NJBride2014

Wow I know that feeling I went through the same thing with my best friend of 29 years. No text though she just ignored me for 5 months then I got it an email saying she couldn't make. Trust me it'll get better and you're right not much you can do about it. You will appreciate and have that much more fun with the people who do go, she's missing out.

@@NJBride2014.....you look stunning and I can only imagine how you will look on your wedding day!!!!   He is going to be blown away!!!!

@@NJBride2014 - Wow you look stunning!! That dress totally enhances your curves

@@NJBride2014 I love your dress!!!! Its beautiful!!

Thanks girls!! Making me feel good about my choice. lol I'm usually not the one to show off curves or bust but when I tried this one on it felt right and very womanly.  My sister said don't hide it that day flaunt it. 

We are having 40 people come to our wedding and im happy with that number. But just today my fiance's brother was making comments that if we had picked a more "reasonable" place maybe we could have had more which was just his passive aggressive dig at us. It took a lot to not say anything. I didn't know I had to consult him before picking a venue. When he got married he didn't consult us about his venue. Lol some people really amaze me. Sorry just still fresh in my mind. End rant.

I have 4 guests who are staying at another resort to save money, they have agreed to pay their day passes but now on top of that I have to pay $25 for them to come to the cocktail hour and then $55 for them for dinner.  I don't know how much they are saving but they will each need to pay $155 for day passes and then a cab back and forth to the resort.  The one guest is also a groomsmen who at the last min decided it was too much and didn't book with our resort/group.  They are going to be missing out on all the other events as well which is kind of a bummer.   

I hired him too you can find him under vendors as disco movil.

He's super nice and responds quickly. His prices are great too.

When I asked if I was allowed to use the photography included in my package for another event because I was bringing in my own photographer I was told no and they wouldnt budge. But then again depending on who you talk to you might get a different answer.

It sounds to me like he is looking for attention. If he always has to be convinced to actually get there, but does have a good time one he is, it sounds to me like he wants everyone to reassure him that they want him there, or the attention from everyone trying to convince him. Older people can be quite set in their ways. My MIL is sort of like that. Trying to get her out of the house sometimes is like pulling teeth! Yes - she's a home body but once you convince her to get somewhere, she enjoys it. She doesn't even do her shopping. She lets my FIL do it. She likes to just stay at home. And that's what she says too - she just doesn't "feel" like going.

 

Just think how it would feel to you if a whole lot of people were all over you trying to get you to go somewhere. Wouldn't you feel special? Sounds to me like your FFIL enjoys the chase of getting him to go somewhere. But hey - if that's what it takes, go for it. If none of the attention has been focussed around him during all the planning, that may be why he up and decided he didn't want to go.

 

I would check with your airline. If you absolutely can't get him to go, sometimes if you have to cancel a ticket it can be used for future travel. May be worth looking into.

 

Good luck!

I agree with everything you wrote, he actually ends up having a good time when you finally get him to go somewhere and yes he does love the attention.  The part that really gets me mad where I don't want to deal with him is he didn't even apologize for deciding not to come.  He just says I don't "feel" like it and end of story the least he could do was say i'm sorry I'm going to miss it and sorry for the hassle with the ticket but again nothing because everyone just takes his behavior and looks the other way.  I tried calling United to see what I can do with the ticket we already paid for but its a loss its a non refundable/ non transferable ticket.  I can cancel the trip and then get a credit for it but the credit can only be used by him since its in his name and but he will never use it.  I feel like asking him to reimburse us but I'll let my fiance handle this with his father.  Sucks to let a flight go to waste when I have family who could use the help I would have gladly given them the ticket.  

Actually I've always told my fiance his father is too paranoid and he agrees but that's his father and we learn to deal with it and adapt.  But now that seems to be the problem no one has ever really addressed the issue with him.  Our wedding is going to be small and mostly family so he's going to be in good company and it should be a relaxed experience for him but he still just doesn't "feel" like going.  This is just one less thing I needed to worry about while I'm still planning the wedding.  My fiance and his mom are angry at him but at this point what can we do he is who he is.  Just wish it were different. 

I'm not a doctor but I don't think its anxiety he's flown before, has traveled all over the world and went on a cruise last year with his wife.  He's fine in social settings when he does go out its just the convincing him to actually do it.  He also went to his brother's wedding 2 years ago with no problem I mean there is always the initial having to talk him into doing something before he finally agrees to go so when we talked about him coming he was all for it hence why went ahead and bought the tickets. Its just now that he decided so last minute that he doesn't feel like going he can be very paranoid at times but that's more just his personality.  Up until last week he was ok with going and now he says just doesn't feel like going like that is a good enough excuse.

I actually have  great relationship with his father too we get along great but its always a struggle to get him to do stuff.  Sometimes its like convincing a kid we have to talk it up or give him something special just for joining us.  I don't know its just a little exhausting I guess I just don't get not wanting to be there if there is no real issue holding you back.    

