NJBride2014

Need to convince my fiance that we should do a TTD shoot.  I have a year to convince him, wish me luck.  

Originally Posted by STemple 

 

 

She definitely needs a good workout everyday to burn off that energy lol but she's the most cuddliest dog ever, when sleeping she has to be curled up beside you as glide as she can possibly get lol

Yeah my dog does the same thing he sleeps right in between my legs its so funny and if I dare to move he gets a little annoyed like i'm in his space.  Crazy dogs. lol

This is the perfect thread for me... I was wondering about using a travel agent or not using one... About to start from page 1 now.. Thanking you guys in advance....

I would recommend using a travel agent. Makes booking for your guests easier and they can field all the questions and concerns. Saves you time and a headache. Also they can pay in payments throughout the year instead of all upfront which helps your guests out.

My Boston terrier jack Russell mix - Maxine Absolutely love her!

What a cutie I love terriers they are so smart. They can be a handful with all their energy but so loveable.

I used the Knot.com and it was simple and free. Here is my site http://www.theknot.com/wedding/David-Sandy. 

Originally Posted by Cowtowngal 

 

 

We will all be coming from Canada, and the 1week AI prices for flight and accommodations run somewhere around $1500-$1800 for the week, so, if it's any consolation, your prices are very reasonable from where you are! I figure, if the guests really want to be there, they will make efforts to do so. Those that cannot, well, we'll miss your faces on our special day, but no hard feelings, we'll show ya pics when we come home

 

I'm with you if you can't make it no hard feelings but the bride and groom will still have a blast.  They can enjoy all the great pics!! 

Originally Posted by Cowtowngal 

 

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Thank you for the review! I've recently sent a message to a WC locally to help me sort through things. I figured might be nice to have some help!

What we paid to go for a week with flight was about $1,000.00 that included transfers but your guests could stay 3 nights 4days and it would be much cheaper which isnt' too bad for an all inclusive.  I wish the resort we picked in Cancun had these prices but we fell in love with much more expensive resort hopefully some people actually come if not it'll just be me and my groom. Good luck on picking your resort.  P.S. I think i have some pics of the wedding when they were setting up I can upload them so you have an idea of what it would look like.

Here are two pics of my doggie Linus he is a terrier mix and we got him almost two years ago as a rescue puppy.  He has come a long way and my fiance and I love him so much.  Sad we can't take him with us to Cancun but i'll definately be doing the dog cardboard cut out so we can incorporate him in some pictures.  I'll also think of other ways to include him.  I swear if our hotel allowed it my fiance wouldn't hesitate to have him there. lol

 

    

 

Thanks for the tip Loreal30 will check out the website and please let us know what you think of their quality when you get the cut out. 

 

• Gorgeous pets everyone!

 

Just thought I would let everyone know that today I ordered a life-size cut out of my dog from Party Standup (www.partystandups.com). They seemed to be the most reasonably priced. I'll post when it arrives, I'm so excited!!

 

I just got back from a week vacation at the Melia Cabo Real its a very nice resort.  The grounds are well kept and the service is pretty good.  Actually saw them setting up for wedding and reception on the beach it was very nice. 

Originally Posted by cmingalone 

 

Just got it one week ago!

 

Gorgeous ring!  Like the uniqueness of it your fiance did a great job. 

Such good information and advice keep them coming.

Originally Posted by Krystal084 

 

I really feel for you!  It honestly does sound like you are way more invested in the friendship than she is.

 

My wedding is less than a month and a half away and my "unresponsive bridesmaid" has not only slyly backed out of the wedding using excuse after excuse, but she has been 110% uninterested and uninvolved in my shower and bachelorette party.  Every time I have asked her point blank, she just gives excuse after excuse.  My shower is this weekend and she never RSVPed and texted me the longest excuse ever after I asked her what was going on- she never even gave me a yes or no answer, so I've cut my losses. I don't need to wear myself down by trying to prove myself to someone who couldnt care less.

 

I would take a step back and look at it from a broader perspective. I bet you she treats other people this way as well. I believe in karma and know these people will regret acting this way to others, but by then it will be too late. It might also be easier for me since she lives in another state.

 

If I were you, I would give her an opportunity so she can't say you didnt ask her, but just assume that she will have nothing to do with it.  Attend her wedding of course, but I wouldnt go out of my way for her anymore. It's just hurting you more in the end. It is what it is!

