LOADS more family than he does so it would have been a logistical and financial nightmare for us so that's why we decided to make our lives easier and have a DW. At the end of the day, I figure who really wanted to be there has had over a year and a half to save considering that we told everyone long before we sent out the save the dates what we were doing. We actually planned to get married in September 2013 in St. Lucia and actually changed our plans after a house renovation went crazy AND we determined that it might be easier on our guests if we pick a less expensive destination with better air routes. For those reasons we changed the date to May and the location to Punta Cana, but yet here we are! We can't even get a phone call much less the stamped reply card to let us know what they are planning on doing... I get that a lot of people might not be able to make it, but at the very lease they should just say they aren't going to make it. How hard is that to do? Unreal... Go figure!!

Beautifully and well done! The wedding is gorgeous and everything is so on point with the theme. Great advice too. Thanks so much, and congratulations to you both!

Quote: Originally Posted by cmingalone AR- You will be happy to know that Mayte has adopted your "Wedding Details" form and is using it! She sent it to me last week as a way to cpature and track my details. Great job! It is a wonderful tool for her. I also wanted to share my invitations! Very nice!

Very true Deep!! People claim they are coming but as soon as it's time to pay...they complain about the cost in our case.

We just brought a new HP 8600 all in one printer because i'm tired of paying money to print my documents, etc. I used to print a lot of stuff at work, but since that's not an option anymore, I've been printing at Staples, Office Depot, Vista Print, and FedEx. I'm tired of paying those fees so i'm hoping that this printer can do it all. Once I get a small DIY completed, I'll update on it's performance.

This is great as a guideline! Now I have a base to start with.

Quote: Originally Posted by babystace1985 Thanks for sharing @jandl2013 ! My TA used allurements by rebecca and had great things to say as well You're welcome babystace1985! Yes, the invitations were great, and i'm starting to receive replies by guests that love them also. That's always a wonderful thing too.

I saw that article earlier...it's a great article!

Quote: Originally Posted by AR-DreamWedding Hey All, I wanted to let you all know that since Mayte's return she has been leaving the weddings a little earlier in order to maintain her health and stay rested. She generally leaves after your reception is well under way and I can guarantee that she will never leave you hanging or wanting for anything before she leaves. With that said it occurred to me that most of you will want to give her some sort of gratuity that is just for her however, that will not happen if you do not give it to her directly because others will pocket the money. So for those of you who do want to give her a little something for the zillion hours that she has put into all of our special days, I strongly recommend that you give it to her at your pre-meeting in a sealed envelope addressed to her. I gave her something extra at the end of our wedding in a sealed envelope addressed to her but now that I know she is trying so hard to stay healthy and cannot work the 18 hour days she used to, I thought it very important to make sure I share this info with you so that she can be appreciated the way she deserves to be. Warmest wishes to all of you! AR-DreamWedding Great information! Thanks so much for letting us know.