Jenny2014

Our's will only be until 10:30 as well. Having been to the resort, we know we can go to the Desires Sport's lounge after with those who still want to party. Does make me sad that the party can't go on all night long, but I guess that is the downside to having a DW, your limited due to noise restrictions that you wouldn't get with a hall at home.

Ahhh, I think it's a good trait to have- set your goals super high, and even if you dont make it, you still went further than if you had set them lower For me, my measurement check will be when the corset can tye up all the way, and when it doesn't pull in the middle anymore. See, not very attractive, but when it just flows down, ohhh, the beauty of it Great job being down 5 lbs!!!!!!!!

Trust us, if your going for coffee here, your going to Tim Horton's. BEST coffee in Canada, but highly addictive. I swear, they do put crack in it. Or so the joke goes. And if you walk in and say you would like a double double, you would fit right in. I wish I could get rid of my craving for sweets. As long as I eat fruit, I can contain it, but for me, it's salt. I absolutely CRAVE salt- chips, crackers, popcorn, etc. So bad. Cannot seem to turn it down. Love fruit in water Definitely makes it a lot easier to drink more of, because there is a flavour to it!

Welcome to the BDW weight loss buddies club! So funny how I read this and knew absolutely everything you said. Gotta love being Canadian! Ahh, double doubles. Not so bad- FI used to drink extra large triple triples. Soooooo sweet. I drink pop too- not as bad as FI (who is a pepsi fanatic), but I will have about 5 or 6 for the week. At work all I drink is water, which is good. But i don't drink enough. And then at home I'll have a glass or two of wine, or a rum and coke/ beer/ yesterday i had a vodka and cranberry. I don't know why I am drinking so much- used to go weeks without drinking, now it's like every other night. Gotta stop that right now. Handle my stress better.

Oh, Amir (FH) and I have always tried to work out together. During university we managed to do it for a solid 4 months together. Now, we know it's just not possible. Our schedules are too different, and now that he is working downtown Toronto, and me out in Oakville (opposite ways from our apartment), it just isn't possible at all. The more we tried to work out schedules together, the more we found we were just preventing the other from going to the gym haha. So now he get's a major discount with his work for Goodlife, the two of us can join for $400/year, and go to any location. And with my work, I can get reimbursed back $350 of that, so for a year we pay $50 for the two of us to go to the gym. Kind of an awesome deal. So now he will go to the gym that is in his work building, and I will go to one on my way home Honestly, when I stepped on the scale for real after Christmas, and didn't try to shift my weight so the number was less, it brought tears to my eyes. I remember last spring, sitting down with my parents (they had a "happiness intervention"- thought Amir and I were having major issues and I was miserable. Turns out I was, but about how I felt about myself..... and they were majorly projecting their own lack of happiness onto me. My relationship was perfectly fine- and got better a few months later!). Anyways, I digress. When I sat down with them and said my highest weight was 185, that was the truth. So to see that I worked my ass off all summer for our vacation, got down to about 170, and then to balloon up to 192 in 4 short months, I was seriously crushed. I hated absolutely everything about me- it was soul crushing. And I had those vicious thoughts, of "how could he possibly want to marry someone so fat". It was wicked awful. Thank God I quickly got out of that mindset. Anyways, yes, so seeing my number be almost back down to 180, even dropped to 178 for a couple short weeks, it was a HUGE relief. And now, it is to keep it completely off! My absolute ultimate goal is to get down to about 120, as I am 5'4, and while it would make me skinny, I would be content being at 130, but having major muscle tone. I am fine with being weight loss buddies!!!! It's always nice to have the support, and I lost the weight from Christmas by being a part of the "Biggest Loser Challenge" on here. Didn't win, but at the end of it, I didn't care, as I was losing, and that's what counted to me! We should have like a weekly check in, to keep us on track and accountable I saw a meme on pinterest awhile back. It said somethign along the lines of "oh, what I wouldn't give to go back to 22 and be as fat as I thought I was then". Seriously, at 22, I had only put on maybe 25 pounds. I think I was sitting around 150, at the absolute max. Yeah, what I wouldn't give to be as fat as that right now haha. But c'est la vie!