 

Also with your destination wedding, I said the SAME EXACT thing about giving people almost 2 years notice to save.  It doesn't matter in the end, because some people are just not good with money management.  People will go who you never expected, and the people who you thought were definites will back out.  Just a week ago, my two friends who do hair and make-up backed out. Have a backup plan for everything and expect nothing from anyone!  I know that sounds bitter, but it's actually helped me from feeling so hurt when I get next to nothing from all these friends who I've gone out of my way for in the past...

 

Thanks for the advice I sent the gift and card today so lets see how she handles it.  I'm hoping for the best but prepared for the worst we'll see how this goes.  As for people backing out and dissapointing you i'm prepared for that too like you said plan for everything and expect nothing from anyone.  It just sucks when you thought you had a good friend but turns out they just don't care.  Good luck with the rest of your wedding planning and may everything run smoothly.

Originally Posted by Jeanetta H 

 

This is a great thread! I am in the process of planning a DW and we have changed our resort due to comments on price from people. We are still getting negative comments. My fiances cousin even went so far as to call another travel agent and try to arrange for a cheaper trip and then proceeded to tell other people that she can get the trip cheaper. I just cannot get over some peoples behaviour. We are still waiting on people to book.....including people in our wedding party! Its stressing me out. I told my bridesmaids to chose a dress they felt great in as long as it is in the color i want and knee length and flowy. Not one of them have a dress yet. And when I send group messages about dress shopping or how everyone is comin along finding a dress I either dont hear back or they havent found anything. So frustrating. I could have picked one and said they had to buy it but I was trying to be nice. I am so happy we have this forum to vent. I dont want to complain too much to other people because I dont want to be a bridezilla. I have also found that everyone was soo excited about the engagment and wedding....now nobody talks to me about it or asks how the planning is coming along. I thought this was supposed to be a memorable and exciting experience. Honestly I feel like other people will always ruin it for you so make it about yourself!!!

Wow some people know no boundaries can't believe that your fiances cousin called another travel agent.  You were nice enough to even change your venue which is a big sacrifice because I'm sure you loved the one you picked in the first place that's why you picked it.  I'm getting comments about the prices too but I'm not moving to another resort because then they will find something wrong with that one. Sometimes you need to tune the comments out and just do whats right for you and your fiance.  You can compromise a little bit but if you change everything to accomdate people who probably wont' come no matter what then your wedding is no longer your wedding.  Good luck to you and you are right this is stressful but in the end it'll be great and you will be married.   

Originally Posted by AmandaPadilla 

 

Things I learned: Don't try to over plan activities for guests, they will appreciate the time you give them, but they also understand that you have other things to do. Give OOT bags, all of my guests loved them and used them all week long, it gave the wedding trip a special touch. If you are not using a DJ, download the Wedding DJ app, it is super simple, you plan all of your own music, and it is nearly impossible to mess it up! Be careful of tan lines until after the wedding, they don't look very good in wedding photos! If you are not using a professional videographer, check out WeddingMix http://www.storymixmedia.com/weddings/ they send cameras, you and your guest record and send it back in, and they arrange it into a beautiful video for you (I will post when it is finished!). Don't even try shoes on the sand! I brought 2 different wedding shoes (wedges for sand and heels for party) and wore them only for photos and went barefoot the whole day... 

Great tips!! I'm going to have to check out WeddingMix. 

Originally Posted by Kate G 

 

Just got married in May and have learned a lot through the process!

 

- I definitely agree with those that said people you thought would be there won't --- hardly any of my extended family came to my wedding and it was really hard. BUT I can honestly say on the day of the wedding, I wasn't thinking of any of them

- Don't expect things to go entirely smoothly the day of; they probably won't...but it's okay!

- Friendships might be challenged and you may feel that you aren't being made to feel as special for your wedding because a lot of people can't come, so they act like they don't care that much.

- SPRING FOR GOOD PHOTOGRAPHY. I can't stress enough how important this is. We hired a photographer from my home state and flew him to Mexico, but it was worth every penny. Same goes for video. The photographer and videographer gave us priceless works of art that we will have for the rest of our lives...we could have saved a lot using the vendors at the resort, but to us, it was so worth it to spring for the good stuff! Here's our wedding film: http://vimeo.com/70227492

- You will most likely have to hunt people down for their RSVPs!

