I can totally relate! It's nice to know that there are other brides out there dealing with the same issues. I've come to the realization, that everyone will have an opinion about something. The most frustrating part, is when people say they are going to come and then back out. At the end of the day, you gotta do what you guys want. I stopped worrying because the only person I really care about being there, is my fiancé. As much as I would love for all our family and friends to be there, I'd be perfectly happy if it was just the two of us because I still get to marry my best friend in paradise . It's definitely not too late to send out save the dates. The wedding website is great for getting info out there and answering the repetitive questions people have. We just switched to having a destination wedding a few weeks ago. People have an idea, but I never sent out save the dates because I just finally secured a wedding date. We are working with a travel agent and as of nov 6th, our guests have 90 days to put down their deposit to take advantage of our group rate. And I love that the guests deal directly with the travel agent. So, now I'm just gonna send out my passport invites in the next week because we're on a timeline. I've also set up a website which has all the info as well. Once you get something organized with a travel agent, you'll feel so much better. This is supposed to be an exciting time for you and it's too bad that people are trying to bring you down! I hope things get better. Keep us posted!!