Hey, From my experience with Eleane, it doesn't seem like they are negotiable on the price of the package. I think the only way you can forgo the cocktail hour is if you go with the Dreams Wedding in Paradise Package. Maybe then you could go with the reception in the Seaside Grill? With the basic package and the $200 for the seaside grill, your paying the same you would get for the Ultimate package, but no cocktail hour.....I don't know, it is a bit sucky that you can't change things around in the package- but like i am sure they would tell us, then just do a la carte if you want something here, or something there, but not this. ugh, I don't know how you are handling the expanding wedding guest list and still paying for it yourselves. I would absolutely refuse to budge if I was being told to do something I didn't want to do, and then also being forced to pay for it. I don't know, I guess that is the stubborn part of me, but there is no way someone could tell me I had to do something "for them", but then say "oh, but you have to pay for it". Nope, no way in any way I would do that. Cudos on you for doing that- I guess that is the bridezilla in me. LOL

I can't believe it is here already for you! CONGRATS!!!!!!! So close! Cannot wait to see how beautiful your day turns out to be! You will be an absolutely stunning bride and have the best time!

Good luck tomorrow! I am sure your hard work will pay off!

Agreed! My goal is to lose it and actually keep it off this time! I usually lose around 20 pounds by the end of the summer every year, but then by Christmas it is ALWAYS back on plus more. Hence, why i am now than maniac size I am now. So if I can get past the 20 pound mark, I will be really happy! My goal is around 50 pound as well (apparently I have no shame on these boards). I started off the beginning of the year around 192. I am now sitting at around 180 (give or take mother nature's monthly interference). Ideally, I would like to be down to 160 by the end of the summer, which gives me until around Christmas to get down to the 140/130 range I would like to be in. I want to get to my goal weight faster than necessary, so I can keep it off. If it is continually a slow, steady pace, I more than likely won't lose as much as I want. So my goal is to be at my goal weight by the end of the year. Which would mean essentially a 50-60 pound weight loss in one year! Yikes. Highest I have ever had to do, but man, what I wouldn't give to be 140 pounds right now! I completely agree! Wedding dress sizes should be bigger than normal, to make us all feel beautiful. Too bad the fashion industry doesn't give a crap about how we feel in our bodies, and just wants us to feel even worse, so we eat our feelings, and then have horrible guilt and buy a gym membership/ buy bigger fat clothes. Vicious circle.

I am normally a size 12, and the dress I bought was a 10 (sample sale). She said that it means I should try to find myself in the 6 to 8 size range, in order to wear the dress how it should be worn. Which means I have a year and a bit to fully fit myself into that dress. I plan on being down to at least a 10 by the summer, so it will actually do up. So far I have lost about 10 pounds (give or take some weeks) since Christmas. Not as fast as I would like, but I'm getting there. I know it was risky doing it, but I absolutely refuse to get married at the size that I currently am.

BEAUTIFUL Â Agreed! Just stunning

Oh this thread is currently settling my heart. After having the dreaded budget and guest list talk with the parents, our wedding is spiraling wickedly out of control, way off into the land of "did not ever, ever want but are now being forced to do so because of money". This makes me happy, because I can do this- I can organize, and I can make lists and to do's.

