Okay, this is coming from a mother of the bride...I am getting the same response from a lot of people about my daughters DW and I just tell people that I think it's a great idea and that this is a great way to weed out the folks that would only be there because they feel obligated or are out for a free meal and drinks! You should see the looks on their faces! It totally shuts them up! I go on to say that we don't want anyone to feel obligated to go and that we only want the people there that truley want to be there. My daughter wants to be surrounded by those she loves and love her....not a bunch of people who didn't have anything better to do that night! Sorry if I sound bitchy, but I'm all for telling the truth...if they don't like it, oh well.