Congrats Kate! Your video was so beautiful and moving I loved the emotion you both had on your special day.  Your dress was also so whimsical you looked gorgeous.  I might have to steal some of your decorations I got some really good ideas. 

Originally Posted by Lori Granados 

 

Hi NJBride2014!!

 

We have a few things in common! I'm from NJ and also getting married next year! My STD are also from Magnet Street lol. I totally agree with you, they were super easy to design and very inexpensive! I haven't ordered mine yet but I got a sample one and I looved it! I'll be ordering the rest in a few weeks. I think I will be printing addresses on clear labels. As far as the stamps try Zazzle.com you can costumize your stamps. I'm planning to get a life size cut out of my dog to incorporate him in the wedding. My FI doesn't know about so it will be a complete surprise to see our dog at the wedding!

 

Happy Planning!

 

Hi Lori, 

 

I see we do have a few things in common.  It's funny that you mention the dog cut out, my fiance and I saw it on Del Sol Photography site and we also wanted to order one to use for our engagement pics that we are taking in Mexico in Oct. at our site visit.  Have you found a website where you can order one?  I've been looking and haven't really found a good site.  My fiance is obsessed with our dog so any way we can include him we are all for it.  I loved working with Magnet Street and the samples were great to see in person and the discounts they gave were great.  Thanks for the advice on the stamps i'll try looking at zazzle.com and see if I can come up with something cute.  Good luck to you on the wedding planning and I'm sure your FI will love the surprise!

I researched for a long time to find the best website to order our STDs and Magnetstreet was the easiest, best quality and most affordable.  I finally received my STDs yesterday and they came out so good I can't wait to start putting them together and mail them out.  I wanted to give my guests over a year notice so that's why I'm sending them so early.  I'm not sure what to do about addressing them though labels, print directly on the envelope or hand write the names and addresses?  Also i'm thinking of doing some fun stamps with our dogs picture on it to include him somehow since he won't be at our wedding.  I need to figure that part out.

 Any feedback would be appreciated.  

 

 

   

 

  

 

I love this show I can watch it for hours.  My fiance likes it too even though he tries to say he doesn't he'll still sits down with me and watches it. lol

I do not have my dress yet but I do love Maggie Sottero dresses there's something so elegant about them.  These are my favorites they are completely different styles but so beautiful.  Hopefully I can try them on really soon. 

 

 

Our budget is 15K so far we are sticking to it and coming under budget with some of our must haves.  The number one budget buster is definitely our photography but that was a very important aspect of the wedding to us so we splurged.  I hope we can stick to our budget in the next year. 

Hi, just wanted to share the small gifts and cards we gave to our bridesmaids and groomsmen.  They loved the extra thought and appreciated it.  It was nice to personalize and make it special for each person.

 

 

 

Originally Posted by Krystal084 

 

I am writing because I need some advice on what to do..  One of my friends from college who I used to be very close to is one of my bridesmaids for my Jamaica wedding and I am getting the feeling that she is going to drop out soon.

 

We live a few hours away from each other and after college I was always visiting her for the weekends, for her birthdays, etc.  I was there for her birthday 3 years in a row, her housewarming and engagement party. I think she visited me once in the span of 4 years, so I eventually stopped going to see her.  Since then, I was in her wedding a year ago, and did everything a bridesmaid promises to do when she agrees to be a BM.

 

Now she is pregnant and will be due 3 months before my wedding and she has indicated to me that she may not be able to make my wedding in Jamaica.  I have asked around because I wasn't sure if I should still expect her to come 3 months postpartum, but everyone I asked has said that is more than enough time to recuperate.  She has a supportive husband and family that could even watch the baby even if she wanted to get away for 2-3 days.. 

 

Ever since my MOH has started the planning process for my wedding, this BM has been unresponsive and we've felt we've had to constantly stay on top of her for responses regarding shower or bachelorette dates that worked for her or not.  To be honest, I am just really hurt that I've tried to be such a good friend for so many years while she didnt put a whole lot of effort in- only to receive the same treatment for one of the most important days of my life...

 

So I am asking if you think that having a 3 month old baby is reason enough to not go to a destination wedding that you have known about for almost 2 years.. ?

Sorry this might be long.