So an update on my wedding plans thus far. Finally sat down with the parents to discuss budget and guest list. We wanted to top out our invites at 40 people. And maybe have 30 show up, which we were fine with. Should have known that wouldn't work at all. Looks like we are inviting everyone (roughly 80 people), and hopefully only 40 show up. It upsets me a bit, because my nice intimate, close friends and family wedding, filled with lots of jokes and in-formalities, might be now a more formal, impressing our long lost cousins kind of affair. Our budget just got thrown way out into space. Trying to do this under 20 grand has now easily doubled. HOWEVER, I did impose that any of the guests our parents added to our list is ALL on them. So STD, invite, OOT bag, additional guest charge, and any extra costs that I now have to incur because of this much larger list, is all on them. I refuse to pay for people I didn't want to be there, and who I am now being forced to change my entire concept of my wedding for. Our TA is amazing, and his estimate of what a package will be from Toronto to PV, is already less than we anticipated. He is getting me quotes for everywhere our guests will be coming from, as well as double checking the dates for our wedding. In discussion with FI over the weekend, we have decided to forgo just renting the sound system, and will be hiring the DJ for the night. He doesn't want to put MC responsibilities on any of our friends, and just wants everyone to enjoy the night. Which I get and understand. It's only a couple hundred more, and in the grand scheme of things, that is NOTHING in comparison to all of our other costs now.

Hey! Congrats and welcome!!!! When do you think you will be getting married at Dreams? (2013? 2014?) I inquired about what a fee would be for Dreams to set up for me, and Eleane responded with $150 for them to set up. Honestly, that is nothing in comparison to the cost of their decorations, or the stress of putting it on yourself/ family member. When I saw that number I immediately thought "done!". I have sent my TA all of my emails with Dreams though, so he can work his magic on hopefully bringing down some of the costs of things, so I will keep everyone updated on whether Dreams is willing to reduce their pricing if pushed. I tried to inquire with Dazzling Details, as I did see some of their work. I never heard back from them, and I realized it was an expense I just didn't want/ need. I plan on using a lot of the natural environment, and just bringing my own decorations to spruce it up. I am excited to see how everyone's weddings go this year, as mine is still sooooooo far off. I cannot wait to get back to Dreams though. I know everyone will have the BEST time. !!!!

Welcome welcome!! Congrats on your engagement!!! So many of us are getting married in Mexico, so you are joining a great community for that. I hear on you on wanting to rush the months ahead, but there is so much to do in between!! The time will fly by!

Thank you! Wow, that is quick the situation- but completely amazing that you understand her perspective, and are willing to compromise. I know of someone in my life currently who would never do that- she would do it for her kids, but not for her FI's kids, which makes me incredibly sad when I hear her talk about his kids. We just wanted to stay the extra week, as we will be arriving over the weekend, and our wedding isn't until Thursday, so there won't be much relaxing time afterwards. Enjoy and best of luck to you as well!!!

These are fantastic! Subscribing to this post as inspiration!

Glad you were able to register for stuff that did come in handy! I do get the idea of sprucing up your place- registering for newer items that you already have that you wouldn't necessarily justify buying yourself when you need other things. We just decided not to go that route- especially since we know what we have now we will live with for a little while, and it is when we buy our first house, that is when we will upgrade all of our stuff (and we don't know when we will be able to do that). I debated back and forth on whether to do the honeymoon registry. I decided to ask for contributions for our honeymoon, as we would like to stay for an extra week after all the wedding festivities are done. But we also know this is an easy cut from our budget if we cannot afford it, so for those who want to contribute, this could be their way of helping. However, there are many options for ways in which they can contribute, so again, it's up to the person. It is such a tricky situation, but we know we won't make everyone happy. It's just about what works best for us.

It really is and it makes me sad. I have been so happy with my increased bustline since gaining weight. FI seems to enjoy it too. Just not the rest of me that got bigger along with it. and I really think that is where I have lost it, as well as the hips/thighs/waist. My grandma says she see's it in my face but I still see chub-chub face. We are completely and totally our worst critic. But the clothes don't lie- I can fit into pants I couldn't fit into before the new year, though they are still a bit tight (but with a lose shirt that is a bit longer, you cant tell). Cannot wait to get rid of my fat pants though. My work fat pants are almost too big now, very lose, so I'm thinking in the next month I will probably toss them, just so I have no excuse to fit into them ever again. But I want to make sure I fit into my other pants properly first. Ugh. Life of a fat kid.