Well my biggest fear for my fiance is coming true his father refuses to come to our wedding.  Let me just preface this with he is a tough man to get out of the house so when we started to plan our wedding we knew he was going to be a struggle to convince.  We have been planning our wedding for almost 2 years so he's had a long time to think about the trip and get himself ready for the trip but just today he sprung it on my fiance that he will not be going.  As our gift to his parents we purchased their flights and are paying a night stay for them so the trip is not costing them too much but that's not even the issue his father just doesn't want to go.  His father is a hermit and its hard to get him to even go out to dinner at times but we never thought he would go as far as to decide just flat out say no I don't feel like going to your wedding.  He does have health issues but its because he smokes and has all his life but its not any issue that will deter him from going he even went to the doctors and was cleared.  I just don't think he cares and doesn't want to go and that's the end of it for him.  So now we are stuck with his plane ticket and now his mother has no one to room with and we have to scramble to figure out who she can go with.  I feel bad because not only is he ruining it for my fiance he is ruining it for his wife my fiance's mother now she will be alone the whole weekend and will not not be able to share this with her husband like they both should. I'm so angry right now because this isn't the first time he has done this he didn't go to my fiance's college graduation and then his police academy graduation I just dont' get it.  Me personally I don't have a relationship with my father we haven't spoke in years but he does have a relationship and does so much for him always and for his own father to just not want to be there really angers me.  Not sure what we are going to do now but we need to figure it out our wedding is 2 and 1/2 months away and the booking deadline for our rooms is in 10 days so not too much time.  I hope he changes his mind and he sees just how hurtful he is being to his son and his wife but i'm afraid that they let him slide on missing so many important things in the past that he figures they'll get over it like every other time. Now we are out $500 for his ticket and I wish I could just give it to another family member who actually wants to come and could use the help but not sure our airline will let us transfer the ticket. Sorry for the long post but I just can't believe he sprung this up on us today.  

I did my engagement photos in Playa Del Carmen and the area was beautiful.  The beach was great and they had the lush plant/tree areas with ruins near by then you can go to the streets and get good urban shots.  You can see my engagement photos if you go to my page.  

http://www.cameta.com/Fujifilm-Instax-Mini-8-Instant-Film-Camera-White-80675.cfm here's the link.

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I just bought the fuji instax mini it was a bundle with bag, cleaner, film and shipping for $99. I'm going to use it this weekend at my bridal shower. We are setting up a diy photo booth. The pics I've taken so far with the camera were good. I also plan on bringing it to cancun for my wedding and do a diy photobooth at the reception.

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@@LINDS2014 your pictures look amazing!! I can't wait to hear all about your wedding and see your video and more pictures.  I'm getting more and more excited about mine now.  Congrats to you and your new husband!!!  

@@TinkerSofi Uh its kind of annoying that no one reads any of the emails or invitation information.  I have all my booking info on my wedding website, save the date and my invitations and we still get texts or questions on how/where to book and when the deadline is.  Our deadline to book is a month from today and there are still a handful of people who said they were coming that haven't booked and I know its because they haven't looked at the deadline or our information and think that they have until right before the wedding to book. I don't want to confront them about booking but it would be nice if they looked at the information we gave them a year ago and then again a couple months ago so they know that they only have until July 10th,  I don't get it. lol I'm different I guess, I read everything and book and rsvp right away but that's just me.   

If you want rent a dress there's renttherunway.com you can find a white dress that you could use a as a bridal dress.  Also there are some affordable dress options like getting a bridesmaids dress in white.  I have 2 dresses one for my church ceremony at home and one for Mexico and the second dress I bought in Macys off the rack it is perfect and I only paid $140.00 for it.   

I'm Ecuadorian and my fiance is Italian and Guatemalan and we are getting married in Mexico.  There will be a lot of spanish influence in our wedding and plenty of spanish music. lol 

Any LeBlanc brides out there??  @@LINDS2014 how was your wedding?? I hope it was great.  Share pics and reviews when you can!  I'm planning all the little details for my wedding now and its a little overwhelming.  Only a little over 3 months left to go. 

I'm planning on doing a diy photobooth at my reception.  At first I considered booking the company my resort uses but it would be around $600 or 2 hours and I just couldn't add that cost on top of everything else.  I just bought a Instamax camera the other day and its basically like a polaroid that takes instant pictures.  I bought it as a bundle for $100 and it came with camera, 2 packs of film, carrying case, rechargeable batteries and i think a cleaning kit you can also get the film cheap on amazon.  As for props i'm going to make some with cardstock and buy some fun stuff we can use like boas and masks.  I found a cute laser cut wood frame from Michaels really cheap and spray painted it gold its light weight so it'll be easy to travel with. I plan on just setting up a table on the side and letting people take pics as they please and putting a book so they can leave us messages with their photos I just need to make sure to buy enough instant film.  I was going to use my ipad and do the tripod thing and then set up a printer but seemed like more trouble the instax camera is simple and lightweight to bring with me to Mexico.  I'm actually going to test it out at my bridal shower at the end of this month to see how my guests like it.   

I just wanted to share my welcome bags and give you a breakdown on the price. I found the image/logo inspiration online and had my graphic artist brother in law replicate it as best he could.  He did a great job and loved the way it came out.  Then I bought iron on transfer paper at michaels I bought 4 packs that came with 10 sheets so a total of 40 sheets.  I found my bags online at bagiva.com for a great price and they are very good quality and a great size for a beach bag.  Here is the link https://www.bagiva.com/100-Cotton-Economical-Tote-Bag.html.  Then I just printed the image on my transfer paper on my home printer and ironed it on the canvas bag and done.  They came out great and I saved some money doing the bags myself.

Michaels Transfer Paper 4 packs of 10 = $29.97 (I used a 25% off coupon each pack was $9.99)

40 Canvas Tote bags from Bagiva with shipping = $48.75 (they sent me 3 extra bags)

Total for 40 bags = $78.72 so $1.97 for each bag

I saw some bags on etsy going for $4 to $10 a bag so if you want to save some money definitely go the DIY route it was very simple.

Another tip I bought aloe vera travel size at Harmons and used $5 off coupons I was able to use 3 coupons on my order. I bought 40 aloe vera bottles, 40 packets of tissues, 40 shout wipe packets and 40 wet naps for 58 bucks. Need to go back with more coupons to get bandaids, sunblock, chapstick, and Tylenol.

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I know this is an old post but are you still selling this camera??

This is a great site....thanks!!