Hello Sashakristine, Don't worry I was in the exact same position as you were! I upgraded a lot and decided to just a la carte everything and bring a lot of my own decorations which saved me a ton! I hired an outside photographer and videographer and brought my own gifts, chair sashes, linens, centerpieces and even brought my own bouquet. If you need any help please don't hesitate to reach out to me I know how stressful things can be and all the advice I got on this forum was really a big help for me. I posted pictures on this string if you scroll back a page or two you can see pictures from my wedding. My email is Jennifer.Lopez@mortechmfg.com