I refused to create a regular registry. Even though I was getting so much pressure to create one, we have been living together for 8 years- we don't need anything, and if we do, we just buy it ourselves! So I created a honeymoon registry- http://www.honeyfund.com/wedding/amirandjenny I put a big disclaimer on our wedding website that there is absolutely no expectation of gifts, that people coming to our wedding was gift enough. But that this is being created for the sake of those who want to give us something/ cant come and want a way to provide a gift. I like that there is no cost to the guest if they choose to use a credit card to pay through paypal, that it is a cost to me. And that we can make it more applicable to our lives- donations to charities (as FI works for a not for profit), contributing to us buying a house (in this crazy expensive market), or helping us have a beautiful honeymoon.

1. How old are you? 28 2. At what age did you/will you get married? 29 3. Do you have children? not yet 4. Did you think you would marry the person you are with now? yes 5. Were you ever engaged or married to someone other than the person you are with now? no 6. Do you want a garden wedding, beach wedding, or the traditional church wedding? beach 7. Where did you/will you get married? Dreams Puerto Vallarta 8. First dance - classic waltz, slow and sexy, or fast and spicy? slow and sweet 9. How many guests did you/will you have? 40 (hopefully! Right now our invite list is looking around 75-80, so hoping many don't come as we wanted a small, intimate wedding, not a big show, but it is what it is now) 10. Do you want/did you have an extravagant wedding or a simple wedding? simple- goodness, I hope it will be simple...... 11. Vows - traditional or something you make up on your own? a mix of both- some traditional vows, with our own as well 12. How many layers of cake did you/will you have? whatever comes with the package- I think two layers? 13. Is/was your wedding/reception at a hotel? Does an AI resort count? 14. When did you/will you get married - sunrise, mid-day, sunset? sunset 15. Did you/will you have your reception outdoors or indoors? outdoors 16. Plan every detail down to the napkins or let someone else decide? I would like to say let someone else decide, but in the effort to keep costs down, I think it will be every detail 17. How did/will the bride enter? down stairs to the sand aisle 18. Song to walk down the aisle to: TBD 19. Song to make your exit: TBD 20. Will you/did you have a solemn ceremony or a light one? light 21. At what age did you think you would get married? 27-28, so I'm not that "far" off, though I had wanted to have a child by now.... 22. Who to invite - practically everyone or a select few? wanted it to be a select few- but now it's everyone 23. Wedding menu - fine dining or simply delicious? simply delicious 24. Champagne or red wine? Champagne and WHITE wine..... hate red wine, gives me a headache and makes me grumpy 25. Honeymoon right after the wedding, awhile after the wedding, or no honeymoon? Before, during and after the wedding! 26. Was your/will your honeymoon be at a place special to you both or somewhere brand new to you both? Same resort- we got engaged there on our 10 year dating anniversary, will get married there on our 12 year dating anniversary 27. Who will pay for the bills? we will, with some help from both sets of parents, wherever they can (not expectation of it though) 28. Living together: Not before marriage or absolutely before marriage? living together before is a must in my opinion- been living together for over 8 years now! 29. Anything else about marriage you'd like to say? though I know it won't change anything for us, I wanted just a little something to celebrate us as a couple. I wanted marriage to have the same name as our (future) children, and didn't want to simply legally change it- wanted a reason for it. Otherwise, I know, I know it won't change anything for us, but make us a family in name-only. We already are a family, but this just makes it official and saves the future headache of a quick wedding later on while I am pregnant haha. We are mostly just excited to be able to go on vacation with our closest family and friends, and experience PV with them, as our engagement week there has left us with sooo many memories- we can only imagine how beautiful, special and wonderful it will be with all our people surrounding us!