 

So I'm kind of on the same boat with an unresponsive friend except it's a friend I've known for almost 29 years.  This friend lets call her "X" I've known since we were born and lived next door to each other.  I'm always the one to go out of my way to see her or make plans and lately its more clear that our friendship is more me making an effort then her.  We both got engaged around the same time and I took her out for her engagement and gave her a gift, for me I didn't even get a card.  Anyway I got over that but when the wedding planning began she started first and I guess I always assumed we would be in each others wedding.  Then she tells me she isn't having a wedding party which is fine I was a little upset but I understood and got over it.  I on the other hand am having a wedding party and would like to have her be a bridesmaid. So every time I would bring up the bridesmaids or my wedding in general she always changed the subject or didn't really seam excited for me.  Whenever she brings up her wedding I'm always supportive and give her my opinion I even went with her to pick out her wedding dress. She ended up going with the dress I loved the most on her.  I'm just so confused about the way she is acting right now with me I would have never thought she would be this way towards my wedding. This past weekend I asked my 3 sisters and anther close friend not "X" to be my bridesmaids with cute gifts and cards and they all said yes and were excited.  I have the card and gift for "X" but have yet to send it to her.  "X" told the mutual friend who said yes to being a bridesmaid that she wasn't sure if she could be my bridesmaid as she doesn't even think she'll go to my wedding.  This was a total surprise to me since I've been talking about a destination wedding for years and will be planning my wedding for almost 2.  My wedding is still over a year away so its plenty of time to save for it.  I guess whats bothering me the most is that when she first started planning her wedding she was thinking of doing it in Hawaii (we are from NJ) and I said to her tell me when and where and I'm there.  I didn't get quite the same reaction when I said we were getting married in Cancun.  I'm pretty sure she is going to say no so I'm not sure if I should even bother asking her to be a bridesmaid and that is upsetting me.  Should I still send her the gift and card and leave it up to her?  I just know how she is especially since her wedding is 2 months away I don't want to put more on her plate right now but I need to know how many girls I'm going to have so we can ask the groomsmen.  She is notorious for changing the subject and ignoring things so I figured if I ask and she ignores me that's my answer and I will probably have to confront her about and reevaluate our relationship.  I just don't want it to get to that point I thought this would be the easy part.   

Originally Posted by jennifer8913 

 

Congrats ladies!! I am not a jersey bride, but I am super close in Allentown, PA!!! Getting married in 30 days woo hoo in Punta Cana!!

Wow it's almost here. Congrats and enjoy every moment!!

Originally Posted by Lori Granados 

 

Woohoo!! I'm a Jersey bride too!!! I'm getting married July 2014 in Riviera Maya, Mexico!!

 

Originally Posted by borgesn 

 

I was born and raised in NJ but moved to Cali 2 years ago for work. If I hadn't I wouldn't have met FI but...there's no place like home! Getting married at the Barcelo Maya Palace July 12th 2014!

Congrats girls!!  Borgesn you know what they say you can take the girl out of jersey but you can't take jersey out of the girl. lol  Happy planning!! 

Originally Posted by LINDS2014 

 

Hi NJBride! We are getting married at Le Blanc on April 26, 2014 and currently flying home from our site visit. I will just say that I was in tears to leave this morning!! This hotel is BY FAR the best and you've made an amazing decision. We are dying to get married here & bring back all of our friends and family with us! I know of one other 2014 bride, Bruna, so we can all help each other out with the planning! Right now we are just in the process of negotiating group rates - ugh - the worst part!! I will say though that it was so helpful to see the resort in person... I changed a lot of our plans for ceremony, reception, etc after being there so let me know if you have any specific questions! xx

Hi Linds2014! Nice to see another Leblanc bride on here.  My fiance and I have been to Leblanc twice and loved it so much that we always said that when we get married it would definitely be there.  The last time we went was in 2011 so I know some things have changed I can't wait to go on our site visit in October.  Isn't the resort just so beautiful and relaxing??  I know what you mean about the group rates that defiantly was a stressful part when thinking about how much we were asking our guests to pay to come to our wedding.  I ended up going with a TA for our group rates as they were a little better than what LeBlanc quoted us directly.  I can't wait to visit again and plan all the little details.  When you went on the site visit did you get to meet with your wedding coordinator, try any food or meet with any vendors?  My fiance and I have so many ideas of how we want the wedding but I'm sure that can change at our site visit.  Are you going with the complimentary package?  We chose it for right now and might upgrade it later on but just wondering if you got to see what the complimentary package comes with.  Well happy planning and look forward to exchanging ideas and information.